How The Sexes Communicate With One Another

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How The Sexes Communicate With One Another

It has been my own personal experience that men and women communicate differently. This is especially true when put into the context of communication between the two sexes. During my lifetime I have been witness to the different ways in which men and women communicate, and I have decided that communication between the two sexes can be further broken down into types and/or reasons for communication. These types of communication are Professional, Occasional, and Social. From these forms of communication we can further expand which I will do as I come to each scenario.

To understand the ways in which men and women communicate we must first understand men and women in general. As we all know there are many inherent differences between men and women, varying from physical to emotional differences. Men are the physically larger and with this comes a complex of superiority. Since men, in general are larger and stronger, they tend to feel as though they are dominant and in control. Women who tend to be smaller by contrast seem to struggle with the fact that men feel dominant. This leads to what seems to be a persistent attempt to make themselves become in control. Much like in Chaucer's Canterbury tales when the Wife of Bath tells her tale, what women want is to "have sovereignty over their husbands as well as their lovers and to be in authority over them." Basically women want to be respected by men.

The first type of communication between men and women is communication at a professional level. This means situations that occur in the workplace or in any other situation that requires intelligent conversation. In places like offices where the soc...

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...he two. Things such as what classes are you taking, what did you think of that math test, and so on. The end result of which is on the low end maybe a kiss or a phone number, to on the high end, perhaps sleeping with that person. Whatever the case may be, it is in some way sexual if all goes to plan. Of course this may not always be the case, but it usually is.

Men and women are so different. It is very hard for men to understand women, and vice versa. This is why communication between men and women can sometimes be a struggle. But that is just the way it goes I guess. It has always been a challenge and will continue to be. Some people are just better than others are and don't seem to have so much trouble talking to the opposite sex, but whatever the case may be one thing is for sure. Men and women talk to each other differently than they talk to themselves.

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