Introduction
What is help? In my personal opinionated definition; I say help is a pathetic word used to make other people feel good about themselves. The saying: there is no such thing as a good deed comes to my mind. Everyone has a reason to helping others, they think it will give them good publicity or it will make them feel better for the pain and suffering they cause in the world. But does anyone ever help because it is simply out of good human nature, almost as if it were a reflex to help or say something nice? My paper is going to critically examine a personal situation where I needed help myself, and how my suffering went unnoticed for months.
We tend to focus on the people who show physical needs for help, if we see an elderly women
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When a crisis strikes everyone rushes to help and donate money because we think that is what they need, we create job ads so that people know we need their help in terms of employment. We are told and shown when to help someone, nothing is ever done from the goodness of our hearts because if that were the case we would all seem content even in the worst of situations. Relating it back to my situation, I would’ve been happy if I even had someone in my classes that wanted to talk to me every time I walked in, however everyone was more concerned with the latest ios software and drake song. I didn’t write help me on my forehead, therefore I wasn’t …show more content…
In relation to my story no one came to my rescue when I needed it, no one even noticed I needed to be rescued. I saw therapists and some teachers would even stop and talk to me after counsellors would inform them “to be calm around me,” so its not like we don’t have people in place to help. It is just the method they use for helping that needs to change because it really isn’t helping anyone but themselves. We help based on what we see and think we know, but we can never truly help a person unless we can understand what they have experienced. Help is a way to make money and publicity. If all the doctors (and other jobs that assist people medically) in the world were told that they weren’t being paid anymore to help save lives, how many of them would stay to volunteer? They would still have to go through all that schooling to gain some knowledge and they did it all just to help dedicate their time to helping those in critically need it, the number of doctors that would leave for a new profession would be
The book The Help was written as a fictional story that showed the lives of three women, two who were colored and the other one who was not. However, even though it was fiction it gave us a realistic view on what it was like to live in the 60’s. This book was about a white women and colored maids coming together to write a book. It also shows that no matter what race, gender or who you are does not matter. We are all equal. There were many conflicts in this book, but the real tremendous one was people versus a
The Help, is a film based on the lives of a young woman named Skeeter and two African American women named Aibileen Clark and Minny Jackson. Skeeter, who dreamed of becoming a writer took actions into her own hands
Arguing that their inaction was immoral to their responsibilities as a community will not offer a rebuttal to the argument that people will not help their fellows. Social proof and pluralistic ignorance give us some sort of reconciliation in the contradiction of Kitty’s case. How a group of people decent people did not give help. They had the moral responsibility to do something, as long as they are doing something to help the person they are fulfilling their responsibility and obligation to do
I both agree and disagree with Peter Singer. While I believe that we do have a moral obligation to help others, I also believe we have a moral obligation to leave other people alone and let them get on with their lives.
Although helping those that go through hardships in life is the right thing to do, In the novel Night they talk about helping the needy. From source 1 it says “As a rule, our townspeople, while they did help the needy, did not particularly like them.” They are saying just because someone is going through something everyone else should not have to help them with their problems.
One time, when I was around five, it was night time and I had a school project to turn in the next day, I approached my mother and told her that I needed help with my project. Of course I told her that I had to turn in the project the next day, and she proceeded to scold me for waiting until the last minute to do my work, but never the less she accepted to help me. If I had asked for help when I was five, I must have asked for help later in my life, because I’m sure I’ve needed help many times, and not only from my mother but from friends, teachers, peers, strangers, and family.
Helping is the most powerful way that one can show love and affection for others. Being there for someone who is going through a hard time in his/her life means more than anything for that person. I believe what kept the world still alive is helping one another. For example during the world war I, when European powerful nations are fighting for no reason killing the people who could be their brothers if they weren’t wearing that uniform and holding that gun. When germany was thinking they won the war already, but when the United States join the Allies, everything comes into peace. Woodrow wilson’s plan for peace was achieved by helping the the Allies fight the central powers who influenced the Nation by power, military and economy had to give up their position.
How do humans actually behave when faced with the decision to help others? The innate desire that compels humans to help is called altruism by psychologists. Through this feeling, humans transform from a selfish jerk to a more compassionate and caring person. Some psychologists believe that this feeling stems from nature itself. Despite the fact that some altruistic acts originate from the pressures of society, altruism predominantly comes from the survival of the fittest, the feeling of empathy, and the selfish desire to benefit your own kin.
Some of the negative effects of altruism include injury to or even the death of the helper, the lack of addressing all possible needs, burnout, a threat to justice and equality, and the promotion of indifference to those that are not in immediate need of assistance (Myers, 2010).
those who know us best not be allowed to help? Why is it considered acceptable
Corey, G., Corey, M. S., & Callanan, P. (2011). Issues and ethics in the helping professions. (8th
It's true that we all need to make a difference in times of crisis and need, but we also need to strive to make a difference each day. I know that I can make a difference in the lives of many people by simply lending a helping hand or showing kindness to others. I try to take the time to cheer up my grandmother and older friends in the nursing home by paying them a visit. I know my parents stay very busy and it helps them out when I come home and lend a helping hand without being asked. I can help a friend with their homework, or sometimes help by just being there to listen to them.
Peter Singer said; “If it is in our power to prevent something bad from happening, without thereby sacrificing anything of comparable moral importance, we ought, morally, to do it” (Famine, Affluence, and Morality). As human beings, we have a moral compulsion to help other people, despite the verity that they may be strangers, especially when whatever type of aid we may render can in no approach have a more significant consequence on our own life.
First, there are many situational factors such as: the victim, priority, bystanders, location, and much more. Typically, the gender of the individual needing help can influence their chance of receiving the help needed. It was found that women usually lent a helping hand to people of any gender (Attraction, Close Relationships, and Helping Others, 2016). On the other hand, men had a tendency to favor helping women over men. Also, people tend to judge the appearance of the individual. If the victim is appealing to the eye, has a look familiarity, or is perceived to deserve help, then the likelihood of the bystander to act altruistically increases (Attraction, Close Relationships, and Helping Others, 2016). Another situational factor that is important to consider is the priority of the emergency as well as the amount of people nearby. As one is passing by noticing a victim needing help, the emergency of the situation is considered. Therefore, if the situation is perceived as not being life threatening the bystander may continue on their way without offering help (Attraction, Close Relationships, and Helping Others, 2016). Not only this but if there are numerous bystanders in the nearby area, it decreases the chances of any one individual stopping to help. This is known as the bystander effect which is described as, “the effect whereby the presence of others inhibits helping,” (Kassin, Fein, & Markus, 2014, p. 436). This is due to the fact that individuals assume that the other people around will offer help so that they do not need to. When dealing with altruistic influences, one must also regard the personal influences. This would include both the personality as well as the emotional state of the individual deciding to help others. Two personality traits that researchers found to be a common factor in increasing the chances of
I often think to myself “ what more can I do to help?”. I never feel like what I do is enough. And I think I know why, when I approach people most of them never reject my help. But every so often I encounter someone who dose. And most of the time I don't want to bother them so I let them be. But when I think about it I was once in their place. I would think that asking for help is a sign of weakness, but in reality asking for help is the bravest thing a person can do. Admitting that you need help and you cant do it on your own helps you grow as a person. And from now on when I encounter those people that tend to say “no I do not need your help” I will try my best to help them anyway, even if they don't want it, I know they need it.