Sometimes the advice parents give their kids aren’t true, but it can help them resolve their problem. Tones in conversations indicate the teen’s attitude, and helps the parents identify how the teenager feels Arguing is the most common form of communication with parents when things don’t go the way teenagers wants things to. When teens come up with things to do, they mostly have to have their parent’s permission for approval. When a parent says no sometimes it is because they get worry and don’t want their child getting hurt, teenagers doesn’t see possibilities like parents do and get upset and angry. When in an argument a teen will use whatever he/she can come up with to break their parent so they can get this or do that.
These teens are not strictly overseen by their parents, and their parents rarely know what they are up to or what they are doing (Gove 303). “Poor parent-child relationships, lack of parental control, and erratic behavior of parents could be a product of juvenile misbehavior and the juvenile’s hostility towards his or her parents” (Gove 304). Teens that do not have a close relationship with their parents often resort to delinquency as a form of resentment. “The family as an institution plays a critical role in the socialization of children; as a consequence, parents presumably play a critical role in whether their children misbehave” (Gove 315). Parents play the biggest role in a child’s life because the parents have been with the child since birth.
When a parent becomes the only parent in the household they are more focused on their job and do not always pay much attention to their children. That is a mistake they make because parents need to understand that they are the first role model to their children. That most likely what children see their parent doing is what children are going to think is the right thing to do as they grow up. If children are not getting the attention that they need they start think that their parent does not love them enough. That can effect children mentally and emotionally because children try to find answers to why their parent is not dedicating as much time.
As a person is going through their teen years, they often start seeing their parents as an bossy authoritative figure rather than a friend, whom they can ask for advice in need.Some parents do not have the sex talk with their kids due to this difference between them and also the myth that they might encourage them to become sexually active. ( Bond-Zielinski,1). Bond-Zielinski also talks about the topic of role-model, “Another important thing for parents to remember is role modeling. A parent 's behavior should match their words. The "do as I say, not as I do" approach will have a great impact on teenagers who are careful and constant observers of the adults in their lives.”(1).
One of the drawbacks that many parents come across is that it’s very time consuming because its recommended for the parents to keep interacting with the children even outside of therapy sessions. The reason that many parents do not interact with their children is because they could be under stress, too busy, or the child is getting older and they don’t feel the need to keep practicing after a certain age. This can be resolved simply by the parents putting some time to the side to interact with their child and it does not have to be anything big, it could be simple things like just talking to them in the car about what they see. Another drawback that some parents and speech therapist come across is that some children do not want to participate. The reason that the children do not want to participate is because they want to do what they want to do.
In the conclusion, I believe teenage rebellion is harmful. It can affect to any teenagers if they have nobody to teach or take care them correctly. Teenagers want to rebel because they feel like they need to understand and learn more about things that they never been through. But it can also be the fact that teens have a lot more question about adults' life or for their independent. This is a good opportunity for parents to learn and get connected with their children while they are under the state between teen and adult.
Teenagers need to be given time , support and guidance to form from child to adult, but that must come from the parents. Many parents either feel powerless to give a child what they need in life because the child can get it else where: they may do whatever it is that they want behind a parent’s back. They could also be insecure about themselves and that they did not receive the guidance themselves when they needed in growing up. Teenagers need protection against the dangers that they may face so that they can be prepared for the future. Teenagers now are highly stressed.
Because of that, children express their own opinion while they communicating with their parents, challenge the opinion which given by their parents since they are young. Parents always consider that expressing opinion as rebel, and cause the conflict with their children. Part of the parents paid attention with their children’s opinion but in the same time they also worry that their children lost themselves. It cause a lot of parents don’t understand that why they having a big problem when they are communicating with their children. The main reason is that they have get the wrong way to communicate with their
First of all, it helps children develop a sense of what is right and what is wrong. The child doesn’t inherently have a moral code which he/she can follow and have guidance is necessary. Also, kids need some kind of reassurance after performing certain tasks; for example, when they do something well, they need to be told that they did well and need to be encouraged for their good behavior. This boosts their confidence and makes them motivated to do well. Thus, being a laid-back parent is not really a positive thing, even though teenagers always wish their parents weren’t so involved and