Several other states are also debating whether or not to allow these couples to marry. Unfortunately, the dispute has left the United States' homosexual community in an awkward position. There are some people who think that gay people have no rights and should never be allowed to marry, and others believe that gay people should enjoy the same rights and privileges as heterosexuals. I think that the United States should allow same-sex couples to marry just like heterosexual couples. There are many opponents of gay people as it is, and they all have their reasons to dislike the idea of permitting them get married.
Joe Messerli states, “Many politicians are calling for amendments to their state constitution. Many areas of the country such as San Francisco have performed marriage ceremonies in defiance of the law… the basic question is, Should we allow gay couples to marry legally?” Denying homosexuals of marriage is a violation of religious freedom. The main reason for denial of gay marriage is that all major religions view homosexuality as a sin. The First Amendment states that a person’s religious views must be protected. Joe Messerli states, “the government cannot start making laws just because a religion says they should.
Marriages have become one of the biggest issues that homosexuals are faced with and they aren’t getting the equal rights that heterosexuals are given. The fact the people aren't relaxed with the idea stems mainly from the fact that for many years, society has encouraged the idea that a marriage should involving two people of different sexual orientation. (Bidstrup, 2009) A same-sex partner is preposterous, mainly because of the objections raised above. Marriage is supposed to stand for an institution ... ... middle of paper ... ...cisions and choices. Even though this is a very notorious subject one must stand firm on his or her beliefs and not waiver because others disagree or feel differently from what you think.
Opponents of such legislation do not want discrimination passed into law and are protesting at every opportunity. One must understand the reasons that people want to ban same-sex marriage before he or she can effectively argue about the subject. Many advocates of same-sex marriage bans say that allowing gays and lesbians to marry would degrade the institution of marriage because marriage is only supposed to exist between a man and woman. In addition, allowing same-sex marriage would cause problems for society (Issues and Controversies on File). One theory why opponents may fight against same-sex marriages is that heterosexual marriages have long reinforced traditional gender roles within marriage and that allowing same-sex marriages would cause males to lose their authority to subordinate females as heterosexual couples begin to model same-sex marriage gender equality (Calhoun 157).
These individuals would rather just be closed-minded in this situation and reticent to really think about what this means to the gay community and the country. Same sex couples are not asking for any special rights; they are just asking to be treated equal with opposite sex couples. The explanations given by many Americans against gay marriages are based on false assumptions and unsubstantiated arguments. However, the real and unspoken reasons many heterosexuals have against same-sex marriages are based on religious beliefs. There are a number of false assumptions the straight community has regarding same sex marriages.
Homosexual Marriage Since 1971 when the first same sex couple Richard John Baker and James Michael McConnell applied for a marriage license and were denied in the Baker vs. Nelson ruling, America has been forced to debate whether homosexuals should be allowed to be married even though they are not the classical definition of a couple. There are many opinions about this subject from government officials, religious leaders and even the president of the United States. Homosexuals should be allowed to be married because they need to be treated fairly and equally. Homosexuals have been denied the right to be married because many people feel, "The union of a man and woman is the most enduring human institution, honored and encouraged in all cultures and by every religious faith" (George W. Bush). Since marriage wasn't clearly defined in our Bill of Rights, The Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) was started.
Imagine you have just found the person of your dreams, your soulmate, the one you're meant to be with, but you can't marry them. I am going to persuade the class that gay marriage should be legal in every state in America. Opponents of same-sex marriage have about as many reasons to not allow gay marriage as supporters have to allow it. One reason people don't want gays getting married is because in most religions, it is a sin to be attracted to the same gender, and completely unspeakable to marry them. (TFP Student Action; page 1) They think that if we were to allow gays to marry, it would promote the acceptance of the homosexual lifestyle, and society would be forced to accept it.
However, due to the different sexual orientations of the two partners, problems often occur, causing emotional harm to"closet gays," their partners, and their children (Harbinger 683). If gay marriage were legal, homosexuality would be legitimate. Thus, the number of "closet gays" would decrease, as acceptance of their sexual orientation increases. In short, society would be spared a lot of trouble--the breakup of a family or dissatisfaction with one's life, especially of the homosexual partner, as she or he tries to comply with society's standards. Same-sex marriage is just in that it provides gay couples with the same rights as heterosexual couples.
Many critics of the ordeal pose the argument that the allowance of same-sex unions would single-handedly demolish the already fragile structure of marriage (Head). They go on to further to say that same-sex marriages would cause men to become barbaric, as women are the only ones who are able to tame them(Nock 17). But, homosexuals have not been given the opportunity in America to prove the critics of their desires wrong. It is not fair that heterosexuals are allowed to marry and divorce as they please while homosexuals are not even given the opportunity to take part in marriage. Homosexuals are just like every average American.
Since the beginning of time, Homo sapiens have discriminated against people with differences such as color of skin, religion, politics, and more. Over the years, society has changed to accept these differences, yet Americans still ostracize the gay community as if they were less than human. Currently one specific controversy comes to mind in consideration of gays, and that is gay marriage. The controversies surrounding gay marriage include the legal, religious, and philosophical problems that allowing gay marriage could cause. The United States currently does not recognize gay partnerships as legal marriages, and therefore when gay partners file for a tax refund both partners must mark single for the type of relationship.