There was a time, and it was many years ago, now when everything seemed simple. Ask me when everything changed I can almost pinpoint it to when my mother was pregnant with my second little sister. After the loss of the first one, I was reluctant to get attached when mom got pregnant again. I was scared we were going to lose the second one like we did my first little sister. One thing I loved about my parents were how honest they are with me.
I know longer knew her as my sister, but as Santana. It didn’t get much worse after that but we would never be the same as we once were. I finally spoke to Santana again on my niece's birthday, mostly because she is her mother, and it was very frightening. I had gone so long without seeing, speaking, or even thinking about her and I was not prepared to now. My niece definitely made it easier on the both of us I’m sure.
I know longer knew her as my sister, but as Santana. It didn’t get much worse after that but we would never be the same as we once were. I finally spoke to Santana again on my niece's birthday, mostly because she is her mother, and it was very frightening. I had gone so long without seeing, speaking, or even thinking about her and I was not prepared to now. My niece definitely made it easier on the both of us I’m sure.
But let me assure you it hasn’t always been that way. My dad started to date Renee Brisbois, and eventually married her on August 11th 2006. Renee was everything that anyone could want in a mother figure, but at the time that’s made managing my emotions such an ... ... middle of paper ... ...nk my step-mom could also work on listening and understanding that I’m not used to having to do those kind of things and be a little more patient with me. There is a quote from “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” that says “Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring – all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” This is my new favorite quote and I don’t think could fit my relationship with my step-mom any better. It says nothing about being a mother, a mom, or providing any stupid pizza; but what it does say is how everyone can turn someone’s life around if they try, and my-step mom, Renee, Mom or anything else you want to call her has done just that.
Whenever Waldine gets an award for school, her mother could not come to the ceremony because she is booked with work, though her mom makes up for her absences by being a big sister for Waldine. Since Waldine had two brothers, she did not know how it is like to have a big sister though her mother easily filled that void and was always there for her. If Waldine ever made mistakes, her mother would always comfort her and tell her that it is fine because people could learn from it. Waldine’s mother may not have been a great mom but she was someone that Waldine looked up to despite her flaws. Her mother does what she can for her kids knowing that she cannot be there when her children needs her the most and Waldine respected her for that due to her willingness to give up her time for them.
Being raised in a single parent house there are some pros and cons that come from being raised this way. My mom and dad like I said before never married the reason being is because my dad didn’t want my mom to have me. He told her to get an abortion because he felt like it already coasted him a lot to pay for two kids and then to add a third I guess it seemed to be just too much for him . My mom indeed up having me when I was younger it was very hard. My mom tried to do as much as she can but with no dad in the picture it was even harder.
However, I do remember when I visited during those summers she did not seem overly happy to see me. My Papa had a stroke, and as a result, his throat became paralyzed, so he could not talk very well. He eventually passed away, but my trips to stay with my father’s family did not stop because of this. My grandmother Mattie had her sister, whom I called Aunt Bert, come to live with her after Papa died, and it was Aunt Bert that entertained me the most, and tolerated me more so than my Grandma Mattie did. Do not get me wrong, Grand... ... middle of paper ... ...ones.
Religion wasn’t something she was too big on when growing up as a child, but she said once she got older and her children were leaving to have their own families, she started to have more interest in the church when she began having health problems. She doesn’t use any technology because in the town they live, technology is very behind com... ... middle of paper ... ...daily. She doesn’t have any medical insurance, and she goes to the doctors when she can afford to go, so my dad usually sends her money so she can be able to go to the doctors and get check at least once a month. My grandmother is still marry to my grandfather, and she sees my uncle and his family very often because they live only 20 minutes away. Most of her siblings have passed away and her nieces and nephews all live in the USA.
For the most of what I can remember my relationships have always been a self-closure relationship. I kept to myself and I had no problem having my only friend being my twin sister. Though, when I was young it was hard to make friends. Everyone had chosen their lifelong friend. That was my plan until middle school where the teachers decided to split us up for good.
She felt bad that she had not got in touch and even worse when she found out that her grandmother had died two years before. ‘But Dee, why didn’t you tell me?’ ‘I was away; you know what I mean when I say away’. ‘I know’, said Valarie. ‘When I got out I was not myself and grandpa really helped me a lot. But I let him down so much, I just could not stop messing up, but I am clean now.