Five Methods Of Love: The Different Ways Of Expressing Love

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Everyone is unique not only in how they look and feel but also in how they show love. This essay will examine the different ways love is expressed. To build a healthy, devoted relationship and to grow and maintain that relationship these techniques must all be understood. Thus, a person must be ready to recognize and receive love not just give it. These ways of conveying love can be broken down into five styles, and each will relate primarily to one of these styles. By understanding each of the styles and identifying them in various circumstances, a healthy relationship can be grown and maintained. The Ways of Expressing Love An essential skill in any committed relationship is the ability to give and receive love. The methods that love is …show more content…

Psychologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need (Chapman, 19). Expressing love and understanding are required to build this relationship. First, the five languages must be comprehended. The first love language is Words of Affirmation (Chapman, 2014). Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love (Chapman, 37). When we verbally affirm a person, it is sending them a powerful message of love. Affirmation can be achieved with verbal compliments, encouraging words, or kind words. If the primary language is Words of Affirmation, this verbal confirmation is needed on a regular basis. The second language is Quality Time (Chapman, 2014). Quality time is giving someone your undivided attention (Chapman, 2014). Not just spending time together but talking and not having attention diverted. Focused Attention, Quality Conversation, and Quality Activities are the crux of Quality Time (Chapman, 2014). Consequently, a person with a primary language of Quality Time only wants undistracted time together (Chapman, 2016). Receiving Gifts is the next language that must be recognized (Chapman, 2014). Specifically, a gift can symbolize love, and visual symbols of love are more important to some people than to others (Chapman, 77). Hence, if the primary language is Receiving Gifts, then that visual representation of love is paramount. If a person …show more content…

For example, if you hear a person speaking German you may not know that it is specifically German, it could be Dutch, but it is evident that the language is different. It is not as easy to see these differences in love language. They can only be recognized if there is a familiarity. For example, if a man washes his wife’s car for no other reason than he wants to do it for her, he is doing an act of service. He is not overly affectionate in other ways, but this gives him great joy. Before identifying the modes of expressing love, he may have just seemed like a good man. Now his primary language is evident. On the other hand, if his wife does not recognize his efforts with much more than a brief smile, information can be gleaned. However, if she does look longingly at the flowers he sent to her at work, her primary language seems to be receiving gifts. Furthermore, when he ordered the flowers, the husband has shown recognition of the wife’s primary language. Similarly, if two people greet each other, and the woman initiates a hug and a kiss, she is using her primary language. If the husband does not reciprocate it, then she is left unfulfilled. On the other hand, if he recognizes her need for touch and hugs back with a passion, it will express his love to her. It may not be his primary but by accepting his as his wife 's and developing it as his secondary; he has shown her that close connection and

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