Something that can explain why people choose to get married can be the marriage gradient. The marriage gradient states that women have the tendency to “marry up” and men tend to “marry down” (Crawford, 2012). This came about because women used to have little access to education and prestigious jobs so their only choice to gain economic security was through marriage. Today, both men and women admire qualities such as intelligence, desire for children, and great personality, but for women, wealth and status are very important qualities (Crawford, 2012). In the movie, A Monsoon Wedding, the marriage that was about to take place was an arranged marriage.
The arrangement was usually at the request of a groom 's father. However, in the Bible there are several passages that tell us that marriage could have also been arranged by a mother (Genesis 21:21), or by a representative at the request of a father (Genesis 24:4). In the Old Testament, God is regarded as the Bridegroom of Israel, and Jesus is seen as the Bridegroom of the church in the New Testament. We see Israel being referred to as a wife in Isaiah 54:5-6 NIV, "For your Maker is your husband, the Lord Almighty is His name, the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; He is called the God of all the Earth. The Lord will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit, a wife who married young, only to be rejected, says your God."
Couples think that for the audience i.e. the relatives and friends, how elaborate a wedding is signifies to them the importance or devotion of the groom and bride towards the marriage and its sustainability. It is due to this, that love marriages cost more than arranged marriages. In love marriages, the couples do their best to display their commitment towards the marriage by means of lavish marital events. This was certainly the case in the Indian love marriage, wedding event that I attended a while back.
Additionally, even though intermarriage seemed to be unpopular and dangerous due to the concern of the diluted religion, it was still practiced (Elwell 740). Biblically, a couple is considered married once they both become a partner of covenant marriage of each other in the eyes of God (Mal. 2.14). In the days of Old Testament, the bride-price, which depended on the value and social status of the bride, was required to pay. Furthermore, the bride shall keep her virginity before marriage in New Testament books; therefore, "the stained linen being retained as evidence of virginity" in the first night of consummating (Elwell 742).
“Arranged marriage is a marriage where the marital partners are chosen by others, based on considerations other than the pre-existing mutual attraction of the partners.” This method was practiced especially in noble families, where two different families came together and decided that the son in one family should marry the daughter of the other. (Arranged Marriage) Arranged marriages were done in order to combine the strengths of both families. It was like a pact between the families who, by this way shared their nobility, wealth and property. Centuries later, arranged marriages are still common all over the world. The reason behind these marriages is the parents’ intention to make their children marry someone of their own class, someone ‘suitable’ for them.
The word Islam means submitting to the will of Allah. Followers who practice this faith are called Muslims and as an extension of the definition, are people who submit to the will of Allah. Islam as a religion started in Arabia and spread across the world to more than 60 different countries. Allah is the name Muslims calls their God. They believe their religion is timeless and their God is the one true God.
The Islamic ideas of arranged marriage propose a traditional and sensible approach to marriage. An arranged marriage is a marriage planned and agreed to by the families or guardians of the bride and groom, unlike a love marriage, also called autonomous marriage, which is completely driven by choice. Decades ago brides and groom would be arranged to be married by their families with little or no say, in some cases the bride and groom would not even meet until the wedding day! However, modern arranged marriages have become more practical and less restricted. Today’s brides and grooms are allowed courting periods, input, and approval.
The number one cause for divorce is that people are getting into marriage for the wrong reasons like marrying for money or children and being forced in an arranged marriage. Love based marriage strengthen the institution of marriage. Love provides happiness and well-being to a marriage. In history there has been many reason for a marriage but love based marriage has been the one that has been the longest. It has not always been the popular choice in society but is on a steadily increase.
Both texts show a dominating theme of marriage. The two texts are in conversation with each other because the concepts of reasons for marriage and relationships between men and women that Astell present are also illustrated in Defoe’s novel. Thus, both Astell and Defoe demonstrate the idea that marriage is a patriarchal and submissive institution. However, their conclusive beliefs on the purpose of marriage differ. Astell shows that women must ultimately marry for God due to the inequalities between a man and a woman, in contrast to Defoe, who proves that marriage is conclusively, just a way to economically benefit as a means for survival.
The institution of marriage handled both of these needs. A usual marriage is the most usual in which a man and a woman unite themselves in the eyes of the law and often their religion. Variations of the marriage system have evolved over time such as: polygamy - one man, several wives or one woman, several husbands, polygyny - one man, several wives, polyandry - one woman, several husbands, endogamy - requirement to marry someone who belongs to his or her own group, and exogamy - people have to marry someone from another area. These days, it is more common and popular for couples not to commit officially but to live and have a family together, this is possibly out of 'pri... ... middle of paper ... ...ering commitment is, it is basically your own decision and there are many factors to be taken into consideration such as the ones I have mentioned. I believe that the divorce rate and also the percentage of people who opt out of marriage will continue to increase.