Since the olden day’s gender roles have been established for men and women that proliferate todays thinking about the powerful entitled man and the submissive punishable woman. This mindset is the very reason why incidents of sexual assault are continuous with the responsibility of the crime falling on the victims. The conservative way of thinking has influenced the very crucial aspect of our society the interactions among genders. It has polluted our belief system allowing unfair and unscrupulous acts of violence against women and placed domineering roles upon women by men. According to Jill Filipovic, author of “Offensive Feminism: The Conservative Gender Norms that Perpetuated Rape Culture, and How Feminist Can Fight Back”, the effects of coverture is still present today wreaking havoc on women’s rights and their bodily integrity.
There was no accurate measure of rape and sexual assault between husbands and wives partly because women were “supposed” to please their man, regardless of their opinion or objection. Though these practices are now consider deviant in most places, they are still set in stone in some homes across the United States. In 2007, the National Institute of Justice published one of the most extensive sexual assault studies to date. They took a survey of 5,446 women va... ... middle of paper ... ...tic or codependent on their man. Another reason these women stay in abusive relationships is because being labeled as a battered woman can be just as toxic as the abuse itself.
However, there are conservative groups, such as Focus on the Family, that disclaim that a woman’s body is her own. With that being said, I would like to mention the purity ball that was briefly cited in Filipovic’s essay and then further recapped in Jessica Valenti’s Purely Rape: The Myth of Sexual Purity and How It Reinforces Rape Culture. I found this practice interesting because it encourages young girls to vow to their fathers that they will remain a virgin until he hands her over to her future husband. This reiterates how a girl does not have autonomy of her own body; rather, it is a secret garden that must be protected and later passed on from father to husband. Somehow this is supposed to benefit girls by teaching them that “sexuality defines how ‘good’ women are, and that women’s moral compasses are inextricable from their bodies...(Valenti 299).” What it comes down to is this: Women cannot be sexual but must possess some sex appeal.
This experience relates to the modern day sexism, and a parallel I see is the many women who are raped/assaulted/abused and report their incidents to the police, but the rapist isn 't arrested, or if he is, he 's put away for an objectively disheartening, short amount of time. The families of those women are ashamed more than remorseful, and nearly everyone 's trying to defend the offender with words such as “Are you sure you weren 't asking for it? What were you wearing?”. The rapes taint the women 's reputation more than the rapists '. The next story dissection is “Notes of a Native son”.
Voltaire tries to tell us that women at that time period were vulnerable. Because of that, Cunegonde is blinded by the real situation of women. In Cunegonde's life she has only experienced rape and being sold so, it’s highly unlikely that her perspective of women being raped will change. Women probably felt offended because Cunegonde is basically saying how it’s better to be raped more than once in order for you to be virtuous. Besides women, some men probably felt responsible for how women were treated and all of this happened was due to men feeling superior to women.
It is very unhealthy as well as can cause damage to future relationships and can set the woman up to be an abuser. It creates drama and problems that affect the way someone lives day to day. There are many different support groups and shelters to support women, but one of the easiest things to do is to walk away from the abuser and report it so it stops. Feminist theory acknowledges that women can also be violent in their relationships with men; however, they simply do not see the issue of women abusing men as a serious social problem, because violence against women and is at a higher percentage than of violence against men. Therefore violence against men does not deserve the same amount of attention or support as violence against
Rape Culture Many of the attitudes, beliefs, and mistaken ideas about rape have been with us for centuries. By looking at myths, such as “women ask for it,” and “it would do some women good to get raped,” from a historical perspective, lead us for better understanding how they evolved. Women are still seen as the property of men, are protected as such. Men and women are still taught to occupy very different roles in today’s world. Men are usually more aggressive, and women are seen as passive.
It is the equality and rights of women that should not be up for debate or heavily controlled by the government. Society is constantly dehumanizing women, their status, and undermining their achievements. There are many factors that play in the detrimental society in The United States such as rape culture, media, and religion. “She asked for it.” Attitudes, beliefs, and incorrect ideas about rape have been with us for centuries. There are constantly meaningless excuses, such as "women ask for it," and "women secretly enjoy rape".
These women have been cheated on, lied to and even psychically assaulted. The experience of an abusive relationship is embarrassing enough, but to have the whole world watch while your significant other admits to his affairs or abuse is humiliating. In most of these cases, the women stay and stand by their men. Why? Is it love; fear; moral’s; or is it a deeper issue?
This can include hitting, poisoning, and sometimes the use of a weapon, such as a knife. Violence like this usually men want to feel in control. Beating up their wives makes them feel like they have control. Even though domestic violence is a big thing in Afghanistan, most women don’t look for help because they feel pressured by society to make their marriages work. Also the women in these societies are dependent on the husbands, since they aren’t allowed to work.