I believe George Holden chose to focus on parenting styles because corporal punishment has become a common parenting approach, with over 70% of families participating. The speaker wants to introduce and convince families to a better parenting style. Holden presents a paradoxical argument that argues the way to empower children and parents is to disempower parents. He touches on the subject of corporal punishment and its unintended side effects . He transitions from speaking about a “traditional” parenting orientation, to what he considers a better option, “positive” parenting. He goes into further detail in regard to the lite and strong version of “positive” parenting and its core practices.
Primarily, Holden focuses on discrediting the traditional
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He explains the differences of these practices in comparison to the examples he showed of “corporal punishment”. In substitution of punishment, he encourages using humor, staying calm, avoiding punishments/rewards, and using “time-ins .”
I found the audio examples of various families provided to be quite intriguing and surprising. These parents were getting mad at their children for ridiculous reasons. It was alarming to hear how impatient the parents could be, but of course I understand how stressful life can be and how sometimes any little thing can set you off. It was interesting to see all the similarities within the examples and how at times most parents use corporal punishment for immediate compliance instead of using it to teach a lesson.
I also found Holden’s views on parenting to be a bit unrealistic. I think “positive parenting” is far better than “corporal punishment” but it isn’t as practical for everyone’s lifestyle. Holden, in my opinion, tried to make parents, that do use spanking as a punishment, guilty for how they raise their children. Some parents believe in tough love and the preparation it gives you for life. “Positive parenting” is a fascinating approach to parenting but it seems to only be realistic in a dream world. Issues arise like permissive parenting, too much stress on both the parents and child, and separation
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By avoiding conflict and avoiding punishment the child becomes accustomed to not receiving consequences. If this child were to step into a classroom and misbehave, teachers wouldn’t just overlook the issue, they would respond with punishment. A large part of life is actions and their consequences.
My second questions for Holden would be why he chose to study “positive parenting” and what his approach to parenting was for his children? I believe people’s opinions are formed by their own experiences. For example, how Holden was raised and how he raised his own children. Has he seen the benefits of “positive parenting” and has he experience any of its pitfalls?
My final question would be how the parents of the example reacted to their own recording and actions? Did they get to reflect on their parenting style and decide for themselves if that is how they want to raise their child? Sometimes we don’t realize what we are doing until we step back and see/hear it from an outsider’s perspective. I completely agree with Holden when he states that these parents could have handled these situations differently. I believed in a blend of parenting styles that create a loving environment but also discipline the child whether it’s spanking when necessary or talking it
Holden struggles with himself mightily and cannot fulfill his responsibilities. One of Holden’s struggles is that he has a bad attitude towards everyone. For example, at the school he goes to, he hates his roommates and his teachers. In addition to not liking anyone, Holden
To conclude, Holden try’s desperately on holding on to his innocents. Triggered by the loss of his brother, Holden makes it his mission to protect kids from there inevitable maturity, sealing them from phony’s and. When he realised that he could not achieve the qoel of saving all children from growing up Holden has a nervous breakdown. He dosint understand the proses of life ad he can’t pick to stay a child for ever when in reality growing up is inevitable. ‘’We've let the blade of our innocence dull over time, and it's only in innocence that you find any kind of magic, any kind of courage.”
Mr. Antolini?s theory as to what is wrong with Holden is right on, it?s just too bad he was unable to get through to Holden. Due to the fact that Holden has already given up on himself and is unwilling to apply the valuable advice he has been given. He has lost the substantial ability to find happiness in life and therefore can?t find the energy to motivate himself in anything he does. It?s a tragedy that someone as bright as Holden Caulfield is unable to find the strength within himself to persevere in a world of insanity.
When one does not stand for something, one is bound to fall for anything. Because Holden lacked paternal figures in his life or a greater influence he took the idea of innocence as his mantra. His need to find an identity led him to find a role model in children, which led him to believe permanent innocence would mean happiness and sanity. He held on to his idea and sought out to find innocence in the dimmest of places. His intoxication with this idea and his disappointing encounters with adults ensure him that nothing but corruption is found once a child grows up. He rejected the idea of adulthood and created further problems for himself. In the process of this well-intentioned plan, Holden loses the little of himself he had. He is left standing only with a hunger for innocence. Because, to him, innocence is all and love is innocence.
Holden a character in “The Catcher in the Rye” would not have been a role model if he lived today. Although the times were different and a lot of things slipped through the cracks his actions would not have been acceptable today. By the facts above it is proof how Holden’s action or personality should not be followed. People in todays day and age want to do well in life not fail out of four schools and have no friends. People even if they did try they could not do some of the stuff that Holden did because society protects kids a lot more than in the past. Holden is not a good role model yet a bad one that should be shown for that fact.
...d to mean the world to him. Both his brother's death and parents desertion have evidently deeply impacted him. Holden pretty well lied to himself, claimed the he had no place in society, all to give him plausible reasons to isolate himself. By calling people phonies, which he frequently did, he was in all reality pushing them away before giving himself the chance to even debate getting to know them. 'Phony people' was like his own private excuse for avoiding making friends. Holden's only hope to attain happiness is to open up to others. If he refuses to, he will forever consider the world to be full of evil, corruption, and phony people. His cynicism, dishonesty and judgemental habits are like a cape that he wears to ward off the elusively hanging threat of abandonment.
There is much controversy over the correct disciplinary actions for kids. If parents discipline their kids too little, they could turn out to be spoiled and entitled, but if they discipline them too much, the kids could become rebellious and act out more often. Experts do not have a specific answer as to which strategy is most effective when teaching a child right from wrong. Although, new studies have shown that numerous parents are very unknowledgable about how quickly their child develops, which can lead to disciplinary problems. In Belinda Luscombe’s article “Most Parents Who Spank Their Kids Say it Doesn’t Work” from June 8, 2016 Time Magazine, the author effectively uses logos for its appeal to reason, and pathos to further convey the information across as to why parents
...from outside disturbances and distractions which is a reason to alienate himself. This shapes Holden in a sense to know how to act responsibly and to being thoughtful of others as he is trying to protect children from the adult word, which he sees as “phony”.
He turns to his former teacher and wise advisor, Mr. Antolini, who, like Phoebe, is one of the few voices of reason capable of getting through to Holden. Antolini recognizes the same truth Phoebe saw, but understands it more clearly: that Holden is too wrapped up in his own mind and his own world of fiction and needs to come to terms with reality before it is too late. If his ways are not changed, Antolini can picture Holden “dying nobly…for some highly unworthy cause” (207). Antolini fears that Holden has set himself on a path that will lead him to regret, bitterness, and even death if he does not switch out his fantasies for reality. Holden, in a moment of clarity, considers Antolini’s advise and sways towards realism. However, his clarity does not last as Holden relapses into his romantic dreams, planning again to run away and live an entirely improbable life complete with an imaginary wife. The most important component of this dream being that should he and his fictitious wife have children, Holden would “hide them somewhere” (219). This wild fantasy is a last-ditch effort meant to replace his reverie of being the catcher in the rye for, though he would not save all the children of the world or himself, he would at least be able to protect his own children from maturity and adulthood. His certainly insane
To begin with, Holden’s love for the innocence and purity of childhood makes him very hesitant to transition into an adult life. Generally, he finds children to be straightforward, easygoing, and simply pure in every way. This is because they always say what they mean, and never try to set a false façade for...
Khazan states that by not punishing children, a parent practices the correct way to parent and attempts to prove that theory by confronting a controversial issue with confidence in order to persuade the reader to believe them. The article that Khazan wrote presents the opinion of not punishing children as a fact. Both she and Alan Kazdin, the man she interviewed, speak with confidence about this controversial subject, possibly with the intent of preventing the reader from thinking enough about the topic to form their own opinions on the theory. The thesis of the article is “Punishment might make you feel better, but it won’t change the kid’s behavior.”(Khazan), proving that they focus on convincing parents of this theory. Painting pictures of firm, factual, better ways to rear children, Khazan convinces casual readers that the opinions stated in the piece are factual.
Parents are the most important support system in their children’s lives. There is a breakdown in this support system for Holden. His relationship with his parents is very dysfunctional; he rarely talks to them and avoids seeing them in person. Mr. and Mrs. Caulfield have their own life agenda, which doesn’t include Holden as a priority. Their obligation is mainly to pay for the various boarding schools he attends. Holden’s parenting comes mostly from these boarding schools. Holden even feared returning home or was ambivalent about seeing his parents. When he did return home to visit his sister, Phoebe, he avoided his parents as much as possible. “It was a helluva lot easier getting out of the house than in, for some reason. For one thing, I didn’t give much of a damn anymore if they caught me. I really didn’t.” (p. 180) Any person that has a good relationship with their parents would certainly try go to them for help especially if they were in a difficult time in their life. Holden was undergoing a very difficult time in his life; he was lonely and desperate for someone to talk to. Instead of seeking his parents, he chose to avoid them. This portrays the lack of the primary support system in Holden’s life, his parents.
Spanking is an important aspect of a child’s social development and should not be considered an evil form of abuse. In her argument, Debra Saunders says that there is an obvious difference between beating a child and spanking a child, and parents know the boundary. Spanking is the most effective form of discipline when a child knows doing something is wrong, but the child does it anyway. A child who is properly disciplined through spanking is being taught how to control her or his impulses and how to deal with all types of authorities in future environments. Parents can control their child’s future behavior by using spanking in early childhood, because if...
It is evident that Holden Caufield has specific moments where he can recall and apply them wherever he is in life. His unleashing of children and their ability to explore the world without assistance has helped him transition to the real adult world. His fascination with ducks has made him realize that nothing is ever permanent and no one can always be there for when ever one falls. Lastly, the passing of a loved one can be times of despair but learning to grow and fight the internal struggle can help bring ease. Holden has really transformed from an egoistic individual to a genuine gentleman, he has grown from his experiences and is able to tolerate more pain. The reality has struck Holden no matter how distorted the outside world is to him, maturing is inevitable and using these moments will always be something for him to live for.
Holden’s goal is to resist the process of maturing. He fears change and because of this, he comes up with two different personalities; one for childhood and one for adulthood. He feels more safe in one than