Carrying a Basket
Any parent or educator who works with young children knows that when there is a group of children together, there is bound to be disagreements. Just like physical skills such as walking, jumping and running, young children need to learn social skills like how to express their feelings, negotiate with others and show empathy (Porter, 2008a). And, just like learning to walk, children will inevitably “fall down” many times before they become confident using these new skills. In the Videative clip “Carrying a Basket” (Curtin University Library Videatives Streaming Service, n. d.), a group of children aged 4 years old are returning a basket to the school’s kitchen. The children meet an obstacle when they cannot agree on who
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According to Hendrick and Weissman (2010) there are 5 steps to conflict resolution. The first step is establishing a sense of calm. The educator achieves this by crouching down so that she is at the same level as the children and speaking in a calm manner. She does not single out children or make accusations, even when she is told that one child pushed another child out of the way. The next step is determining what the conflict is about and conveying that each child will be able to help find the solution. The educator facilitates this by asking the children for details about the conflict. She asks “What happened? And then what happened? Which side were you holding?” The educator allows each child to tell their version of what happened, and clarifies the details as they go. She asks “Max did you see what happened?” She also asks the children how they think Jacob felt when his hands were pushed off the basket. Once the problem has been identified, the next step is to ask for solutions. The educator asks “How can we get this basket back to the kitchen where it needs to go?” The children then offer solutions to the problem. When solutions are offered, the educator asks if the other children agree and continues until all of them are happy with the solution. The educator does not give the answer to children, but keeps asking questions until children can find a solution for themselves. This ensures the children have autonomy in their decisions (Porter, 2008b). They decide on the solutions because they feel it is fair, not because the educator tells them it is fair. This will enable children to internalise their locus of causality, ensuring that in the future, they will make the decision to behave ethically because they believe it is the right thing to do, not for fear of punishment or in order to earn favour or rewards from adults (Woolfolk &
5.Battles. “Don’t get involved in battles.” (Mayo Clinic) Let them settle their own differences and encourage them to cooperatively and creatively resolve disputes. Brennan says, “If you must intervene, do so if and when you fear a child is in danger or hurt.” (WebMD) Early intervention doesn’t give them a chance to handle conflicts themselves. Prior to any kind of intervention or discussions about disagreements, it's a good idea to separate the children and allow for a cool-off
...lict, misunderstandings and even hostility can occur for children, families, and teachers” (Garris, 2006, p. 5). Families’ rules sometime create a dilemma for the children. Children are not able to distinguish which is right or wrong.
There are many key components to shaping a young child 's life and could be better implemented through professionalism. I like to reflect back to the “Children See Children Do” video, which clearly proves children imitate/learn verbal and nonverbal cues from adults. As a teacher, it is necessary to be the best version of yourself everyday, in order to pass those actions along. This not only affects a child 's ethics but it also generates better behavior which affects the parents lives in a more positive way outside of the classroom. This module has taught me many different techniques when working with a misbehaved child. For instance, I plan to use self awareness in my classroom to keep a positive tone and eliminate poor body language. I will also use breathing methods for children as well as myself to establish a well-rounded classroom. Professionalism is such an important role in shaping our young child 's lives and it deserves to be stressed more which will in turn create a better learning
I observed an interaction between a 35-year-old mother and her 5-year-old daughter. I focused on how easily the mother was able to drop her off at the preschool, how willing her daughter was to explore with and without her, and how they greeted one another upon the mother’s return. The mother was holding her daughter in her arms as they entered the classroom. She set her daughter down, and they both went to the bathroom to follow the classroom routine of washing their hands before starting any activities. When the two were finished, the daughter took her mother’s hand and led her to the crafts table to write one of her classmates a letter. The mother stayed at the table to cut out paper hearts for her daughter, as she wandered off across the
Child E’s discussion, turned argument, shows how E handles conflict. Like the textbook described, E was quick to change aggression. E was suddenly raising his voice at K, which was very different from his discussion with K previously. The textbook also describes name-calling, which E demonstrated by calling K “meanie” several times. It was interesting that E used his language to describe his feelings towards K. Despite E’s emotions, he was able to verbally communicate with K. I think E showed advancement in changing aggression, because he was able to move his body away from K, before intervention became
Children are reacting to the authority of persons in their lives. The teacher acts in a firm but friendly manner to reinforce limits, raise conscious levels, and teach alternative behaviours. I have noticed a child in a childcare, showed mistaken behaviour as a result of dominant character. Despite her small size, she has rapidly become one of the leaders. She plays with just about all of toys, and she has a constant need to be in control of other. She occasionally gets in to arguments, with her peers when they no longer accept her leadership. She has difficulty resolving these conflicts and frequently has a tantrum when she is unable to have her own way. Then I made them sit quietly and I asked her whether she likes it when her friend feels sad. He says "no." I continue to guide him through discovering a solution by asking questions until we reach one that works. The kind gesture makes her feel happy and stopped her argument with peers. Together we find a solution that builds her awareness and how to solve peer conflicts, giving him tools to build positive relationships in the future. According to Gartrell” At the socially influenced level, children have learned that using
Initially, I define the two concepts of mistaken behavior and misbehavior, the first as an error in judgment and action made in the process of learning life skills. Mistaken behaviors occur at three levels which are: experimentation, socially influenced, and strong unmet needs. Teachers who use guidance see self-ruled life skills as difficult to learn, and they recognize that children are just at the beginning stages of a lifelong process of learning these skills. In the process of learning any difficult skill, children, like all of us, make mistakes. These teachers recognize that when children experiences conflicts it is because they have not yet developed the cognitive and emotional resources for more mature responses. The second concept being misbehavior is the conventional term applied to conflicts that the child is involved in, resulting in consequences that often include punishment and the internalization of a negative label such a “naughty”. The complexity of teaching self-ruled life skills leads some adults to the misconception that young children know how to behave, they just choose to misbehave. When conflicts occur, teacher who focus on misbehavior tend to label the child’s character and attempt to shame the child into better behavior.
Being the oldest child, I had adopted the “Going with the flow” mindset at an early age.I was always described as carefree and laid-back.There were no expectations for me to be held to.Much like playing a new game, the first person that plays automatically sets a high score.I had nobody to beat.This at first came as a blessing without a curse;almost like a gift. But little did I know, the curse was always there,
The instrument that I have developed is used to measure conflict management behaviors in high school students, grades 9-12. The instrument is a personal assessment that allows students to answer questions about how they behave during conflicts. The goal of the assessment is twofold, to identify how student participants behave and manage conflicts, and how those behaviors change over time as a result of conflict management lessons.
James, A. (1998). From the child's point of view: Issues in the social construction of
The study appears in the May/June 2013 issue of Child Development, and is available online. The researchers say their work represents a new line of research – what they call "group dynamics of childhood." No prior research has investigated what children think about challenging groups that act in ways that are unfair or nontraditional, they note.
In teaching and in life, people sometimes face difficult situations about whether to intervene in a conflict between people, such as students or other teachers. Concerns about how one will be perceived, fear of personal danger, or sometimes even ambiguity about whether it is better to let the parties resolve the conflict themselves all can make the decision about whether to intervene a challenging one. In an essay to be read by an audience of educated adults, describe a situation in which you faced such a decision about whether to intervene, and explain how you handled the situation.
However, I will not give immediate assistance during tasks. I will also promote positivity, and encourage them to think about things on the positive side. I will also give them examples of how things can be positive and negative at the same time, and then ask them to come up with their own examples (promote self-evaluation). To add, I will also assess their family background and received parenting style if possible, and see if it influences they way children’s temperament (Hockenberry, 2014b). On the other hand, according to Kohlberg’s theory of moral development, grade 5 students are at level 2 (Conventional stage) , and they are experiencing good boy/nice girl orientation and having law and order morality. They make decisions based on what actions will please others, especially authority figures (teachers & popular peers) and they are often concerned about maintaining relationships through sharing, trust, and loyalty. They also take other people 's perspectives and intentions into account when making decisions. In addition, they know rules are necessary for keeping society running smoothly and believe it is their "duty" to obey them. However, they perceive rules to be inflexible (rules do not change as the society change) (McDevitt, & Ormrod, 2010). According to Piaget’s theory of moral development, grade 5 children have autonomous morality, and they becomes aware that rules and laws are created by people; in judging an action, one should consider actor’s intentions as well as consequences. Also, they expect immanent justice (if a rule is broken, punishment will be applied immediately) (Santrock, 2007). In art workshop, a child said“ look, you could do it this way” to one of his classmates and offered help after he finished his own painting. All of them said“ thank you" after I helped them. They also had a clear understanding when the teacher said“ no talking or no chrome
The child has a hard time realizing that though there are many other people and things in their world, none of them are more important than the child himself. The child believes that his point of view is the only point of view of the world. This is caused by his inability to put himself in someone’s else’s shoes (Smith). The concrete operational period, spanning between the ages of 7 and 11, is marked by the onset of logic in the young mind. The child is able to mentally manipulate objects and events.
...ished playing with them (who made the mess? /who should clean the mess?). This is then further reinforced once children enter the school system - in social interaction with other children and teachers, in completing homework, even in getting to school on time. All of these day-to-day activities reinforce the concept of responsibility and accountability.