There are many kinds of loss, and grief from loss. The most common grief that everyone has to endure at one point or another is the loss of a loved one to death. This grief has written about by poets; talked about by philosophers; and recorded and described in the Bible. The heart ache and pain from losing a loved one has led to the most agonizing grief a person will endure and sometimes lasts an entire life time. Much of this book is dedicated to addressing this specific kind of grief. However in this chapter we will look at grief caused by other kinds of loss.
Grief from Loss of a job
Grief can be experienced after any kind of loss. There is a certain amount of grief experienced when losing a job – even if you hated where you worked. Most everyone has experienced losing a job at some time or another, and it is almost always a painful experience. You may have done something to deserve being fired, or you may have been laid off due to cut backs. You may have lost your job due to something not your fault at all. You could have hated your position or loved it. The circumstances surrounding being let go from your work will determine the depths and levels of grief you may endure at its termination.
If you lost a job, but you wanted out of the position, the transition to being without work may not be nearly as painful as it would be if you loved your job. But, if you have no savings, and have little opportunity to quickly find another job it may make things much more difficult. Sometimes, you may hate your job, but you have been there so long it creates a loss in your heart that is unexpected. It is normal to cry, be angry and upset after losing a job.
It is important to not spend too much time in mourning the loss o...
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... can offer a pardon.
• Forgiveness is an act of the will. It lifts the weight from off our shoulders.
• Forgiveness offers a chance at reconciliation. It can heal a broken relationship.
• Forgiveness can unshackle us. The person who caused the offense may not know that they did anything to us – they may have long forgotten – or they may not even care. When we refuse to forgive, we are the ones being held in bondage by the person who did the offense to us, not the other way around.
• The alternative to forgiving is a life filled with hurt, bitterness, and resentment. It is filled with a poison that destroys other relationships, and causes us to not trust even those who have done nothing to lose our trust. It creates a pattern that my stick with us the rest of our lives. It is a cynical acidic poison eating away at our souls that eventually kills its owner.
The motivation and tendency of people to forgive others remains an important topic of discussion. In today’s society most people at some period have experienced feeling of un forgiveness towards friend, or relatives. “Forgiveness was defined as the ability to relinquish of resentment towards others” (Baskin & Enright, 2004, p. 80).
Forgiveness comes in many different points of views, it is not just a word but it’s how you see it mentally, feel it emotionally, and must acquire for yourself to move forward and be happier. In an interview that I saw on youtube with world famous writer Elizabeth Gilbert, she asserted that, “We forgive ourselves and not abuse ourselves for what we didn’t know as it was happening”. I agree with her assertion because everyone does make wrong choices at times and should remember the most important thing is, you must forgive yourself before you can identify what else is needed to be forgiven. Whether it is an unfaithful partner, a past decision or a mistake which had lead you to failure and forgiveness is what we must acquire to live a happier life.
The word grief means a reaction that an individual show particularly for losing someone or something that they are very precious. Grief can be associated with anything like loss of loved ones, relationship breakage, pet death or loss of something that is very precious. Grief is a natural reaction to loss, which is combination of an emotion and psychological response to loss (Wilson, 2012). The process of grief has some dimensions as behavioral, cultural, cognitive, social and philosophical (Sooter, Chikaraishi, & Hedges, 2014). Bereavement is the process of grieving and letting go of the loved one who has passed away. People mourn is affected by religious, belief, culture and customs (Care, 2013). The term bereavement is interlinked with the process
This book explains all there is to know about the subject of forgiveness. It meticulously explains what forgiveness is, why it can be challenging, the psychological and spiritual benefits to forgiveness, how to forgive, and gives many examples of true forgiveness. The authors express in detail what true forgiveness looks like and how letting go of the pain others inflict upon you can provide a chance at renewing the relationship and healing. The book explains how unforgiveness can spin you into a traumatic cycle of hatred and bitterness and how to break the cycle, even in the most difficult of situations. McCullough, Sandage, and Worthington’s To Forgive is Human: How to Put Your Past in the Past was published in 1997 (InterVarsity Press [Downers
Forgiveness and justice are very similar than we believe them to be. We believe that justice is
Forgiveness is a process. You can still feel the pain, see the events behind your eyes, and feel the loss of the people around you but you have to find a way to forgive. People think that if you forgive someone you are forgetting or saying hey I would hang out with this person now because we’re cool but thats not at all what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is righting the wrong for yourself because you want the injustice you feel to leave. It’s acknowledging to that there a wrong that was done to you and you decide how you want to think about it not anyone
Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feeling and attitude regarding an offense; let’s go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender. Walter (1984) stated that forgiveness is a voluntary process that usually requires courage and multiple acts of the will to complete. In Walters' view, the person who has been hurt has two alternatives: to be destroyed by resentment which leads to death, or to forgive which leads to healing and life. Sonja Lyubomirsky calls forgiveness is a natural resolution of the grief process, which is the necessary acknowledgment of pain and loss. It is a powerful choice that can lead to greater well being and better relationships.
Forgiveness is the process of acceptance and closure after being wronged by a person. At some point in everyone's life, there will be moments where forgiving someone just isn’t possible, but i t needs to be done. For everyone deserves a second chance every once in awhile.
As I sit here thinking about was forgiveness means to me. I have come to realize that holding in hate is harmful and the outcome physically and mentally could cause undesirable effects. Although, the process of forgiveness can take many years and the process may start with you. The whole process shouldn’t be seen as an obligation, but a remedy to help with your recovery.
Forgiveness is empathy. I believe it means, putting ones self in the position of the other person, and wiping away any sort of resentment and antagonism we feel toward them. Forgiveness is a journey to freedom. Forgiveness works directly on the emotion of anger, resentment, hostility, and hatred by diminishing its intensity or level within the mind and heart. Only the one who is wronged can forgive.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you have to become friends with the other person, rather it allows you to let go of that heavy burden you feel inside. It allows you to muddle through the difficulties in your life without causing another issue.
Forgiveness is freedom. There is a key that opens the door to healing, happiness and peace, that key is forgiveness. Forgiveness starts from you and it is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Forgiveness of both self and others is the most powerful tool we have, and it is readily attainable to all of us .Take a step of creating a kinder humanity by forgiving someone in your life. If you are convinced and ready to forgive, you may be wondering where to start. My suggestion is to start small by letting go of the grudges, bitterness and anger.
Forgiveness is the act of releasing an offender of any wrong or hurt they may have caused you whether they deserve it or not. It is a decision to let go of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group of people. When we choose to forgive, we’re wiping the slate clean, cancelling a debt, or as I love to say, “Letting it go.” In the Bible, the Greek word for forgiveness literally means to “let it go.” This concept, “forgiveness,” is easier said than done. Majority of people find it very difficult to let go of offenses and hurts caused by others. I really do believe that most people desire to let it go, but we lack the knowledge of how to do it. As believers, we are instructed by God maintain an attitude of forgiveness.
The substance of forgiveness is known to be an important thing and concept in the teaching of Jesus. In the Bible, Jesus has made it clear that unforgiveness is known to be a serious sin nurtured in the heart. As per Jesus Christ, it is said that the person needs to be forgiven even if a serious problem is caused due to him. If not, even we would not be forgiven from God. As per Jesus, if you forgive the sin done by the people, your heavenly will also forgive you if you have committed any sin. We would always want the heavenly father to forgive us for whatever wrong things or the mistakes that we do. In fact, we always think that it is the duty of God to forgive us. However, we never consider that the degree of offence we have done. We always think that he is the God and it is his prime duty to forgive us no matter what we do. But if somebody does the same thing to us, we always feel that it is not important to forgive them we think that we should not let them go just by forgiving them. Hence, the most important thing that needs to be considered here by us is that we should learn to forgive people (...
A strong Christian lesson on the true nature of forgiveness can be found in Christ’s Sermon on the Mount: