Ask anyone that's been married for more than a minute and they'll tell you; marriage is a tricky thing. There are the obvious pitfalls like when to buy a home, how to share your money, and the big one; when do you start a family. Those are all true and fine, but to me (and most men would agree with this) the challenge of a marriage comes in the little things. The day to day ins and outs of sharing a space with someone who, in most cases, is the exact opposite of everything you are. Sophia and I were like that. We met back when we were both young; she a college freshmen and me a college waste of time. It was her smile that attracted me first, I think. It had this little twist to it, that said she knew more than most and that she was keeping …show more content…
Rule 5: Never, ever wake your AC in the morning. It is best to let them arise on their own and to get started with their day of shuffling and moaning at their own pace -- not yours! Rule 6: Humor is your best friend. ACs love the sound of laughter and it will generally distract them from eating you long enough to defuse whatever situation you're in. (Tip: It is always good to keep a small container of goat brains with you in case of emergency) Most of what we discuss in the PACS meetings turned out to be helpful and some of it not so much. Some things they had never thought of and couldn't be found in any manual (I don't even want to get started about how difficult man and wife relations are), but I did the best I could and each day I woke up with my brains intact so I guess I must have been doing something right. We're going on our second five year anniversary now, although most of our family and friends still insist we're not going to make it (well actually they say I'M not going to make it). When I hear that kind of stuff I usually sigh and go back to what I was saying at the beginning; marriage is a tricky thing. It takes a lot of working around the small things to make it without tripping up or getting eaten --
Another one of the high expectations is the saying “Your partner should always ‘get you’. You should be able to finish each other’s sentences. Your partner is your soul-mate”. This is an obvious wrong feeling, every person has his own experiences in life, their parents may have had different parenting styles, they may have come from different economic conditions, been children of divorce or long-term marriage of parents, be oldest, youngest, middle or only child in their family, etc. This clearly affects the way that each person thinks about problems, issues, ideas and situations. If not handled correctly this could have catastrophic effect on the
So how can the happy couple ensure a happy marriage? A lot of advice has already come their way, some which may be of use, some of it may not. For me, the key appears to be understanding women and how they communicate. I've always found the following a good guide: If the word "nothing" is uttered, this actually means "something" and you should be on your to...
Successful marriages can only be down when the couples build a solid foundation of a healthy and long lasting relationship. One can build a foundation by compromising of common set of core value, interests they both share in the long run. Without the foundation, marriages fail to reach the goals or expectations from their partner.
In The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work there are seven myths and seven real truths about marriage. The first myth is that neuroses or personality problems will ruin a marriage. The truth about that myth is that we all have our crazy buttons or issues we’re not totally rational about, but they don't necessarily interfere with marriage. The key to a happy marriage isn't having a "normal" personality, but finding someone with whom you get along with. The second myth is that common interests keep you together. The truth is that it is a plus to have common interests with someone, but is all depends on how you interact with the other person while pursuing those interests. The third myth is the saying "You scratch my back and .....". The real truth about this myth is that it is only a truly unhappy marriage where this quid pro quo operates, where each partner feels the need to tally up things the other partner did. Married couples should just do things for one another because it feels positive to them and their spouse. If you keep score in marriage it shows there is an area of tension in your marriage.
Above all, to have a successful marriage, the couple must love unconditionally. Love covers a multitude of mistakes and wrong doings. No one is perfect, so don’t expect your spouse to be. Spouses should show their partner the type of love they would like to receive.
another gem espoused by the Apostle Paul. In Philippians, Paul gives direction on how one should go about looking for the good in one another. He says this: “Finally, beloved, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think of these things.” (Phil 4:8) In other words, married couples should dwell on the positive aspects of each other as opposed to constantly thinking about the things they dislike about each other. One simple way the Zamora’s can dwell within the positive instead of the negative is for both of them to come up with a written list of all the things they like about each other. They
A good marriage is like fine wine, don 't you think? I thought so. Some characteristics of a good marriage are: ownership and hope and empathy and forgiveness and commitment
Before marriage, couples often find themselves talking all the time, but this soon lessens over time. They must understand and learn from one another, by means of taking time to share their thoughts and feelings. For the marriage to grow in unison, and prosperity, each must try to know what the other is thinking. Problems can fester over time, if not addressed in a timely manner. Each should take a moment to listen, and look in each other’s eye, so you can recognize each other’s needs and concerns. Genuine compliments should also be a part of ordinary conversations. Always use kind words and be supportive and attentive, in addition to motivating each other to succeed in all areas of
It’s important to understand your partners history and expectations before getting married. Learning about your spouse’s history and about what they want in a future will help you to be able to know if you have similar expectations. Knowing the qualities that you would like to incorporate in your family will give you a greater knowledge of what to expect in a future. Being able to talk about rules or goals for your family is very beneficial to your future.
Entering into marriage is a nerve-rackingly emotional, but exciting time in life that carries many expectations. Some of these expectations are healthy, as well as shared, in the partnership. However, there are other expectations that can be a source of division in the marriage if they are not handled correctly. Unspoken and unrealistic expectations can be dangerous because they are subtle and are genuinely not seen as a problem to the person who harbors them. Many partners do not realize that they have one or even both forms of expectation before and during the marriage. Although there is nothing wrong with having these initial expectations, they need to be understood and talked about between the
This is frequently something worth being thankful for really on the grounds that it urges each of us to work towards attaining our goals energetically and not let others to manage our life decisions. Be that as it may, when it comes time to sharing your life with your spouse, self-centeredness can be poisonous in certain ways. Marriage brings contrasts. It implies settling on choices close by another person that unequivocally influence the both of you. It implies taking a gander at circumstances from a point of view that isn't your own.
Love Each Other: Husbands and Wives love each other unconditionally. How you love will cause a great impact on your marriage. Love will bring comfort to your marriage. Always strive to give your spouse your best love. Love in a marriage is not just romance its real and constant affection and care for each other with a passionate heart.
The love that my husband and I share is magical, even with hard times and hitting our limits with each other our love continues growing. Love is watching him play with our son and seeing how much love he has for Michael. Love is hearing him complain when he works on my truck but knowing he doesn’t mind because he loves me. Love is when he’s pushing me toward my dreams, even when I get annoyed with him. My husband may drive me crazy at times but he’s the person that I want by my side during this roller-coaster ride of life. The greatest part of a husband is that they push every button they can to push you in the right direction because they do love
If you’re one of the lucky ones, you will find that love can be one of the most captivating things a person can experience in life and celebrating that love and making it official with marriage is a wonderfully beautiful thing. With that being said, it doesn’t mean that marriage doesn’t have its complications. In the video titled, “ Tale of Two Brains”, we learned about some of the differences between men and women such as how they communicate and think differently. The talker was a minister and marriage expert, Mark Grungor. In this informative and hilarious video Mark shows couples that struggles in a marriage may be because men and women think about life in a different way and most of that stems from the fact that we are wired differently.
Staying married to someone over several years can be quite an experience. The mind-sets or thought patterns of individuals prior to, and through marriage vary. This dynamism is critical to the level of commitment ploughed into any relationship.