I remember how simple life was back when I was still in high school. I would go to school, go home afterwards and take a nap after completing my homework, and then when I would wake up, I would eat something and hang out with my friends at the park to play. Those were the days, unfortunately now it’s more like go to school, go to work, do homework, and sleep for only a little bit. But to me the thing that has changed the most since high school has been the long close friendship that I had with Rolando Martinez ‘aka Roly”. While we were in high school, Roly and I were alike in every way and enjoyed playing the same sports and after school activities together, but it took for me to go to college how in fact, we are completely different. From the very beginning, I and Roly were buddies. Our friendship began when Roly moved next door to me, and our families formed a close relationship to each other and Roly would hang out a lot with me. I remember that Roly and I would do everything together from, doing double dates with girls, to playing basketball at the park, to hanging out with a group of friends. But as soon as high school ended, Roly became a completely different person. He never wants to do double dates because his girlfriend doesn’t like to, he won’t play basketball because is afraid of injuring himself, and won’t hang out in a group of friends. I remember a time back in high school how Roly used to tell me how I wouldn’t do enough of these things and that I should loosen up a bit. Funny thing is I took his advice and now he won’t do it, and when I offered the same advice he told me, he said that it’s stupid. Another difference in our friendship that I noticed after high school was that, we see the future in a whole differe... ... middle of paper ... ... very clear how the friendship that I had with Roly has changed since high school ended. The Roly I knew would hang out with me and his friends any opportunity he had gotten, rather than turning them down in a heartbeat. The Roly I knew would have maybe considered a better career choice than the one he choose because he didn’t want to study for too long, and lastly the Roly I knew would gone to place we liked, like going to Ultra with his buddies rather than staying home and watching it. Whenever I think about it, it kind of bothers me in the sense that a person that I was so close to, changed so much after high school, especially since I did everything with this person throughout all of high school. We still are friends today and we do hang out every blue moon together, and even though we aren’t as close as we used, we are still neighbors and we are still friends.
The friendship is still there, however, because of the maturity and growth these relationships are
middle of paper ... ... My drive on a hike with my friend Alexan helped me understand a lot of similarities and differences between my friend and I, as I mentioned and described. It also helped me understand some similarities between Oliveira and I, and La Maga and Alexan. Thankfully, after three hours of waiting on the top of the mountain with Alexan, the fog had disappeared, I received a bar of reception on my cell phone and found our way back to Alexan’s vacation home.
He mentions many everyday examples that tie back to his main idea of decaying friendship. He states that there is no greater disappointment than to meet an old friend and discover how they have changed. He thoroughly explains how the overall renovation of friendship is basically hopeless, and how one should try to keep his friends close in order to remain joyful. Lastly, he reminds us of the greatest novelty in the world, the gift of friendship, and the lengths we need to achieve in order to keep it.
The time was around 10:30 and my eyelids felt as heavy as a brick to keep open. I was just about to shut everything down for the night, when the loud sound of a snapchat notification startled me awake. I looked at the blaring screen of my phone in the dark, to see it was from my friend Jordan. Flirting with each other was our thing, but nothing more. At the end of everything, he's a junior and I'm a freshman, he still wants me to grow up a little bit. I opened up
When going into high school the same friends you have in freshmen year aren’t the same in senior year. Strong Friendship is always hard to get, I knew who my real friends were after every year in high school ended. By the end of my senior year I had almost all the same friends except for three or four. But there was this one girl who stayed and she been my best friend since then we have had tough time and we have broken up but we always come back to each other. During the break ups I never treated anybody special like I did with her somehow I knew she was going to come back. The theme was always in my life and it showed me that not all my good friends are going to stay but when you have a best friend they’re always going to be
...in our whole life. All of us can find some buddies for their life, and I want to say, don't let them down, don't waste their friendship. When I was studying in middle school, I don’t know the importance of friendship. All my classmates don’t know me a lot, and I don’t, either. I never thought what they thought and never care about their feelings. And the worst thing is that I don’t want to know, all of things I cared about was studying. It lets me seem unfriendly, and now I realized and want to fix it, of course, thanks to the movie, I’ve been trying to make more friends and keep closer to them.
Such experiences include “children, marriage, aging, death, birth, college” (West & Turner, 2016). With the lessons learned with friendships earned and lost over the duration of childhood, there may be some hesitancy on having a person becoming a potential friend in the future. People take things slow, take more time to know the person to determine if this will be either a meaningful friendship that would benefit both people or if it will be just a type of friendship which is just acquaintances and nothing more. There will be at times when that relationship will seem to wane or known as “Waning friendship…friendship intimacy bonds begin to decay; friends spend less and less time together” (West & Turner, 2016). This can happen for a number of reasons such as growing apart, different points of life for two individuals, and loss of interest. As adults, we have essentially categorized ourselves into business professional, student, relaxed, church, etc. Sometimes certain connections to certain circles don’t overlap with others because of the vast differences between them. It is perfectly normal to have casual friendships that don’t require constant meet-ups while other friendships are much closer and intimate because of a familiar
Even though our team, “The Stingers”, eventually changed to “The Velocity”, one girl, Christina, was always there for me and continues to be by my side today. Through playing on the same soccer team for nine seasons, we developed a bond that will not easily be broken. We can look at each other and just start laughing for no reason. I know all of her drama and she knows mine. Our mutual trust that was developed on the soccer field has branched into every aspect of our lives. I know I can turn to her at any moment and she will quit whatever she is doing and come to my rescue. Likewise, she knows I will always be there to help her through any situation, no matter how difficult it may be. Recently, when Christina received the heart wrenching news that her mom has breast cancer, I stood right by her side to help her through it. She was able to lean on me for support when it was too overwhelming for her to handle on her own. When she needed to get away from the stresses of her mom’s health, we would hang out and just talk for hours on end. Similarly, when my relationship with a mutual friend was struggling, Christina was there to help me get through it. She encouraged me to stay strong and continue to treat our friend with respect even though she neglected me and our decade of friendship.
In the story, “An Hour With Abuelo” by Judith Ortiz Cofer, Arturo goes to visit his Abuelo and throughout the story realizes that he shouldn’t be so quick to judge the people that care about him because you might find them to be worth your time. This story teaches its readers that you should cherish the time you have with the people that love you. Arturo thinks to himself, “I want my mother to have to wait a little. I don’t want her to think that I’m in a hurry or anything.” (Cofer, 140) This quote proves that he realizes he has a lot in common with his Abuelo and ended up enjoying the time he had with him. Throughout the story Arturo and Abuelo realize all the things they have in common with each other. This idea brings the readers back to the thought that it is never too late to make a connection and enjoy the time you have with the people who love you.
to for years. Former friends give a sense of oldness to a person. In the long
In the beginning of his sophomore year, the knee problems came back, and with a vengeance. He had to leave school again after the first quarter. It was saddening to have to miss him again. But some of my fondest memories of this year were when three of us stormed his house as a trio and dragged him out to take him to movies, parties, etc. The feeling of completion that he brings to our circle really reinforces my feelings that we're all the best of friends.
Our friendship has taught me that maintaining a relationship is difficult, but it can be accomplished. That I am a very trustworthy and dependable person. But I need to work on my communication skills because sometimes I don’t communicate effectively or I approach the situation by handling conflicts improperly. That I don’t give up easily on the people that I care about the most. This relationship has taught me that I am a problem solver for I want the relationship to be equitable for the both of us. I have learned so much about myself through our relationship both, pros and
Firstly, I now know that it’s okay to be interested in different things and to want to venture down a new path. There is nothing wrong with being alone in something because if it’s something you enjoy then it shouldn’t matter whatsoever. If I had followed my friend into things she enjoyed instead of things I was interested in, I wouldn’t have grown into who I am now. My empowerment in student council allowed me to receive multiple scholarships and gain the leadership experience that I travel with today. I feel that this was a personal challenge which allowed me to see my own potential. Secondly, I learned that it is okay for change to occur. Once I had created an attachment to my best friend, it was hard for me to understand the small-scale change we were undergoing. This lesson allowed me to make a connection with an article we read called How Friendships Change in Adulthood, written by Julie Beck. Beck discusses the hierarchy of relationships as peoples ages increase, and unfortunately friendships falls towards the bottom. She explains that during adolescence, there’s a lot more self-disclosure and support between friends, but they’re still trying to discover their personal identity. William Rawlins states that the unfortunate part of this is, “In adolescence, people have a really retractable self. They’ll change,” (Beck, 2016). Although Beck also notes that young adults have time to devote to their friends, they’re constantly changing. By growing up and moving onto bigger things, such as grade school to high school, our networks are also growing. This allows for them to experience new things and get to know new people (Beck, 2016). I feel that this is exactly what happened between Makayla and I. Thankfully, now I know that without change, there is no room for new knowledge or adventure. I believe that this allowed my attitude and behaviour to take on a more positive and confident role in
For obvious reasons, people will turn down the changes in life. When people who are close to each other will reject change because they feel that this change is going to separate them and make them not as close as they used to be. Like how my best friend moved on to college in another state. I feel that we will never talk again or we won’t have the same relationship that we had before. Luckily, with the inter...
Growing up in school you have your friends in 1st, then in Jr. High, and then when you get to high school you might not even know or see your friends from 1st grade anymore. For the few people who’s had a friend from 1st grade till college I think that someone they need to hold on to because if they stuck with you through all them year I know they’re there for the right reason and there not just there for a season. As Elizabeth Dunphy says, “It’s the little things that matter, that add up in the end, with the priceless thrilling magic found only in a friend.”