In the story 'Two Kinds'; by Amy Tan, we are shown the struggles of a young girl Jing-Mei. Her struggle is that of a young girl growing up and trying to find her own sense of identity. Her troubles are compounded by her mother, who convinces her that she can become someone important. Because of her mother's constant overbearing behavior, Jing-Mei does everything she can to annoy and displease her mother even to the point of being a failure. This fight to find her own identity against her mother's wishes shows how parents cannot control their child's life; they can only point them in the right direction and let them make their own choices.
The mother knows that she would receive a lower status if she was pregnant and unwed, so she instructs her on “how to make a good medicine to throw away a child before it even becomes a child” (Kincaid 484). The mother knows that things might not always work out so she tells her daughter that “there are other ways,” and to not feel “too bad about giving up” (Kincaid 484). The mother knows this things because her mother told her the same
These lines suggest that by interacting with boys and not being pious will lead the daughter down the path to becoming a slut. It is because of this environment that the mother attempts to steer her daughter back on to the right path by giving her both practical advice for when she has her own home, such as how to sew, iron, cook, sweep, and even make herbal medicines, and general life and relationship advice, such as how to talk to strangers and that some relationships may or may not work out. In certai...
Rose complains about her mother’s presumable repudiation of her annulment by saying, “When I tell her, I know she’s going to say, ‘This cannot be.’ And when I say that it is certainly true, that our marriage is over, I know what else she will say: ‘Then you... ... middle of paper ... ...ries of Rose, Jing-Mei, and Waverly, Amy Tan reveals the message that many mothers’ intentions that demonstrate affection aren’t fully recognized by their daughters. The mothers in this novel aim to teach their daughters the significance of comprehending the perception of nengkan or even guiding their lives in order to benefit their futures’ success. Perhaps there may be a message that Amy has exposed to all of us. Why should we care about our parents’ motives? What specific benefits would we gain as children?
Emily is taught that women stay in the house and iron; she is not encouraged enough by her mother early on. The mother regrets her failure to teach her daughter that she can make her own path through life, claiming her “wisdom came too late” and that she can only hope that Emily “ know[s]- that she is more than this dress on the ironing board, helpless before the iron” (Olsen 298). The narrator failed to guide her daughter through life and to help her avoid some of the mistakes she made. Emily will likely fall down the same path the narrator has taken, because of the perpetual nature of
"Two Kinds" by Amy Tan is about the intricacies and complexities in the relationship between a mother and daughter. Throughout the story, the mother imposes upon her daughter, Jing Mei, her hopes and dreams for her. Jing Mei chooses not what her mother wants of her but only what she wants for herself. She states, "For, unlike my mother, I did not believe I could be anything I wanted to be. I could be only me" (Tan 1).
In Alice Munro’s “Boys and Girls,” there is a time line in a young girl’s life when she leaves childhood and its freedoms behind to become a woman. The story depicts hardships in which the protagonist and her younger brother, Laird, experience in order to find their own rite of passage. The main character, who is nameless, faces difficulties and implications on her way to womanhood because of gender stereotyping. Initially, she tries to prevent her initiation into womanhood by resisting her parent’s efforts to make her more “lady-like”. The story ends with the girl socially positioned and accepted as a girl, which she accepts with some unease.
Maybe she’s not the best, but she’s trying hard” (Tan, 388). What she is actually doing is defending herself and indirectly saying that she feels uncomfortable with her mother’s disregard for her own hard work. Understandably, she would much rather get her mother’s compliments rather than her constant criticisms. Instead, her mother responds with “Just like you” and “No... ... middle of paper ... ...re only about herself, but for her daughter’s future (Tan, 392). The author’s intention is to give clues of her further understanding throughout the story so that it will not be felt as simple complaints about her mother.
Her eldest daughter, Dee, is the first in her family to embrace modernization and to attempt to improve her way of life. Dee?s view of the world and her feelings about developing her own sovereign identity are foreign to Maggie and her mother. The mother has lived her whole life in a manner that Dee simply does not wish to live hers. The mother shows some recognition of this as the story opens and she describes her own life and childhood and compares those of her two girls. The daughters, then, represent to their mother opposing forces in regards to socioeconomic and educational standards of living.
To refute the other argument that the mother does not specifically address her daughter’s outburst is that in the story she does address the outburst, just not in the ways that would seem conventional. After all, this is a story set years ago in a time that modern day parenting is quite different from in the 60’s. The mother addresses the last outburst of the daughter by asking her daughter after all this time she took to teach her daughter how to be a respectable young woman she won’t even take any of the teachings and become just another ‘slut’ in the eyes of the community. This paper argued that the mother in Jamaica Kincaid’s short story “Girl” is loving towards her daughter because the mother is taking time to teaching her daughter how to be a woman, and because she wants to protect her in the future from society’s judgment. Kincaid showed that the mother cared and loved her daughter.