Mill asserts that the reason why liberty of opinion is so often in danger is that in practice people tend to be confident in their own rightness, and excluding that, in the infallibility of the world they come in contact with. Mill contends that such confidence is not justified, and that all people are hurt by silencing potentially true ideas. After presenting his first argument, Mill looks at possible criticisms of his reasoning and responds to them. First, there is the criticism that even though people may be wrong, they still have a duty to act on their "conscientious conviction." When people are sure that they are right, they would be cowardly not to act on that belief and to allow doctrines to be expressed that they believe will hurt mankind.
Anger is learned Anger is a bad habit that can be changed with conscientious effort This article is not a lecture because I believe we all have our share of the subject. I want to address a natural emotion that can serve good purposes and sometimes can be harmful to us as a person and/or our relationships. Anger is a secondary emotion, which means it is a reaction to an underlying stimulus. Pain can manifest in the form of anger. Over time, feeling of frustration, confusion, being powerless, discrimination, jealousy, co-dependency, disappointment and so on can make us develop a thick skin to shield ourselves from the actual pain.
Denial. This universal topic affects everyone. We want to be more so we try to prove to ourselves that we are. No one wishes to be looked down upon so they work their hardest to be perceived as desirable. This type of self-deception is detrimental to a person’s idea of self and needs to be resolved.
You must let go of what is holding you down. Along with letting go, trust issues can be a huge problem. The one time I tried opening up, I did it to the wrong person. They ended up going behind my back and telling people who had no business knowing what I was going through. If I wanted them to know, I would have told them.
However, there is no reason to believe that Sam would take it that hard, maybe he believed her and he does not think in a negative way. Biased feedback on the other hand can do more good than harm. People prefer to keep bad feedback to themselves and deliver good feedback instead (Tesser and Rosen, 1975). This view is shared by Wilson and Dunn (2005) who state that people refrain from revealing their real views out of politeness for the other person. Negative feedback can cause self-handicapping as the ego is hurt and injured (Rhodewalt and Tragakis, (in press).
The results of constant harsh criticism are serious and they affect people differently. For example, very critical people are very narrow minded and don't listen to reason. People who are constantly being criticized may react by constantly thinking negatively themselves. They think negatively about themselves and others and it doesn’t stop there. People who feel they are constantly being criticized may also criticize everything and everyone around them.
I am incomplete. I am the result of my past choices. On the negative side, society is going to try to stop me from becoming. We trust our minds to keep us in touch with reality. What we don't realize is that our minds may be covering up what is really there.
I often push it off onto other people using whatever excuse I can. I do this because I feel that it being my fault is a bad thing, or that my imperfections will make others dislike me. We try to put on a “mask” to hide our imperfections. In this case, I put on the mask by finding a way to blame it on others, even when taking responsibility will help. When we don’t take blame, we lose many things.
While it is often perceived as a character defect the fact is that it is really used to defend our self-worth and independence. As the author states “Generally we re taught that procrastination is the problem, rather than a symptom of other problems. This diagnosis, instead of directing your efforts toward ending the cycle of pressure, fear, and procrastination, unfortunately makes matter worse by blaming you for choosing such an awful habit.” The first step to overcoming procrastination is to stop criticizing yourself and to accept that you are in fact imperfect and human. Procrastination is actually rewarding as it helps us relieve some of our everyday stresses, the problem is we can become addicted to these rewards by learning to use it in three ways: as an indirect way of resisting pressure from authorities, as a way of lessening fear of failure by providing an excuse for a disappointing, less-than-perfect performance, ... ... middle of paper ... ...dentify when you are procrastinating and what triggers your procrastination was a valuable tool and I believe this is one of the biggest steps in helping one eliminate procrastination. My only complaint about the book is that at times it could seem a little repetitive.
Likewise, we find a message regarding the morality of this meddling in the lives of others. When considering the end results, we learn that much of what we don't know, we really don't need to know. The information is separated from us for a reason. If we persist in seeking out what is hidden, we may very well be violating the laws of our own survival. In addition, we may not even be capable of understanding the truth at all.