A part of being an adult is that you make mistakes but you always learn from the mistakes and that prevent you from doing the same mistakes all over again. What I am trying to say is good to be a kid but you have to grow up to become an adult because that’s how you decide what kind of life style you want instead of your parent making it for you. I know some were not given a chance to enjoy childhood but what you got is more importance meaning that you who didn’t enjoy you childhood you had a head start to become a adult and maybe do better than other who didn’t went trough your situation
Discipline in Childhood Children require freedom to grow and to learn, but they will not thrive on unlimited freedom. The aim of discipline is to set reasonable limits which protect children from harm and teach them what is safe and what is not. If children are to grow up into responsible, conscientious, and dependable adults, they must learn the social, moral, and ethical standards that are considered acceptable in our society. They must also learn to respect the rights and property of others. Children brought up without discipline may become selfish, greedy, dishonest, unpopular, uncooperative and insecure.
This is what makes them act the way they do. Common ground between the two ways of parenting would be a way better approach to rasing a child. One could be strict but not too strict. Give the child some freedom but not be too free. Children do need structure and discipline in their lives.
Children are somewhat aware of what they can get away with, as ﬁguring this out is one of the basic ways they learn how to act. By the time they reach adulthood they understand what is acceptable at what times and what is not. Whether they conform to these standards or not is their choice, but they are aware of the fact that the standards do exists. Others around them know that they are aware of this, and have expectations, increasing the pressure to act that way. Children aren’t expected to be as aware, and other’s expectations are lower for them, allowing children more freedom under this pressure.
The way that parents raise their children is much contrasted to the way that dictators would like to treat them. In order for children to be self-reliant and self-sufficient, they have to know that not everything is going to be chewed up and handed in a platter for them to freely take. Remember that if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of your arm.
Parents love and trust their children, but in some situations they trust them too much. They assume with the training they brought up their children, they can never go the wrong path. They think they don’t have to upset their selves by creating boundaries, so they allow their children to do as it pleases them. Michael Pearl alleged “if children came into the world with a disciplined mind and willing to deny every negative act, that is when parents don’t need boundaries”. Parents know better in situations like this and yet ignore.
Sometimes children misbehave on purpose so they can call to your attention. Some of the most important ways to educate a child are the following: be consistent about rules, model good behavior, reward the good behavior, be clear about rules, neutralize arguments, distinguish punishment from discipline, withholding privileges, and pay attention to the child´s feelings. Parents need to be consistent and clear about their rules. They should be discussed in a moment when the child is willing to listen and not when he/she already broke it. The rules should not be vague; it is better when the child knows what his/her parents are expecting.
How they deal with anger, work through their issues, and how they solve difficult problems usually depends on how the parents handle those same things. If it’s with communication and openness, then the child will most likely be a well adjusted adult when they grow up. If there are unhealthy examples, such as poor communication skills between the parents, then the child will follow that example instead and will not have an easy time solving their problems later on in life. It’s extremely important to lay the foundation of healthy communication while the child is young, so they can carry that over into the teenage and adult years and have an easier time going through life. Life’s not at all easy, but if a parent can make their child’s life just a little bit easier by giving them the communication skills they need early on, then that’s an important part of having that healthy, open communication with their child, even when they’re little.
They are both discovering themselves, but they are doing it in different environments. And these environments are what is going to teach people about themselves. In many minorities they do not want to recognize that kids need to have freedom and support to be themselves. There is a cultural expectation for minority kids to be mature without any time to actually become mature. But that does not mean they do not go through a ‘self-discovery’ phase, if emerging adulthood was recognized, it would drop the risks of it alienating everyone and give freedom for everyone to be
As I grew older I realized that these rules were more flexible than I once thought. The needs and interest of others also play a role in how a child behaves morally they learn that have to behave morally to get moral behavior back. Children have to figure out their own standards of what is the right thing to do, and feel guilty and ashamed when they do wrong even if no one else knows (Harter, 1996). During level 2 according to Kohlberg’s stages, conventional morality, children behave morally in order to live up to the expectations of others and maintain relationships that contain trust and loyalty. Children also recognize law and order during this level.