For Watson, her invitation she sends out to men to lend their hand to the feminist movement might be seen as a desperate call for assistance. Perceived in such a manner, Watson’s vision could be interpreted as a lack of power for the feminist movement, showcasing how women continue to remain dependent on men to advance their own causes. While most feminist circles would not interpret her message in this manner, misogynist male groups would be prone to adopt this belief and refuse to offer assistance for the cause. The vision of de Zayas is also faced with limitations in its application. 17th century Spain was completely dominated by men, and so it would likely be an ineffective strategy to berate men in the hopes of bringing about change.
Critics of feminist studies of men often argue that the politics to change values and behaviour need to come from men themselves, because feminist women’s long efforts against gender discrimination, misogyny, sexual harassment, rape, battering, and male violence have often created backlash and stubborn resistance from men (Lorber, 2012, 274). If men do not fight for what they want they will not see change, it will not be handed to them as many things have already been. Although, the question presumes, why would men want to change something that they feel is just fine? This is where controversy takes place. A change must occur in order for things to be equal.
Society defines gender roles where men are at the same disadvantage as women. Our society contemplates that gender roles affect how men and women are treated on a daily basis. Women are primarily the ones who are concerned about this and fear that men are treated as the better fragment but are they really? They are fighting to equate females to the same status as men, which are known to be called Feminist. These Feminists believe in the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.
When couples get married the women is always looking for a good comuincator. In a marriage women are the ones that look for a good male counterpart to communicate with, and if the husband is not into communication it can lead to divorce. This was proven in research stated in the article by Deborah Tannen “Most women want their husbands to be first and foremost conversational partners” (101). For example in Catherine Kohler’s research it is stated that “Few of the men gave lack as communication as the reason for their divorces” (102). This proves that men don’t find the need to be a good communicator.
Men set the limitations for women to follow because in a society dominated by the male gender women would feel oppressed and instead of blaming the men they could blame the cult. The male race feels as though their ... ... middle of paper ... ...and ‘The Yellow Wallpaper’ by Charlotte Gilman Web. 26 Nov. 2013. . Gilman, Charlotte Perkins. The Yellow Wallpaper.
“Being-for-others” describes one person’s sense of how others view them. When thinking about how others view themselves, they are actually the object of someone else’s consciousness. Beauvoir starts to expand on his theory by saying that men have imposed their view on what they think women should be instead of one individual imposing their idea on another person. And because men have always been imposing their views on women for so long, women do not have the chance to develop their own sense of self. It’s interesting how women have been oppressed so much and aren’t able to enforce their opinions on what they expect from men and expect them to stick.
She states that “this is the single most dispiriting dilemma between women and men.” Finally Rubin goes on to suggest that while men can act out anger and frustration inside the family, the expression of fear, dependency, or sadness would expose vulnerability, and is difficult for men to do (Rubin p. 383-388). Another Sociologist, Deborah Tannon, has done research in the differences between communication methods of women and men. She also suggests that conflicting ideas of intimacy and independence plays a critical role in the differing views of communication.
The ideology of the power of males over women in a society through the structures of authority and social convention may be applied to this (Brym and Lie: 2015). Women are inferior to men due to men’s rights within law, politics, economics and culture (Brym and Lie: 2015). This lens can be applied to the scenario of where I conform to the views of men. The primary socializations within my life have taught me gender differences. Although I have grown and possess my own beliefs, subconsciously I chose to be silent due to the power that men have over women.
In her book Fraterrigo talks about how men q... ... middle of paper ... ...society. While there may only be two widely accepted, continually bashed, but nonetheless accepted masculinity, the breadwinner and the bachelor, that does mean there is not room for more masculinities that can be accepted by most. Men are feeling the malaise and unhappiness frequently, which means that a change will come in which men can feel as they belong to something that defines them as masculine, and are accepted for it. Evidence from our own history in America with both men and women changing the perceptions on the roles of their own gender have proven that in time progression will be made. The real question that is yet to be answered is; what new types of masculinities will arise, and when will they come?
Despite what women say, having children should not be a priority. Because of the women’s attitudes towards men today in America, it is recommended to find a wife somewhere overseas. Both of the texts have a strong point on men’s rights, and the perception on what women really want out of men. The authors would probably agree that men are being treated unfairly compared to women these days.