It is sad the way new generations are growing without knowing what real “love” is. This is caused because of the way society has changed our perspective of love and turned it into just a game. App’s, websites, social media, and even slangs for example “Netflix and Chill” have made it difficult for people looking for true love to find it. Also, it is being used as a comfort for people that have various problems with dating. Nowadays, the word love is said all the time losing its meaning each time it's constantly repeated. And as a result leaving teens unprepared for real love and hard to distinguish when it really comes.
Our society has made love look like a game and it's not even about finding love or looking for the perfect person any more. Now it’s all about who, you can get with
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This is condone true things such as; Grinder, Kik, Tinder, Facebook, Snapchat, Music, Instagram, and etc….Places where people are able to talk to one another without really having to have meet before. “Hooking-up seems to be a way to avoid commitment and painful breakup”. As said by Sean McDowell from the Finding True Love website. Many teens also use hookup culture as a way to escape many problems like depression, and loneliness. And can feel a comfort for people that aren't capable to keep a long lasting relationship. The belief that hooking up is becoming more acceptable throughout society is scary because it’s even getting compared to something that we do everyday, as it is in Finding True love article by Sean McDowell “One of the greatest deceptions of our hookup culture is the idea that sex is merely about pleasure this is why comparisons are often made between sex and food”. And it's not just food were see comparisons like these. Also, in music many famous hip hop musicians often make remarks to hooking with a person and never seeing them
Love is said to be one of the most desired things in life. People long for it, search for it, and crave it. It can come in the form of partners, friends, or just simply family. To some, love is something of a necessity in life, where some would rather turn a cold shoulder to it. Love can be the mixture of passion, need, lust, loyalty, and blood. Love can be extraordinary and breathtaking. Love being held so high can also be dangerous. Love can drive people to numerous mad things with it dangerously so full of craze and passion.
According to the article “Tinder and the Dawn of the “Dating Apocalypse,’” “People used to meet their partners through proximity, through family and friends, but now Internet meeting is surpassing every other form” (Sales). Jo Sales’ point is that the Internet is overtaking other ways of meeting a partner. In the past, the way of finding one’s potential partner was through family members, but now society is moving in the direction of using the Internet as a way to find their partners. Students in college provided a great amount of information regarding hookup culture, which supported Jo Sales arguments. According to Martin Monto and Anna Carey, “Current research and the popular media have claimed that the hookup culture is a widespread phenomenon that has replaced traditional dating...” (Monto and Carey 606). In making this comment, traditional relationships that were once said to be loving and caring have moved to sexual activity called hookups. Research shows how hookup culture has overtaken the roots of traditional dating and will continue to expand in the future. The study shows how college students were involved in one-night stands frequently knowing that they do not want to build a long lasting relationship. Traditional dating in the past formed stable relationships, and the idea of hookup culture was not even a topic of discussion. Questions
Going along with this quote, it is stated that hooking up is detrimental to a possible future relationship with that person, and that the days following the hookup could be awkward. A key aspect of the hookup culture that differs from committed relationships, is that there is a need for the separation of emotion from the physical activity: “A true expulsion of commitment requires a separation of emotions from physical activity that is challenging to accomplish” (Kelly 37). This is one reason as to why the hookup culture is skewed against women. It is scientifically suggested that it is easier for men to separate emotions from physical activity than it is for women. Along with this aspect, there are feminist that believe the hookup culture is skewed against women for multiple other reasons as well. Some feminist believe that: “Women should participate in the hookup culture in order to match the freedom of men” (Kelly 41). This quote suggests that men have more freedom than women, even on college campuses and in regards to sexual gratification. Others suggest that women that take part of the hookup culture, and are known to take part in it by males, are less desirable because they have the connotation of a “slut”.
When thinking about this question, I realized that how I classified a “hook up” depends on who I am talking to. When I am talking to female friends, a hook-up is making out with someone that we don’t know very well, but if it is a male it is sexual acts like oral sex, manual stimulation, and intercourse. While this is a personal distinction that I make when discussing the topic, I think it highlights the perception that men and woman expect different things to happen when they hookup. While many women do hook-up just for sex, I think they are also more likely to classify making out with a man as a hook up because they have been socialized to consider any sexual act as being a big deal. However, men have been socialized to “seal the deal” and
Hookups are a revolution within the female community because it is no longer just men who are the “one and done”, “no strings attached” kind of people. The gender roles that have been so prevalent in American culture no longer have the strict limitations and guidelines as they once did. What once was a woman living to please a man has evolved into a woman not needing a man to approach her, but rather, the woman taking initiative. Being assertive is seen as a man’s job but in regards to hookups, a woman can be assertive in what she wants to do and who she wants to do these things with. Going outsize of ones assigned gender role is also where I see society having the most issues with accepting hookup culture. Men particularly are taken aback when a woman displays her sexual freedom because that is what men are supposed to do, while the women are expected to be delicate flowers. What is so mind blowing is that heteronormative men are expecting to get casual sex as they please yet they still expect women to be untouched by others and for those women to lend their bodies for the man’s
True love or love in general is essential for human life. Since birth, babies are loved and nurtured by their mothers and fathers; completely vulnerable to the world, yet protected by the very people who created them. A parent's bond and love with their child is nothing that can be described unless you have a child of your own. I will only know the true magnitude of this kind of compassion and devotion to someone when I have a child of my own. Romance has always been apart of human culture; From Ancient Roman plays to Shakespeare to today with Nicholas Sparks’ the Notebook and other popular books he has wrote; But today with so much media with books and music and movies many people find themselves unsure of what true love actually is, and what it means to devote yourself to someone for a long term relationship instead of “dating” someone for 3 weeks and breaking up because the other person spilt chilli all over your favorite christmas sweater.
Love is a level of emotion too difficult for a strict definition. Love has existed since the beginning of time and it still exists even in the hectic society we live in today. Over the years, the involvement of technology within every day life and romantic relationships has grown. We can even see how it has begun to affect these relations in “Cat Person” by Kristen Roupenian and in a more dramatized sense, the film, The Entire History of You, by Brian Welsh, where more advanced technologies are used to even break relationships. A common concept that flows through both of these pieces is the overuse of technology.
Love is affection, devotion, passion, desire, warmth, respect or loyalty. You choose. It doesn't really matter which one because they are all forms of love. Some are powerful and demand attention while others are more subtle and just below the surface. In recent years, love has drifted from these subtle levels to the more noticeable ones, namely passion. In my opinion, our society downplays the real necessity for genuine affection. By this I mean that we, as a society, spend so much time focusing on only one level of love (passion) that we tend to neglect and not recognize the need for closeness and trust (friendship). Love is an all-encompassing emotion that can be powerful and demanding, but also rewarding and pleasurable.
Love is an intense feeling of deep affection. Love is seen everywhere from music, movies, TV shows, and most commonly used is literature. In today’s society teens tend to see love as the man having the control in the relationship. For example if a man did something wrong and the women confronted him about it the woman would be the bad guy. Having a “main chick” and “sides” is a new trend now. It works both ways, women can have three men and men can have three females. The sad thing about the new “trend” is that’s not an honest, truthful relationship. Love is having affection for one person only, not multiple people all at once. It take s more than looks to fall for someone. Media and literature have changed it up on society that now females
Love is not usually well defined. People often think that they are in love, but they can�t explain it. There is a great dealing of confusion of the words love, and infatuation. Love may include romance, infatuation, affection and tenderness. But it could be love if one or more of the elements are not present. The definition of love varies from person to person. Love is essential element for all relationships. Much of what is written about love is either brief or mocking. Society in general is very cruel and heartless toward real love of any kind. Modern writing mocks marriages, husbands and wives, but condones adultery, and other obscene values. Real love is a mystery to most people. Most people never realize the true potential or value of love, nor do they learn to practice the art of love.
The word love is usually misused or misinterpreted. There are numerous meanings and definitions to this overly used word. Not many of them make much sense to me. Love is a feeling of complete bliss. Love is something that can’t be touched or bought, but is something that is much better than money and earthly objects. I can stay here and describe love all day long and still have so much more to say about this word days later. Love isn’t a word that should be used lightly, but usually is. I believe that love is the most commonly used, but most understood word ever known
Many people have different perspectives when it comes to the topic of love. The word love has been tossed around by everybody and not very many people really understand the true meaning of love. There are some exceptions, but I think this is especially true for teenagers and young adults. I might be one of those people who do not fully understand the topic of love, but I hope to better understand the topic of love and its true meaning is this course.
Over time the definition of love and what it is has been debated and argued over, but in most cases the answer is very similar. "True love is like two rivers that meet and merge, intertwining completely into one, then flowing on together. True love cannot be buried; but once unselfishly rooted it will grow forever." Quote on quote true love does exist but unfortunately is not found by all.
“I love you.” These three little words might possibly be the most powerful statement one can make to another person. In life, most yearn for the intimate affection that a certain someone can provide them. Women dream of their Prince Charming to come and sweep them off their feet, while men search for the love of their life that sets their heart on fire. But what happens when love is thrown around without a second thought? Has this four letter word become an overused cliché? Has love been replaced with lust? Is there such a thing as true love? This last question has been asked throughout history, while many have argued and debated over the final answer. We, as a society, have become a loveless, sex crazed group of people with no concern for any emotion or attachment in our lives. So does this mean that true love does not exist? No. This only shows that achieving the deepest of feelings takes work that our fast-food eating, TV watching generation is not prepared to handle. I believe that true love does exist, but has merely been pushed aside by convenience, superficiality, and apathy.
What is love? Love is a very special and meaningful word to each human being. Each human being has his/her own thoughts about love to guide himself/herself to land safely and smoothly into the kingdom of Love. Without this preconceived idea of love, people would be acting like a blind person searching for the light with thousand of obstacles in front of him.