Regardless of how many people tell me “crying is good for you”, I find myself completely avoiding it for reasons I can not explain. This is strange to me because l am not immune to the pleasure a person feels when they are finished crying nor do I lack experiences to cry over. However, this creative writing assignment brought tears to my eyes for the first time in months. My first impression of “I Wore This Dress Today for You, Mom,” a poem written by Kim Dower was not so pleasant. As I began to read the poem my stomach curled up into a knot and the weight on my shoulders seemed to be increasing by the second; I was forced to lower my head. Before reaching the middle of the reading my eyes were clinched shut and I was weeping. After gathering
This was from the mind of young Grealy, the girl who had a depressed and angry mother, the mother that taught her that it was never okay to show weakness or cry (Grealy 30). Young Grealy believed that the way she earned acceptance during her first visit to the ER could carry over into her home life. I think that this moment encompassed all that Grealy was feeling at this time. The feeling that she was responsible for her mother’s unhappiness and depression, the feeling that if she showed she was not afraid, no one else in her family would be either, and the feeling that if she was not brave, her family would be unhappy forever. This was important because she felt that she had discovered a way to make her family whole again.
In the novel, Me Talk Pretty One Day, Sedaris has used various literary terms which followed the use of a clear tone. This is clearly depicted with the author’s choice of words, as well as, figurative language. This demonstrates the author’s talent for casually laying out the absurdities of his daily experiences. In the novel, Sedaris has used a depressed tone. He explains how he is depressed by the French instructor. He explains that he is not alone to be belittled, but others also experience a similar attitude from the teacher, during the time they spent in class (Sedaris 13). He explains that the instructor wanted to put everyone down. For instance, he understood only half of what the teacher said, and that the first day that she was in class was very depressing (11). Sedaris also narrates that when the teacher asked that ‘has every one apzkiubjxow, it was very startling because he had not been asked the question for a while and realized that she did not understand the alphabet (11). The author states that the teacher always asked that ‘were you always this palicmkresis (15). It is clear that Sedaris employs nonsense letter arrangements, in order to replace the words that he could not understand (Sedaris 15). Through this, he relates his feelings with what the teacher said and this created pity for him and a mutual understanding (Sedaris 15). This demonstrates a depressed tone.
The characters in Alice Sebold’s The Lovely Bones are faced with the difficult task of overcoming the loss of Susie, their daughter and sister. Jack, Abigail, Buckley, and Lindsey each deal with the loss differently. However, it is Susie who has the most difficulty accepting the loss of her own life. Several psychologists separate the grieving process into two main categories: intuitive and instrumental grievers. Intuitive grievers communicate their emotional distress and “experience, express, and adapt to grief on a very affective level” (Doka, par. 27). Instrumental grievers focus their attention towards an activity, whether it is into work or into a hobby, usually relating to the loss (Doka par. 28). Although each character deals with their grief differently, there is one common denominator: the reaction of one affects all.
I am crying over humans carelessly spend money that leaves their wallet empty. I sob over this; humans constantly spend their money on unnecessary purchases. As my soul fills with sorrow from this predicament, tears streamed down upon my face.
I cry. There is pressure behind my eyes, my skin turns blotchy and my lips tremble, and mucus clogs my airways, making it difficult to breath. I hate crying in front of others: not because I want to hide how upset I am, but because the second that most people perceive my emotional state as fragile, they assume my reasoning and mental functions are also not sound. The outward expression of an inward instability is something we save for those who we know and trust best. They do not view our emotionality as a weakness, they already know us to be strong. Crying is represented in our culture as a lack of control. When upset, the "ideal" is to keep a cool head (and a poker face), not allowing emotions to enter into the decision making process. However, I submit that without our emotional base, rationality would have no reason or foundation upon which to operate.
During the process of growing up, we are taught to believe that life is relatively colorful and rich; however, if this view is right, how can we explain why literature illustrates the negative and painful feeling of life? Thus, sorrow is inescapable; as it increase one cannot hide it. From the moment we are born into the world, people suffer from different kinds of sorrow. Even though we believe there are so many happy things around us, these things are heartbreaking. The poems “Tips from My Father” by Carol Ann Davis, “Not Waving but Drowning” by Stevie Smith, and “The Fish” by Elizabeth Bishop convey the sorrow about growing up, about sorrowful pretending, and even about life itself.
Even when he tried to stay optimistic, fear and anxiety set in often in Schwartz’s mind. He experienced fear and anxiety related to impending death. Worries of missing out on his son growing up and not experiencing romantic moments with his wife ever again filled him with both terror and grief. He expressed this fear to his psychiatrist and his concern that he might be depressed. Dr Cassem assured him that crying was a sign of acknowledgment of his love for his family. He also worried if there was anything he could do t...
When you see something traumatizing, do you cry? Well for some people out there in this world do not show any emotion for something that can scar others for life. In the book Night, by Elie Wiesel, many people see violence no other person has ever seen on a daily basis. Most people became emotionally dead while trying to indorse the strength to move on. Recent years, we had similar event occur like kids in South Sudan being force to be kid soldiers and kids in the Middle East seeing daily warface around them. The theme of “emotional death” is very evidential in the book Night, and it is still relevant today.
Overcoming the grief that is felt after losing a loved one is a physically and mentally agonizing task. According to Dr. Christina Hibbert, a clinical psychologist who graduated from the California School of Professional Psychology, three main stages of grief include anger, depression and acceptance. Each one of these emotions can be seen in William Shakespeare’s Hamlet and The Descendants (2011, Payne) as the artists explore the effects of grief and the different emotional responses that one can have due to the loss of a loved one. Additionally, in Ismail Kadare’s Broken April, the Berisha family feels the sufferance that is associated with unexpected death, as well as the various temperamental reactions that one will have after losing a loved one. Each of these works of art represent a powerful example of the stages that one will go through after feeling the intense sorrow that is connected with death, as well as the unavoidable effects of grief.
Guzman, Jennifer de. Personal. Writing Therapy. “The Mirror of Grief: The Epic of Gilgamesh and Ecclesiastes” 28 December 2010. . 13 March 2013
Watching a loved one suffer from physical distress can cause intense emotional pain. “As In The Beginning” by Mary di Michele focuses on a daughter’s observation of her father’s pain and suffering due to an accident(a loss of fingers). “Thanks for Not Killing My Son” by Rita Schindler deals with a mother’s emotional letter to her son’s attackers. Each piece of work looks back at a past event that has a profound effect on the writer. There are many similarities which include sarcasm, use of description and a common theme. However, both are presented in a different format as one being a poem and the other being a letter.
The loss of a loved one is an emotional and personal experience, and everyone grieves in their own way. Before the healing process can begin, the deceased must be laid to rest and this is usually accomplished with a funeral service. Many people choose a piece to be read at these ceremonies, such as W.H. Auden’s “Funeral Blues” and Mary Elizabeth Frye’s “Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep.” It is quite thought-provoking to compare the poems, since the subject matter is the same, however each of these works views death from a different perspective, one negative and the other positive.
Paul Mariani, an American poet and a professor at the Boston College, once said that “Lyric poetry is by its very nature elegiac–we write about what in fact is already slipping away from us.” This expression demonstrates how elegies can be psychological and literary devices used to convey serious feelings of reconceiving a lost wonder as the subject of lamentation “slips” with time (Harbus 186). What this quote fails to show, however, is that elegies are more than forms of communication between the poet and the reader. As noted by Michele T. Sharp, below the surface, elegies are also used for establishing a “poetic stature”. By publishing an elegy, a poet makes a statement that calls for scrutiny and evaluation by the public. Such a gamble
Throughout life we come across many people, some who influence us in negative ways, and those who influence in good ways, often changing our complete outlook on life. For me, it took the struggle of one of my best friends to open my eyes. I only wish it wasn't too late to thank her.
Crying is good. Crying is bad. Crying is weak. Crying is strength. Crying is an emotion response not only for pain but also for happiness. The word “cry” should not just be minimized to one definition; it must expand too much more. It shouldn’t be judged just because it is a negative outcome to a reaction. Many cry because of the happiness they have in their lives. Others cry because they feel relief in their lives. Individuals cry just because their emotions win their body. Crying is just a way to express emotions. Crying is a word that is defined as the outcome of pain or sadness. It must change as an outcome of an emotion whether it is good or