Grandparents can have a big impact on how grandchildren make decisions in their lives. They usually either have a positive or a negative effect on their youngsters and sometimes in rare cases can have both a positive and negative effect. In my case I was fortunate enough to have two grandparents that both had a positive influence on me. The one with the biggest influence on me is my Grandpa Herb. My grandfather is extraordinary, one of a kind, he has a strong sense of loving, caring, and loves joking around with his grand-sons and grand-daughters. No matter what mood any of his grandkids are in whether it be good or bad he is able to make us laugh and smile. He always cracks jokes about being old and about old people. I always like watching …show more content…
They had three girls and four boys. That isn 't a terribly huge family because back then all of the families were big. However, there kids were a bunch of rascals. There are many stories about bad things that they have done and some of them could have caused death if they weren 't so lucky. For example, one time my aunt Tara was jumping on a bed and my uncle Brett had a .22 caliber long rifle in his hands. I don 't remember how but it went off and shot the wall behind where my aunt was jumping. Another crazy story was when they my uncles and my dad were having a BB-gun war. My uncle who was the oldest in the family, besides my grandma and grandpa of course, was hiding behind some balls and peeked his head out. My dad saw him and shot at his head, which wasn 't a very intelligent decision. After he shot him my uncle reared his head back in pain. My dad said at first I thought “Oh shit I shot his eye out.” Then ran up to him and saw that he was bleeding from the mouth. Instead of shooting him in the eye he had hit him in one of his from teeth causing it to dislodge from his gums and fall to the ground. They never found his tooth and he now has an artificial tooth which is very easy to see because it is larger and more bland color than all of the …show more content…
Through all of the countless hours that I 've been to their house I don 't think I have ever heard them fight with one another. They are the real definition of relationship goals. They go to church every Sunday morning with each other and sit in the same seats every time. I have so much respect for my grandpa because he has never mistreated my grandma. I also am very fortunate to have them because the two of them try to make it to as many of my sporting events as possible. My grandma had to have a kidney removed during this past year and she was upset because she said she wasn 't going to be able to make it to all of my sporting events. She is now doing better and the two of them are able to get back on the road and come watch me run track and will probably come to a lot of my baseball games this spring. It was a surprise to me when they showed up at my first collegiate track meet last Friday just to watch me run. I had no idea that they were going to come until I saw my grandpa in the rest room as I was waiting in line. After my race I went up to talk to both them and my parents. It is always fun talking to my grandpa because he makes you feel really good about yourself. After my football games he would always say, “I think the school is going to have to re-sod the field because you were running so hard you could see sod flying everywhere.” Another thing he usually says after a baseball game is “I
My face was full of excitement when seeing him slowly make his way to the field to watch me. Every time he came I felt like I had to play the best game of my life, I loved it and it was a huge motivation. Whether it was me trying to strike everyone out when I was pitching or trying to hit a homerun every time I was batting, I wanted to show off my skills to my grandpa. My dad was the coach of my baseball team so I would always beg him to let me pitch when I knew that my grandpa was coming. Sometimes before I threw a pitch, I would glance over at the stands to make sure he was watching me, and he always was. His focus was on me the entire game. Every time I looked over at him he was in the same position, hunched over with a serious look on his face almost as if he was a scout that came to see me play. I loved when he could watch me pitch and my favorite part of the game was when it was over and he would tell me “great game!” (even if it wasn’t that
Recently there has been a change in the dynamic of the family structure in American. For serval reasons parents are unable to take care of their children. This leads them to rely on their parents for support. Grandparents are now aiding their families by becoming custodial grandparents, which is another name to address a grandparent that has become the primary caregiver of a child. This is different from the traditional grandparent role where an older adult is active in their child and grandparents lives but not to the point where they have taken over the parent role. For this paper will focus on those assuming the primary role of a custodial grandparent.The number of Grandparents that have taken on this responsibility has increased
Influence is the ability to have a burden on someone or something. However, one doesn’t have to be a “individual of influence” to be influential. The lives of each person is most strongly influenced by the family and environment that we grew up in. The personality of our parent (s), whether we were born first or last, what the bonds are like between siblings, our teaching horizontal surface, the socioeconomic position of our home, the home we have settled, all of these concepts have formed us at the time period of our life when we’re in need of it most and shaped us to who we are now.
My maternal grandparents approach issues in a very submissive manner. My grandfather avoids conflicts by trying to appease all parties involved. Every single time the family gets together, he will ask without fail "is everybody happy?" People sometimes view my grandma as having a manipulative personality because she
The substantial increase in the number of grandparents assigned as primary caretakers for the well-being of their grandchildren is on the rise in society. Grandparents play a significant part in the life of the child but when grandparents assume the parental role and take on the duties and responsibilities of a custodial parent, several stressors can surface which may cause strain within the family structure. This paper will examine the emotional and social effects this placement has on the grandparents, discuss possible challenges that may arise and briefly incorporate research on consequences that develop in the child due to lack of support and resources.
Collins, Jordan & Coleman (2012) stated that dysfunctional intergenerational boundaries are commonly present in divorced and in conflict families where one or more children go against one parent. Due to the existence of multiple subsystems in this family, it is evident that the boundaries between the family members are rigid and that the family is disengaged. An example of the specific behavior that demonstrated the existence of disengaged boundary with grandma E, was the relinquishment of her caretaking role as a mother to her first born child to her parents so she could pursue her interests in finding a husband.
Grandparents are a parent of one’s father or father, hence the name “Grand-Parent.” These members of the family are the highest ranking in the family hierarchy, but this does not stop them from being easygoing or fun to be around. Grandparents do so much for us, and if you do not already express your gratitude towards them, you should thank them for what they do for you and the entire family every day. My grandparents from my mom’s side of the family see me every holiday, when I travel north to their house or they
I remember vividly the weekends at his house. Sitting on his lap, going to wrestling matches, walking down the street or through a park--these were things I did with Grandpa. I wasn't just a kid to him: I was his granddaughter, and I was special. He was special too.
As children grow up they always look up to someone special in their life, someone that they can trust and is always there for them. This person is someone they admire and hope to be like someday. The person that I’ve described best fits my Grandma. She knows all the right things and is there whenever I need her. My grandma is one of the most important people in my life and I’m so happy that I have her.
In the article “10 Things Grandchildren Can Learn From Their Grandparents”, Gillian Kruse claims, “Turn to grandparents for life lessons and other advice because they've often lived through the same or similar experience - possibly more than once”. He asserts the role of having a thorough talk with grandparents. Throughout their whole lives, they have encountered with a lot of struggles and have faced persistently in order to achieve their life goals. Regardless of whether or not these obstacles are as same as yours, your grandparents are those who have enough experience to grant you the most powerful advice that can help you live your life optimally. For me, I have always possessed at least one life lesson after the dinner with my grandmother. At the dinner table, she shares with us a story about her life and elaborates on how she would have done to improve the situation if she could return to that moment. Joining into the conversation, everyone shares the status of their lives and receive advice from each other. Surprisingly, the tips that I was given at the dinner table practically help me when my life is obstructed, such as when I do not how to behave as working with other people or when I have to make an important decision. The goal of the dinner is to share less negative stories but optimistic perspectives about life. If you combine every
December 16, 2011 led to a wonderful bond and an unexpected change in my life. My son and his girlfriend were young parents, barely 17 years old, I ended up providing everything my granddaughter needed from the moment she was born. After living with me for 20 months in a moment of rage my son and his girlfriend took my granddaughter in the middle of the night and left without a trace. Typically, a grandparent was the one that spoiled the grandchildren and then sent them home with the parents. Now they have to take on the role of parent when the child’s parents are incapable or disinclined to parent sufficiently (Administration for Children And Familie, Region IV). “According to the 2005 American Communities Survey, there are an estimated 5.7 million grandparents living with grandchildren in their households; 2.4 million co-resident grandparents are the primary caregivers for their grandchildren, representing 42% of all grandparents residing with their grandchildren (Administration for Children And Familie, Region IV).” The reasons grandparents are raising their grandchildren is because of the increase in financial inability, parental drug addictions, and adolescent single mothers.
I have a lot of cousins; therefore I am not the only grandchild for my grandparents. However, I was the only one that was raised by my grandparents. They spent the most of their times on me compared to my other cousins. For example, I slept with my grandma when I was young. Because of my body was weak, and my hands and feet usually cool all night, my grandma always held my hands and feet to make my body warm. She was told me fairy-tales or real stories at night when I was sick, because she wanted me to feel better. When I was little girl, on the family trip, grandpa always carried me, because he didn’t want me to walk too long. Living without the parent, it made me sad but my grandparents given too much love on
They say grandparents, are the two most favorite people in the world to children. Grandparents are the main characters of your childhood, they are the ones that leave you with the most beautiful memories of your life. Some grandparent’s teach you a very valuable lesson of life, they teach you respect, hard work, family values, and unlimited love. They show you their love in many ways, they say I love you in words as well as actions. Grandparents are the ones that sometimes get you out of trouble and guide you to the correct path. They show you trust, a trust that cannot never be broken.
This lady is the most wonderful person I 've ever met. She is old, affectionate, and intelligent. It took me eighteen years to realize how much this extraordinary person influenced my life. She 's the type of person who charms everyone with her stories and experiences. She always time for her family and friends. She is the kind of leader who does everything to keep her family together and in harmony. She is my grandmother.
My grandmother has always been my biggest supporter throughout my life. My Grandmother is my back bone; she is the reason why I am the person that I am today. Most people hear the word grandmother and expect to see older lady with possible white hair, standing in the kitchen cooking and baking, evening sewing. My grandmother is the exact opposite of those things, she is still employed full time, enjoys making jewelry and furniture. Although she is only five two she is very witted and outspoken she never bites her tongue and will always give her opinion even if you don’t ask for it. There is a softer side to her, she will give you her last and be a listening ear day or night. Like the saying goes “to know me is to love me” and believe me