I chose to do my research paper on Intimacy and Distance in Relational Communication because I wanted to learn how communication is used when you are in an intimate relationship. The question I ask is “How does communication affect being in an intimate relationship?”. In the book it states that “People who report having satisfying intimate relationships have higher self-esteem, a stronger sense of identity, and greater feelings of control over their lives than those without close relationships.” (Looking Out, Looking In, Pg. 304) In that statement alone it kind of gives us an overview on what being in an intimate relationship can do. Webster defines Intimacy “close union, contact, association, or acquaintance.” We as people want to feel like …show more content…
I found this great article that explains the fears of intimacy really well and I just had to put this in my essay. “A working definition of the term, fear of intimacy, is as follows: an individual who has fears and problems being emotionally and physically close to another person.” There are warning signs when you have someone in your life that fears intimacy.
Warning sign number one: A Sketchy Relationship History: “A person struggling with a fear of intimacy will often have a difficult time committing to one person in a romantic relationship. As a result, their relational history is usually scattered at best, hallmarked by a lack of longer term romantic relationships. Some of become involved in open relationships because they are unable to emotionally and physically commit to one person.” This is probably the most obvious warning sign. It is also the key to the
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While this may sign may be difficult to reconcile in the context of fears of intimacy, it makes perfect sense.Relationship addicts by definition cling to the newness of a given romance during the honeymoon period. Once that period ends however, they often move on to someone new to replicate the feelings and emotions experienced during the previous relationship. It is the “high” of the honeymoon that causes them to jump from one dating experience or relationship experience to another.” I have met so many people in my life that are like this. They can have three relationships in a span of six months and I always thought it was absolutely ridiculous. Doing this research paper has helped me to figure out why these friends of mine do these certain
Universal statement: People truly shouldn't get into a very committed relationship especially a marriage early in a relation because there is a chance that that person might not be the one for you. Thesis statement: In the story “The Other Wife” by Colette, Alice and Marc see the Woman in white, his ex wife, at a restaurant, as they are leaving Alice realizes that Marc is very aggressive towards her and that she is very similar to Marc’s ex which eventually makes her question why she is married to him. Topic Statement #1: The way that Marc grabs Alice's arm when he’s nervous reveals that Marc is very aggressive. Body Support
In chapters 9 and 13 in “The Spirit of Intimacy” by Somé, she discusses how the Western society has constructed an illusion of romance. This illusion of romance is presented in our media such as television, movies, and social media. She believes that basing a relationship off of romance leads people to mask their true selves which eventually leads to issues in the relationships long term. By building a relationship based on a spiritual connection, it allows individuals to build their relationship from the bottom up, be honest with themselves as well as their partners, and helps people better understand their partners in order to have a happy and fulfilled relationship. Furthermore, Somé discusses homosexuality and how her village refers to gays and lesbians as the gatekeepers. They live on the edge of both the spiritual and the village world. The gatekeepers serve as mediators for men and women so they are able to better understand each other in their daily lives. There are two different groups of gatekeepers, one possess the ability to protects a limited number of gates including the elements such as water, earth, fire, mineral, and nature because they vibrate the energies of those gates. The second
For this paper, we will be talking about relational communications and Goffman’s terms. The definition of relational communication is “communication processes in personal relationships such as romantic, family, and friendships. We assess the role of communication in developing, maintaining, and dissolving relationships, how communication impacts partners and their relationships, and how to improve relational quality or individual well-being through communication. Recent topics examined include conflict mediation, relational standards, relational uncertainty in dating relationships, and communication environments in families” (n.d.). As it has said, it is about the relationships in our life. Goffman also stated that there was a front and
Intimacy-seeking are those that are mentally ill and delusional. These stalkers tries to establish affectionate and loving relationship with their victim who they believe had already reciprocated their emotion. They are the most relentless of stalkers.
... own childhood; no matter it are security and nurturing or abandonment and neglect, guidance and respect, or abuse and disdain. Not only the man becomes psychologically or physically abusive, but he is also aggressive towards his partner whenever he feels that his experience of rejection and consecutive disruption cannot be soothed by the defence that he mounted. Those people with a history of neglect or abuse, they usually not able to have confident in their partners whereby they perceive their partners as enemies instead of allies. These abusive relationships are often repeatable becoming more intense as if the man is riding on a rollercoaster ride. The rejection-abusive cycle is considered complete when the man felt he is not appreciated as his unrealistic expectation on relationships is not fulfilled - closeness and intimacy, in other words, further rejection.
...uring the adolescent years, teens create new relationships with their peers which pull them farther away from their parents. Depending on their attachment behavior, they may develop secure, anxious, or avoidant relationships. According to studies on attachment theory “anxious attachment style typically indicates an early first intercourse, more lifetime partners, more infidelity and took fewer sexual precautions. (Feeney, Peterson, Gallois, & Terry, 2000)” Avoidant-type teens did not have as risky behavior as anxious-type teens. It is clear that “anxious adolescents are preoccupied with seeking out closeness with others, it is not surprising that they would seek to please others through engaging in sexual behaviors, particularly those that are risky [for example] early sexual initiation, multiple sexual partners, and inconsistent condom use” (Paulk, & Zayac, 2013).
As people grow, a variety of relationships develop over time. Relationships with family, friends, and romantic partners are such examples of these diverse ties. Friendships in particular are affected by the following: the level of interaction involved, how communication between two friends is established, and contact, if they exist, between multiple circles of friends through one person. Some examples of these are friendship expectations, the stages of childhood friendship, and the stages of adult friendship.
...tionship. As with any relationship, marriage is no different. Each member of a marital dyad must have clearly defined, and understood communication between them. Satisfaction and stability in a marriage is achieved through communication and interaction between its members. A breakdown of interpersonal communication is positively related to dissatisfaction in a marriage.
The researchers reported a limitation in their study in regards to the focus in their data collection. They noted that their data pertains to amount of uncertainty reduction as opposed to feelings of intimacy.
17) Thantophobia- This guy must be very possessive, for this is the fear of losing someone you love. Charot!
“Most of our lives consist of socializing with others, beginning new relationships, and strengthening old ones. Love is all around us, embodied in three main categories. Each of these is experienced in a different way; each of these is approached in a different way (Lemon2x).” However, all of them share one common quality- they are not planned, unpredicted, and developed overtime. In addition, an intimate relationship is harder to develop. “Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together. It is a familiar and very close affective connection with another as a result of a bond that is formed through knowledge and experience of the other. Genuine intimacy in human relationships requires dialogue, transparency, vulnerability, and reciprocity (Wikipedia). A lot of people think intimacy is all about sex. Intimacy is connecting with someone of the same or different sex on levels that ignite sexual interactions. There are many possible reasons why some people are attracted to each other and form relationships. Some of these reasons are personality, physical looks, things in common, and differences. These three things are what a relationship is based upon, besides trust and other things such as attraction.
Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, support each other; organize our lives and make decisions; and it allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond and our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate.
“Relationships are what make up our world today, they shape the ways we see things and the way that we do things, relationships affect how we see the world today”. I believe supporting what your partner does, having a great sum of trust and showing your affections towards your partner is what will make a healthy relationship great.
How does 'sexuality' come into being, and what connections does it have with the changes that have affected personal life on a more general plane? In answering these questions, Anthony Giddens disputes many of the interpretations of the role of sexuality in our culture. The emergence of what he calls plastic sexuality, which is sexuality freed from its original relation of reproduction, is analyzed in terms of the long-term development of the modern social order and social influences of the last few decades. Giddens argues that the transformation of intimacy, in which women have played the major part, holds out the possibility of a society that is very traditional. "This book will appeal to a large general audience as well as being essential reading for those students in sociology and theory."(Manis 1)
Actually all these fears are just in our head. If you think about it, about 99% of people are too busy being concerned over the exact same things about themselves to pay attention to you. They’re just as scared as you are. The remaining 1% are people who recognize a relationship is built on way stronger values than specific words or things said/done during just 1 encounter. Even if there are people who do judge you on what you do/say, are these people you want to be friends with? I think not.