When becoming parents, adults take their childhood experiences, with their prior knowledge, and mix it together and hope for the best. When comparing the three styles of parenting, (Authoritarian, Authoritative, and Permissive) you can explain how these styles of parenting can negatively or positively affect children and how they affect the parenting styles the child might choose when they themselves become parents. For example, if a child had parents who were disconnected and failed to set boundaries or expectations, the child would then grow up and become the “Authoritarian parent”, who typically uses the infamous line “Because I said so” or uses techniques such as fear, threatening emotional or physical punishment, and withdrawing love …show more content…
An individualistic culture is a society that is characterized by individualism (Psychology Eighth Addition). This term is often used to describe western cultures such as the United States (Considered highly individualistic according to the Journal of Cross Cultural Psychology). “An individualistic society depends on group harmony and consensus” (Educational Portal). Therefore this supports my thesis because individualistic cultures encourage autonomy and independence that is given in authoritative parenting. Contrary to this society, the collectivistic culture is defined as orientations that stress the importance of cohesion within social groups and in some cases, the priority of group goals over individual goals.” (Psychology Eighth Edition). Collectivistic cultures are considered to be more traditional societies, such as China (Considered highly collectivistic according to the Journal of Cross Cultural Psychology). This culture belief opposes my thesis because the authoritarian parenting style is preferred in most of these societies and seems to be a successful choice of parenting. “For example, traits such as group harmony, respect for elders, interdependence, and conformity to parental expectations are viewed as signs of successful child socialization in collectivistic cultures”(Journal of cross cultural psychology 819). “Chinese …show more content…
So where is the balance? Studies show that using the authoritative style of parenting is most effective.“The authoritative parenting is most effective in transmitting values in individualist societies because, in these contexts, it is important for an individual to assert themselves and actively pursue their own wishes and needs” (Journal of Cross Cultural Psychology 203). The authoritative parent uses a combination of love and limits to help their children develop independence. When children grow up with authoritative parents, they learn how to properly utilize their own social skills such as discussions and conversations, while enabling them to listen and convey their thoughts effectively. These children also exhibit more emotional control and maturity. Furthermore, these children develop a higher self-esteem and have more confidence in themselves because of the nurturing and encouraging environment they live in. The firm, but loving, authoritative parenting style produces competent and creative children, because they are encouraged to follow what interests them most. “The child may argue and test the limits, but he is fundamentally satisfied with his relationship to his parents and does not revolt” (Baumrind 795). Balance is the key, therefore when you use the authoritative parenting style your children are less likely to disobey orders from their authority and the relationship between the parent
My reason for this is not only because the outcomes of the child are greatly positive but also it is the way I was raised and I am delighted about who I am, which is exactly how I would like my children to be. I want to raise my children to love themselves no matter what anyone says, I want them to treat people with respect even if the people are not respectful themselves. I want my children to be successful in life and with everything and anything they put their minds to. Authoritative parenting is the best way to raise a child in my eyes because the must learn that the world is not fair and the must work in order to be successful. My parents raised me this way and I am successful, pleased, liked by many teachers and peer. Having a debate with my parents and sometimes my friends is even healthy because in the real world not everyone is going to agree with you. I also want my children raised under the authoritative parenting style because they must know if you disobey there will be punishments but that does not mean I do not love them any less and they will be forgiven at times, because the authoritarian style of punishment does not necessary show that you love your child if you constantly beat them. The other styles of parenting seem un-human like to either let your child control you or to neglect your child into thinking they are unloved. My children will always be
Authoritative style remains high in all four domains. Authoritative parents’ use of appropriate discipline such as using time-out or mild punishment ensures their children’s independence along with children’s compliance with parental demands. Compare to children with any other parenting styles, children raised by authoritative parents have higher self-esteem, self confidence, and better grades in elementary school, high school, and college. They are also less likely to abuse alcohol or tobacco as adolescents. In general, children of the authoritative parenting style show more altruistic
A parent that is an authoritative shows the child love and support; but also wants to see them succeed in life. They give explanations to their child, it is not “because I said so” and that’s the end of the discussion. Like I mentioned before this is how my father parented me. He gave me examples and explanations on why I couldn’t do something, etc. The authoritative parenting style is how my older sister parents her son. I see all the positive effects that it has on him and I wish to parent that way as well.
90) describes people in collectivist cultures rely heavily on “in-groups which look after them in exchange for loyalty.” China and Japan are high power distance cultures. They have a hierarchical structure where societal movement is minimal. Hao (2015) describes collectivist cultures to place emphasis on “what is best for the social institutions that [an individual] belongs to over personal ambitions and goals.” Both Chinese and Japanese cultures are motivated and driven by success as seen by evidence on each countries emphasis on the importance of education (Country Comparison. n.d.). Long-term orientation allows both countries to prepare for the future and achieve long-term goals. While practical in their efforts they are “working to serve [future] generations” (Country Comparison. n.d.). Leisure time is not an emphasis in either culture and leads to “self-restraint and the emphasis on hard work and achievement” defining both China and Japan as restrained cultures (Hao,
Parenting styles are very diverse and you can come across many depending on the parent. Raising a child can be very challenging and a huge responsibility on the parent, because many people often question what goes on in the child’s home. It is also often said that what a child is experiencing or learning in their home is how they will behave in public. The style of parenting can affect how the child socialize with others and even how well they are able to deal with life situations as they get older. There are four different parenting styles that are often used today, authoritative, neglectful, permissive, and authoritarian. Diana Baumrind, a psychologist who conducted research on parenting styles. Baumrind, came up with three of the four parenting
The authoritative style is known as the “ideal” parenting style and it seems to make more children come out with high ranks of self-reliance and self-esteem, who are socially accountable, liberated, and achievement-oriented according to Education .com. Authoritative parents set clear expectations and have high principles. They keep an eye on their children’s behavior, use discipline grounded on reasoning, and inspire their children to make choices and learn from their mistakes. They are also warm and nurturing parents, giving their children kindness, respect, and affection (Greenwood, 2014). These parents supply firm and constant guidance, united with love and affection (Coon & Mittterer...
The difference that authoritative parenting has over every other parenting style is that it has both responsiveness and structure. Parents that typically show this type of parenting act as teacher or counselors guiding their children on the right path. They are warm and approachable, but still, enforce structure and have high expectations for their children. These parents give their children opportunities to earn freedoms and are more trust based. These parents are typically involved in their children’s lives, but not overly involved because they know there is a difference between parent and child. Children that grow up in the authoritative parenting lifestyle are more successful in school, have a higher self-esteem, good social skills and overall researchers have found these kids to be happier and more productive than under any other parenting style. These families are supportive and loving. I feel that my family is a good example of authoritative parenting because they always pushed me to perform my best in my grades and soccer that opened up pathways for me to be successful and go on the peruse an academic and athletic career in college. My parents allowed me freedom by earning their trust. They have guided and molded me into the person I am today by being loving, nurturing and pushing me to be my
With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well each style has its own advantages such as; acceptance by peers with commonality. Child rearing for most parents is an evolving set of skills. It could be said that, with any style of parenting, there is no explicit set of rules for every situation, and what works for one child may not be effective for another.
The way individuals interact with each other is different, especially in among family members. In the Ivory Coast, family has a major importance in individual’s life. Indeed, Individuals have a strong connection with both nuclear and extended families, and a strong solidarity and brotherhood exist between family members. Poor families often live on the same roof with both nuclear and extended families. Also at a certain age teenagers tend to make the decision to abandon school to find a job in order to help their family. In “Individualism vs Collectivism” Rudenstam agrees that in a collectivist culture, individuals are more likely to pursue work, over study when his or her family is in a financially difficult situation. This means that, the family interest and well-being prevails. On the other hand, in the United States, family is also important, yet, the importance does not go beyond the scope of the traditional nuclear family. Indeed, individuals are more connected to their nuclear family. In “Individualism vs Collectivism” Rudenstam informs that “a more individualistic individual would be more likely to consider personal implications of studying or working to a greater extent and not actively look for the potential risk to the family just as much”. It is apparent that in a situation where a family is in a financially difficult situation, the individualist
The first type of parenting style is called authoritarian. In this parenting style the parents are the boss. They make strict rules and they enforce them. They focus more on restrictions than a loving relationship with their child. They believe it is their job as parents to catch their children being bad and punish them. These parents use external control on their children instead of taking time to tell the kid what they did wrong and why they should not do it again. Something these parents do not realize is that they do not catch their kids being good. Authoritarian parents are firm and unsympathetic. Authoritarian parents love to use discipline.
Each different parenting style each comes with pros and cons. In regards to parenting, there is never a wrong or right answer because every child and circumstances are different when it comes to the importance of the positive and negative effects. But each style comes with its effects on children. A few pros about Authoritarian parents are that their...
The most common role model of someone’s life being parents. There are many different styles of parenting they including authoritarian, authoritative and permissive. Authoritarian parenting forces children to follow strict rules and manifest blind submission. They are often overprotective and discourage pro-social activity. Many, not all, value strict discipline and may be physically or verbally abusive.
Culture forms the framework for our thoughts and behavior and is defined as sets of values and principles individuals have about how nature and society work, as well as the norms of behavior, derived from that set of values (Gorodnichenko & Roland, 2014). According to Heine (2012), cultures that are individualistic include a variety of customs that encourage individuals to place their own personal goals ahead of those of the collective. In contrast, cultures that are collectivistic include many cultural practices, institutions, and customs that encourage individuals to place more emphasis on collective goals. Furthermore, the dimensions of collectivism and individualism help us to understand cultural differences in a wide variety of psychological
Authoritative parenting has a stronger positive outcome due to the balance maintained within the structure of this parenting style. According to developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind, “Authoritative parents are firm, setting limits for their children. As the children get older, these parents try to reason and explain things to them. They also set clear goals and encourage their children's independence,” (Baumrind 2005). For example, a young boy wants to play video games all day and the parent decides this is unwise. It is a nice day outside and the parent wants him to go out and play. An authoritative approach would be to sit down with the child and explain the positives of playing outside rather than the negatives of playing video games. The parent would appeal to the child's interests in order to engage the child in effective parenting. The child would then be able to see the positive side of the decision rather than just the negative consequences.
Diana Baurmind and Alfred Adler have similar categories of parenting styles. Authoritative parenting can be compared to democratic and encouraging. Both of these styles offer love and security of the child. They express the parent is in control, but the parent also respect their child with explaining parental actions in a positive way. Permissive parenting can be compared to over-submissive parenting style. The child is rude, and demanding. The parent usually accepts the child’s behavior. In my opinion, the parent does not want to upset the child, or bother with correcting the behavior, so they will give in by rewarding the child in order to correct the child’s behavior. Authoritarian parenting can be compared to over-coercive parenting. These parents are very strict with children. My father can be compared to this parenting style. There was no reasoning, no communication, and his actions were final. This kind of parenting reminds me of being in the military. Finally, uninvolved parenting can be compared to neglecting parenting. I almost wanted to compare uninvolved to rejecting, but I cannot necessarily say the parent has denied acceptance. The parent is selfish, and does not even provide the bare minimum for their child’s necessities. I can compare this type of parenting from a 16 year old mother from the show Teen Mom’s. Jenelle had her son Andrew at a very young age. After his birth, she was distance and cared more about partying. Her