Dear Chase, I'm not quite sure where to begin; I know this past week has been a mess, both our faults, I'm not just directing it towards you. I have had ten million things running through my mind the past few days, and I am going to try and get a few of them out right now. For one, I do cherish your friendship, like I said in one of my messages, you and I have shared things and conversations about our lives, our families that I would never with anyone else. The main reason for that is because I trust you, and you listen to me, as I do to you. I can say that I have had some of the most wonderful times with you that I have ever had in my entire life. I had told you before that when you talk I hold onto every word that comes out of your mouth and it's like they are engraved in the back of my mind forever. I don't know why you have that affect on me; maybe it's the fact that we have become such good friends. To be quite honest with you, I don't trust people very easily as you very well know, and I could probably say the same for you. I think that is why I did let that wall down and let you into my life and my heart, because I felt safe. Let me ask you, why do I feel like building it back up? Let me explain what I want in my life. I want someone to share my laughter and my fears, someone to listen and be there when I feel like the world is crashing down on me. I want to give that same courtesy back to them in return. I don't want someone standing at my door waiting for me to get home, or around constantly, because that drives me absolutely crazy. I do think that since you and I have spent so much time together that I have become a little dependant on you, and wanting to talk to you. That doesn't necessarily mean seeing you every day, or a three-hour phone call, but just the reassurance to know that you are in fact still there. Is that too much for you? It sometimes feels like you only call when you know I am upset because you haven't called. You hardly ever call just because you want to.
Everyone has close and distant friendships throughout their lifetime. There are friends who are loyal and bring out the best in each other. Likewise, there are friends that are dishonest and talk poorly behind each other’s back. Friendship is built on the foundation of trust; if there is no trust, the relationship will crumble. In a friendship, there must be a bond between both individuals. However, there are also friendships that can potentially be toxic to both individuals and must be ended. Friendships can be hard to maintain at times, but when friendships are strong, they can last a lifetime. The story Wake by Lisa McMann and Rocking Horse Winner by D.H. Lawrence both explore the theme of friendship.
It's easy to be a friend when all is good but are we being a friend through the hard stuff?
Then on January 18th we started texting about our issues. My friend had not been very nice lately, and she had changed since she was my buddy in crime in elementary school. So, we started texting about our issues. I was about to send the text, “Gtg”, and go downstairs for dinner, when she sent a text saying, “I don’t think we should be best friends anymore.” As soon as the text lit up on my phone screen, I started sobbing. I was heartbroken, destroyed, and most of all, disappointed. My best friend since 2nd grade had told me she didn’t want to be my best friend anymore, and ever since then, it really did feel like that. I was lucky if I ever felt that we were just acquaintances. This text devastated me. In most situation, if you make a friend in early elementary school, usually you’re friends and you stay friends forever, and get closer year by year. But, in my case, that fate did not happen. My best friend turned around on me and said she didn’t want to be my best friend anymore. So I realized that even though friends can promise things, you never know what will happen to a friendship five years in the future, but if friends are loyal to you, a friendship could last a
Often times, people put up invisible boundaries to protect themselves from emotional damage. Whether the threat of damage be real or not, the walls go up and people shield themselves from the impending blow. This self-preservational method can make trusting people harder and hiding away in loneliness easier. Making friends is difficult when you have so much protective gear on that you can 't even speak. It may seem like this person would rather be left alone, but that may not always be the case. A lot of times, it 's exactly the opposite. They want to see if someone is willing to take the time to dismantle all of their traps and disarm every single alarm until they are standing there, completely their true self and vulnerable. Sometimes, it is okay to be vulnerable. Sometimes, risking the damage is worth it to know that there 's someone out there that can make someone feel less empty inside. Wearing that much armor is such a heavy, strenuous burden to bear and taking it off to finally let someone in can feel so relieving. Letting someone in is an entirely different feeling, though. One might feel like after a long time of being frequently misunderstood, someone at last says the words kept sealed deep in the other’s mind. One may feel like at last, they’ve been set free from the cages that bind them for years. And maybe, they’ll keep letting people in; the people that promote positive change in them and teach them how to trust again. The more people they let in, the less lonely they get. The less lonely they get, the happier they are. Loneliness consumes, but so does happiness. All they have to do is let people
When faced with the choice of true love or a soul mate, not many people would know what to choose until the last possible moment. They dream of a romantic beginning and a happily ever after ending. These are often found written in the dark and twisted romance novels. One of the many favorites is written by Gaston Leroux, and is one of his best works, The Phantom of the Opera (Le Fantôme de l'Opéra), which is a notable example of the Gothic genre, which was popular in the end of the eighteenth century and the beginning of the nineteenth century. By studying his early life,
My friends are very important to me and without them I do not think I would be where I am today. My second real friendship began in the middle of my freshman year of high school. I had been introduced to someone who later became one of my two best friends, Michelle Zabuska, by someone in my Theater class. Some time later, as a result to a major fight caused by a mutual friend of ours, I realized that I had to be careful with whom I trusted. It was Michelle who pointed out a quote from one of our favorite television shows, Felicity, that I realized she was my true friend in every aspect of the word. I started to look at my...
It is through these friendships that drive humans to improve themselves in mind, body, and soul. Without cultivating this bond of friendship humanity will fall apart.
Did you know that the best kinds of lovers are the people that start out as your friend? This is shown in the lyrics of the R&B song "Lovers and Friends", sung by Usher, Ludacris, and Lil Jon. This song is about two people who have been friends for a long time and now are ready to take the step into being lovers. In "Lovers and Friends" the writers use sensory description and figurative language to show the theme that friends make the best lovers.
My dearest and closest friend whom I tell every intimate detail to, is the one person I know I can trust with all my heart. I tell her everything. She’s the first one I call when I feel the need to vent. From the way things are at home, to everything about my relationship; she knows it all. Her advice on relationships proves to be most reliable, seeing that she has been in a healthy relationship for over two years now. She always knows the right things to say at exactly the right times. Not only has she always been there for me, but I would also like to think I’ve always been there for her too. I could only hope my advice could prove half as reliable as hers. In addition, she seems to always be my shoulder to cry on. Even when we aren’t together, I can count o...
I know that I start things between us a lot of the time, but even you know why. You know that it took a lot for me to trust you, but now I do. I am so happy that you are still here with me, being patient, and still by my side. So many people say that I will not make it far in life, but they do not understand me, let alone know me. So many of those people do not know how hard you push me to make something of myself. In the past, I honestly believed that I would not make it anywhere, but now I know that as long as I am happy and still alive, with you by my side I am doing great and can achieve anything.
Joshua Ackerman, Professor at MIT Sloan School of Management writes in the Scholarly Journal, Let’s Get Serious: Communicating Commitment in Romantic Relationships, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, that some commonly thought notations about expressing or communicating love may be incorrect.
"Friendship" is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as, the state of being friends, or a friendly feeling. Friends, on the other hand, are defined as people whom one knows well and is fond of. The second definition states a friend as an ally, supporter, or sympathizer.
Friendship is the most wonderful relationship that anyone can have. Ideally a friend is a person who offers love and respect and will never leave or betray us. Friends can tell harsh truths when they must be told. There are four different types of friends: True friends, Convenient friends, Special interest friends, and historical friends. To have friendship is to have comfort. In times of crisis and depression, a friend is there to calm us and to help lift up our spirits.
Our friendship has taught me that maintaining a relationship is difficult, but it can be accomplished. That I am a very trustworthy and dependable person. But I need to work on my communication skills because sometimes I don’t communicate effectively or I approach the situation by handling conflicts improperly. That I don’t give up easily on the people that I care about the most. This relationship has taught me that I am a problem solver for I want the relationship to be equitable for the both of us. I have learned so much about myself through our relationship both, pros and
A best friend does not back away from you when you think you’ve lost it. Those are the times that a best friend is always there for. A best friend is someone with whom you’ve shared your most intimate secrets with, and laughed the loudest. She probably knows you better than anyone you can think of, definitely better than your parents, and sometimes better than you know yourself. She has seen you at your worst, and helped you be your best. A best friend is not afraid to tell you the truth. A lot of research has been done looking into the benefits of friendship, and the research has found exactly what you might expect. It turns out that the better quality relationships you have; the more likely you are to be happy. Therefore it’s good for your