How Divorce Effects Children
In our society families are divided everyday. The circumstances vary, but they still cause traumatic behavior towards those who are irate about their families separating. It seems to be a delimma for parents that no longer acquire each other's company to be subjective about their separation, but what if children are involved. Parents have a tendency to make choices about their marriage with animosity and revulsion towards one another, but what about the siblings. What did they do? Therefore, it is an inequity for parents to divorce with children, because their kids' lives will be impacted tremendously.
A separated mother and father has a dissatisfying affect on children. It is very hard for a child, who has been raised by both parents; to one day only have majority access to one parent. This is a situation through which kids develop inaccurate thoughts as to why their parents are not together. Blame sometimes corrupts the child's thoughts and eventually the child perceives he/she may be the reason their parents separated. Children are left in the dark numerous times. Children develop revulsion towards the parent whom they feel has caused this terrible situation. A constant question, Why? Their parents would not want to be together anymore.
The child now acts with an attitude around the parents. In a rebellious way the child deliberately commits disobedience. Being that they are already demoralized the child feels no remorse in acting out of discontent. This becomes even worst when there is more than one child.
Two or more children in this situation may wonder will they have to separate also. And in some cases children do separate parents. Besides the negativity between th...
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...dering who will get which parent. It is blatant that in situations of the parents having children. The boy goes with the father and the daughter goes with the mother. Eventually the children will take sides and this corrupts their relationship causing division amongst each other.
Although parents have their differences and splitting up is the best choice they should still be aware of how it will effect the children/child. Children are the most vulnerable in situations like divorce cases. Children have little affect in their parents' decision to break up.
In conclusion, in marriages people must learn to avoid conflict and appreciate whom they have decided to spend the rest of their life with. A divorce causes too much stress and heartache on a child that's why it should be forbidden unless reasons to separate are of the laws of the Bible.
Over the years, research has shown that children tremendously benefit when raised in an intact family by both parents. Such children are always less likely to opt for divorce in future as adults. According to research most people who always result to divorce as the first option lacked role model parents as they were growing up. Most adult always view their adult lives as an extension of their parents lives and hence if their parents had a happy intact marriage they will always look forward to have the same (Ackerman, & Kane, 2005). Unfortunately those who grew up with their parents having separated also hope to have successful marriages but when challenges kick in, they are mostly inclined to divorce as the
Divorces are more common than they were generations ago. In a Time/CNN survey released in august 1997 which showed that the largest population of respondents (45%) answered that marriage is not taken seriously by most of the couples because they always end up getting divorced. Sixty four percent also believed that couples should get lessons on marriage before getting married (“public opinion”). From my understanding, this controversy over divorce has remained one of the nation’s most important debates. There are reasons why most of the couples get separated. It can be because of misunderstanding. It can be because they stop loving each other. Sometime little arguments and misunderstandings can turn out to be the biggest probl...
In this day and age there are many variations of what constitutes a couple or family in comparison to many years ago. Long ago the idea of a ‘nuclear family’ was considered the norm; it consisted of the conventional husband, wife and children . But as our society progressed through the years this definition became less conventional and criticisms were made, this definition of ‘family’ did not account for gay unions, soul parents nor did it acknowledge the prevalence of extended family. The definition of family has changed over time, as have the socially defined roles of mothers and fathers. Within these varied family units, situations occur in which divorces and separations take place and a lot of the times these tricky situations may involve children, which can make an already tricky situation even more problematic. There are pieces of legislation which are in place which aim to protect the best interests of a child during the time their parents are going through divorce but sometimes these avenues can be more problematic and ultimately destroy unions whereas other avenues of dispute resolution such as mediation, albeit with its own criticisms, helps to keep relationships afoot in that it provides an opportunity for peaceful and mutual agreements to be made in a more laid back environment.
Divorce is not only a change in lifestyle or relationship for two adults, but also the children that may be involved experience changes. Their lifestyle and their relationship with their parents also change. A child’s lifestyle and relationship with his or her parents could be damaged resulting from the decision of their parent’s divorce. Children of different ages may react differently to the decision of his or her parent’s separation. Children’s behavior may vary at the time of their age and custody decisions. The effects on a child during and after the divorce could decrease academic, behavior, and social skills depending on his or her reaction of a parent’s new spouse.
Divorce is a process that many people in America go through. The divorce rate continues to escalate over the years. Divorce is a serious problem, it is a gradual process that ultimately results in families breaking up. There are various factors in which a marriage can fail and end up in divorce. Some skip the step of trying to reconcile things and make it work. In some cases it is easy for a divorce to take place. For instance, in cases where both parties are in agreement and have no children it is easier to handle a divorce. But in the cases where children are present, what happens to the kids? Both parents are at each others throats or one is devastated from the rejection, what role does the child play? It is a hard thing to cope with as an adult imagine as a little one or even a teenager, it affects them in more ways than anyone can imagine. It can affect them both physically and emotionally. The effects of divorce are immense, it permanently weakens the bond or relationship between a child and his parents. Can lead to them reaching out or looking to others for attention, causing poor attitudes, low self esteem, dropping grades, loss of virginity, use of drugs and or weapons, or in some cases mutilation of the body. There are various effects that children have to deal with that maybe extremely hard to cope with. One parent may say one thing yet the other disagrees and makes it impossible for the child to have a stable relationship with both of them. Children need both biological parents at their side to be guardians and counselors in their lives, to be examples of what they need to do to become outstanding citizens in our community.
The article “Divorce and Its Effects on Children” by Kelvin L. Seifert and Robert J. Hoffnung states about the effects of the divorce under the children. The authors say “most parents who divorce must make major adjustments in their lives, and these adjustments often affect their children deeply.”(Kelvin, Robert, 1). Most of the adjustments are different by the children gender and sometimes the relationship between parents and their children deteriorate during and immediately after a divorce.
Single Parent Struggle For many years, children growing up in a single parent family have been viewed as different. Being raised by only one parent seems impossible to many yet over the decades it has become more prevalent. In today’s society many children have grown up to become emotionally stable and successful whether they had one or two parents to show them the rocky path that life bestows upon all human beings. The problem lies in the difference of children raised by single parents versus children raised by both a mother and a father.
The argument over how divorce affects children is one that has been going on for a very long time. Some people believe when parents get a divorce the children are not affected at all, while others believe when parents get a divorce the children are affected by the impact of divorce more than anyone in the family. In some cases, married couples can be in such a terrible marriage that divorce can in no way be avoided, and these divorces are usually the ones that children benefit from and are affected in a positive way. Many times though, a couple will choose to get a divorce because their marriage is not exactly the way it used to be, and they want that aspect of life back; these are the divorces that negatively affect children. Even though in some cases divorce does not affect children negatively, many times when parents obtain a divorce, the children are negatively harmed in many different ways that will forever change their lives.
For a child, it is very hard loosing a parent. The child's life becomes more stressful because of economic loss and the loss of a supportive parent. Since many children do not adjust well, their behavior is affected. The change is devastating for many children and it affects their entire life. Divorce of parents causes many problems and affects children negatively.
Once upon a time, a traditional family structure was created by one man marrying one woman and procreating. Within the last few years, this has begun to change. Family structures are now being changed and created through divorce and remarriage, same-sex partners, and single-parents. When the leaders of these family structures can no longer co-exist, divorce or separation comes. If children are involved, a custody agreement needs to be arranged.
Even though divorce is not commonly thought of as a good thing, it sometimes can have a positive outcome such as the children and parents being happy, and allowing the children to mature. Parents being separated can be better for the kids because they won’t have to deal with the parents fighting. If the kids are put in a better and stable environment it can affect them in positive ways. Sometimes divorce is better for the child if they have been in the environm...
It has been said, children from two-parent families are better off. The setting is also a factor to take into consideration. The increase in single- parent homes has had an extensive and negative effect on children’s development. 50% of marriages end in divorce. We have young people with young minds having children, they can hardly take care of themselves at the age of 21, yet they have decided to bring four children into this world to be raised by one parent. In some communities, majority of the children are being raised by a single parent. Statistics have shown that children raised in a healthy single parent home have more problems emotionally, psychologically, in school, and with the law than those raised in healthy two-parent homes. No matter how good a single parent is, that a single parent can NEVER do for the child how two present, committed, parent partners share and work together; communicate together and solve problems together as equals.
Divorce is becoming increasingly common among couples in today’s time. It is sad to know that most cases of divorce involve children. Divorce affects the parents but it affects the children much more. Divorce impacts kids greatly, often causing depression, rebellion, or inspiration/motivation, to develop and potentially end up a permanent aspect in their lives.
Divorce is more than just a legal dissolution of a married couple. It is a terminating process that breaks down a family that can leaves devastating consequences with the family. Society’s view on marriage has drastically changed from how it was viewed fifty years ago. Now of days people have easier access to divorce so instead of trying to work out conflicts they find it easier to simply sign some papers and rid themselves of their spouse. With divorce rates as high as they are today it seems as if people are not taking it considerations the potential devastating effects divorce may have on a child. Currently half of all divorces involve minor children (Portinoy, 2008), that is a lot of children
it is healthy for the kids if they feel dragged between their mother and father,