How Does Friendship Can Change Someone's Identity

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Friendships Can Change Someone’s Identity

“Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light” -Helen Keller (brainy quotes). The importance of this quote is to show that in both books, the protagonists try to cling to these friendships because it is just easier to go through the dark times in their lives with someone by their side. Cat’s Eye, and A Separate Peace are both narratives surrounding the influence of friendship on one’s identity. The two novels highlight how the protagonists are affected by their superiors and how their character development is shaped by those around them. As a result of the influences by their friendships, both Elaine and Gene’s identities worsen. The two stories display how one’s identity
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In Cat’s Eye, Elaine states that “I see that there will be no end to imperfection, or to do things the wrong way. Even if you grow up, no matter how hard you scrub, whatever you do, there will always be some other stain or spot on your face or stupid act, somebody frowning” (Attwood 187). The quotation showcases Elaine’s understanding of the people around her. Elaine identifies the inevitability of imperfection as she realizes that people will always be unhappy in some way. As a result of the scrutiny from the people around her, Elaine develops into an apathetic character who no longer cares. Elaine also states that “Knowing too much about other people puts you in their power, they have a claim on you, you are forced to understand their reasons for doing things and then you are weakened” (Attwood 293). This quote is important because she says this shows how her own personality turns her into a control freak, further worsening her identity. Also, another importance of this quote is to show that Elaine is someone who is going through a lot of different experiences, both physically and mentally. For example, with Cordelia constantly tormenting her physically when she was younger, and mentally when she is older. In A Separate Peace, Gene talks about…show more content…
In Cat’s Eye Elaine says that “This is what I miss, Cordelia: not something that’s gone, but something that will never happen. Two old women giggling over their tea” (Attwood 567). This displays that Elaine absolutely wants the friendship with Cordelia to work out and in the end, as cliché as it sounds, readers see two women laughing over a cup of tea . This blurs the identity of Elaine because she tries to be friends with Cordelia, but it does not happen between them because of their differences. This later turns Elaine into a train wreck when she realizes that she is the one that shapes into who Cordelia once was. Another situation is when Elaine talks about, “Cordelia is my friend. She likes me, she wants to help me, they all do. They are my friends, my girlfriends, my best friends. I’ve never had any before and I’m terrified of losing them” (Attwood 162). It shows that Elaine certainly wants to be liked by her friends, especially Cordelia, but that is not the outcome, because Cordelia then goes on to bully and pester her constantly. She tries not to fight back against Cordelia because she genuinely does not want to feel alone and wait to have friends, thereby blurring her identity of who she truly is. In A Separate Peace, Gene says, “What was I doing up here anyway? Why did I let Finny talk me into stupid things like this? Was he getting some kind of hold over me?” (Knowles
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