Genogram, Reflection and analysis

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Interview & Reflection I have interviewed my Father through email over a week period, he was very helpful to me and even knew the answers to the question I had on my Mother side of the family. I felt he was the best to interview as he is one of the smartest people I know. Of course I talked to him in our native language (Arabic) even though his English was perfect, but I wanted him to feel more comfortable when answering, then I translated everything to English. Below is a list of the questions I asked him and his replies: (Answers are bolded) First question I have is, why is it that I feel that our family is much bigger than the regular western family? Well, I think Western societies are afraid of all the commitment that comes with a child, where we feel that having a bigger family pretty much means that there are more people around you to help. I know and remember as a child that you used to drink alcohol all the time and my Mother used to get upset about it every time. Is my Mother is the one who drove you to quit? And do you feel better looking back on your choice? I definitely know it is the right choice, and yes your mother was a part of my reasons to quit. I was on the wrong path since I was about your age, and my father knew about it and did not act on it. I felt like he was allowing me to take that path, he was the kind of father that lets you figure out stuff on your own. Even though your mother knew when we first got married, but she was willing to try her best to change me. Your uncle Abdulaziz also quit about the same time I did, and he was another encouragement to keep me going. How do you feel about my Mother immigrating to your country “Saudi” after getting married? And why it wasn’t the ot... ... middle of paper ... ...ous my father takes it when it comes to teaching his kids what’s important in life. He answered every single question I asked, not just with a simple answer but with a detailed explanation that went along with and expressed his emotions. You can definitely feel the Authoritative side of him popping up in his answers, he didn’t just want to give me plain answers that leaves me with nothing, he wanted me to fully understand why these answers exist. I think that the sever Authoritarian parenting style of my grandparents is what caused my father to grow more aware that their parenting style wasn’t affective, and made him realize that he should be more of an Authoritative when it comes to raising his own kids. I also feel that the way they raised him and his siblings is what caused several of them to become alcoholics and fall into substance abuse.

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