You could be genius if you want to. You just not trying” (Tan, 102). The narrator was her own biggest enemy and her mother was her biggest support, which made their views so different from one another. The narrator had a mother that loved and encouraged her to be the best that she could be. She was able to live a good life, but wasn’t able to appreciate the good life that she had because she was focused on what
united, if he did" (115). Edna reveals early in the story that she was not passionately in love with her husband when she married him, ... ... middle of paper ... ...ife. If Edna could only be content to be just a wife and mother, to find true happiness in this, she could resolve the conflict in her marriage. This is not possible for Edna. It is Edna’s inability to reconcile her true self with the woman that society and her husband expect her to be, that leads to her actions in the end.
(Act 1, Scene V, pg. 54.) Amanda could never show any recognition for what her children had achieved. After Laura had dropped out of business school, Amanda was very pessimistic about her future, and was sure she would become an "old maid." Amanda did not even think of the possibility that Laura could be successful on her own, she failed to recognize that maybe both Laura and Tom would be happy and successful if they were only given the change to chose what they wanted to do for themselves, rather than their mother always making their decisions for them.
Emily has hopes of becoming a comedic actress and making her own path through life; however, this is very unlikely and she will most probably turn out like her mother. Her mother even doubts her, claiming she “has much to her and probably little will come of it” (Olsen 298). Despite Emily’s enormous potential and talent as an actress, the world rarely accepts female actresses or comedians because they believe women are meant to care for children. Society is able to prevent many young women from determining their own fate because traditional motherhood is self perpetuating, meaning children are taught the same gender roles that their parents are taught. Emily is taught that women stay in the house and iron; she is not encouraged enough by her mother early on.
She intuitively knew that her mother did not posses some of the qualities she desired and this frustrated her. While at the end of the story, Beccah learns to feel love for her mother (given her tragic circumstances), it is clear that she was angered, frustrated, and embarrassed at times- and at some level wished she could have had a different parent.
She was lost in her past and what she could have bee. She was an irresponsible mother who did not allow her children to make their own choices. She planned her responsibilities to Laura on Tom, leaving him with a large considerable amount of responsibilities that he did not ask for or what. Domineering is the best word to explain her. Tom and Laura were constantly being put down by their mother, and told to do things they did not want to do.
Being too independent can affect personal relationships, yet on the other end of the spectrum, being too dependent on other people could cause others to view you as a burden. So what is the happy medium here and how can both extremes be avoided? Hagar Shipley is an independent woman, but it is because she has to be or because she wants to be? Her independence began at a young age, since she had no mother in her childhood to set examples for her, nor a mother to go to for advice. Her Auntie Doll was her only possible female role model in her life, but Hagar did not have much appreciation or respect for her.
They began to lose touch with each other. Nel got married and Sula left because she claimed there was nothing left for her in the Bottom, since Nel is a devoted mother and wife. Sula felt as if Nel was putting her on the sidetrack instead of the main road, which hurt her a little. According to society every woman’s main desire should be toward creating life and building a family. This is a true statement in many cases; however, when it comes to Sula it is far from it.
Especially Sara [mother], who was deeply invested Kate’s well-being and made clouded judgments. When Sara decided for Anna to donate her kidney to Kate, she was only thinking of saving Kate for a few more years and not how Anna’s life would be affected by losing a kidney. Therefore Sara should not be given authority over Anna’s medical treatments. When a parent, like Sara, begins to act on their own selfish desires,
Jing-mei differed from her mother in one way: “I did not believe I could be anything I wanted to be” (Tan 484), leading her to stubbornly refuse to try, until, in time, she finally understood what her mother wanted for her: the best she could be. From the haircut mishap to the magazine tests, Jing-mei had more or less tried to live up to her mother’s expectations. However, since the piano fiasco, Jing-mei gave up, and soon after, her mother lost hope in her daughter as well. It wasn’t until years later, after her mother had died, did Jing-mei realize her mother’s intentions. Jing-mei was once a pleading child stuck on the notion that “I could only be me” (Tan 484), but twenty years later, she became perfectly contented, understanding that there is no limit to efforts and dreams.