How not to Break Up
A few years ago, I made a mistake that I learned never to do again. I was dating a girl who I was friends with before dating her. I met her when I moved to Milton FL. She was the first girl that I started talking to. At first we were just good friends and then I decided to ask her out on a date. To my surprise she said yes. After that, we began dating more and finally started going out. We had a pretty good relationship until I found someone that I was more attracted to. I decided that the best thing was to let my girlfriend know that I have found someone else. To some people this would be easy but for me it was hard. My girl bought me everything that I wanted. Even stuff that I did not ask for. I was going to break-up with her over the phone but I decided to be a man about it. I called her up and told her that I need to talk to her so I was coming over to her house. I made sure that I got everything that she had bought me over the years. I got to her house and she met me outside. For some reason she already knew that it was not good. When I told her that I did not want to see her anymore, she got very upset. She started to yell at me and instead of being calm about it, I started to yell back. That was a very big mistake. All at once I saw her eyes fill with rage and suddenly she kicked me where no man would ever want to be kicked. After I got out of the hospital I realized that I broke up with her the wrong way. Knowing the pain that I went through, I decided that I would let men know the things they should not do when breaking up with their woman. First of all, do not start flirting with another woman while you are already with one. Secondly, do not be rude to her. The man should talk to her as if he wants to ask her out again. Lastly, the guy should not take his eyes off of her.
A man that wants to break-up with his woman should not start flirting with another woman.
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