Katherine Paterson's Happy or Unhappy Ending Happiness seems different for all the characters, for Gilly happiness isn't something she has been able to experience yet. This is due to the fact she does not live with her mother and does not know her mother very well. At the beginning Gilly is very unhappy. Moving from one foster home to another is affecting her badly. She believes that happiness is being with her mother, but her theory soon changes.
The detachment between mother and daughter in “I Stand Here Ironing” is understandable. The mother struggles daily with the decisions she made while her oldest child Emily was a young baby and toddler. Obstacles in Emily’s life have made it hard for her mother to forget these decisions, and life with Emily only reinforces these decisions. Emily’s mother struggles when asked to help an outsider understand who Emily is. Her thoughts are perplexing; she tries constantly to accept the relationship between herself and Emily, the distance between them emotionally.
Sometimes children complain about their mothers, each wishing they could have different type of mom. The lives and situations of each mother were different, but in my opinion, both mothers were a bad model for parenting. "I Stand Here Ironing" by Tillie Olsen shows us a mother who is struggling through her own life and does not pay any attention to her daughter. The mother in this story happens to be the narrator, and we get the indication that she isn't a very good mother. To start, she was very young when she first had Emily.
Her unwillingness to adapt to change becomes a major conflict. "Bite back your tongue"(89) her mother's harshness on her while growing up may have caused her lack of self-confidence foiled but assurance. Not only that caused her to resent her mother but the way she introduced her to perfect strangers, "This is my daughter Waver-ly Jong"(101) just to tell people or make reference to the TIME article on Waverly cause her to become upset.
Elizabeth claims that “I’m gonna make it up to that girl”, she feels disappointed in herself because she could not take care of her daughter so she had to send her away from her family in order for her to be taken care of. Along with this, Elizabeth feels powerless when Carla returns to her family. Elizabeth says “there are mothers out
“I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen is a story about her mother and daughter Emily relationship. The memory was not always a pleasant attribute to the mother not taking care of Emily the way that a mother typically would. Emily’s mother sent her away on multiple occasions. The mother was having a hard time communicating and showing love to her daughter Emily. Throughout the story, it is clear that Emily’s mother does not have the qualities of being a mother.
She feels the pressure of not having the financial stability to support her home, children, and lifestyle; therefore she resents her children and her husband. “Children who are rejected by their parents experience more personality disorders and behavior problems in adolescence and adulthood than those whose parents accept them” (Erkan, 2010). Sadly, this was the case with Paul because of his mother’s lack of acceptance for him. Due to the fact that the mother could ... ... middle of paper ... ...be the death of a person. Works Cited Bayley, N. (1940).
The mother in Tillie Olsen’s story, “I Stand Here Ironing” gives insight into the upbringing of her first child. We see she is guilty of neglect towards Emily and is distressed due to poor decisions that she had made rearing her daughter. The mother reflects on the past and thinks that her actions and “lack of” might have affected Emily. She is so engulfed in “what ifs” and “how could I’s” that she is practically beating herself mentally. Poor Emily received little attention when attention was needed, allowing us to condemn the mother for her actions.
Her Auntie Doll was her only possible female role model in her life, but Hagar did not have much appreciation or respect for her. It seemed as though she was moving in on her mother's territory. Without a mother figure in her developing years, Hagar had to learn things for herself when it was not appropriate to talk about something with her father; this caused her to make more mistakes along the way. She holds a strong resentment towards other women, especially her mother. Hagar believes her mother was weak for dying during childbirth, in reality it was a situation entirely out of anyone's control.
Jing-mei was trying her best on everything her mom asked her to do. She never thought about how much having a talent can make someone so upset when you end up falling. In the story, Jing-mei stated “In fact the beginning, I was just as excited as my mother, maybe even more so” (Tan 221). Jing-mei was happy when her mom wanted her to do the prodigy when it first started. Then when she started having all the yelling from her mom when she did not do something right she was not feeling the fun.