When her husband came home she had to become a caretaker of him and a mediator between him and other people, especially the children. Now that her husband is back she is having difficulties keeping up with the new demands on her role as a wife. She wants to be there for him while he is struggling through his issues, but he does not want to comfort that she is offering. She also needs support from him for what she went through (Knobloch & Theiss, 2012). There was one scene when she was talking with her two daughters about their father and why he was behaving the way he was.
Her thoughts are perplexing; she tries constantly to accept the relationship between herself and Emily, the distance between them emotionally. There is a constant internal fight as to the choices she had made when Emily was just an infant. Her baby was a miracle, one that she treasured deeply. However, when she was left to raise her alone, she had to send her off to live with relatives and strangers in order to work. These early years are the most crucial times in a child’s life, the years that attachment and bonding happen.
This past comes back to Jing-Mei when her mother dies and Jing-Mei begins to understand how hard it is to let go of the people you love, which makes her become more open, understanding and mature. She lost a mother she got to share her life with, but like her half sisters, they didn't understand their mother until she was gone to share the experience of being reunited. In a sense, her spirit was there to capture their happiness of finally meeting one another. Although Waverly Jong is perceived in being an intelligent, ambitious, proud, and arrogant, she is constantly struggling with everything that happens in her life. Her unwillingness to adapt to change becomes a major conflict.
It was hard for her mother to have a baby at a young age herself and try to make ends meet was not easy. She needed to lean on others for help, which she thought at the time was right thing to do, but got caught up on her new family. This is why Emily had so much resentment towards her mother. This story is a great example of a dysfunctional mother-daughter relationship. The story does great job showing the mother’s anguish over her daughter, and a depressed teen that needed her mother and is struggling to overcome a very unhappy childhood.
For a mother, trying to get through to her daughter is a very frustrating task. It’s hard for Chizuko to show Aki that all her frustration is in the best interest for her: “CHIZUKO: I have lots to worry about. I got to see you have enough to eat, give you an education, see you’re dressed decent-so people won’t say, “Those kids don’t have a father.” See you’re not left with debts, like what happened to me. See you don’t make a mess (of) ...” (2,4). Chizuko is trying to protect her young daughter, she is afraid that Aki is going to get hurt if she pours all her emotions towards this grown man, by Aki not understanding this Chizuko becomes angry: “CHIZUKO: I know you don’t care ... right now.
Many times, how we were raised and brought up in our family of origin will be a large determining factor in these conjugal roles (Welch, 2009, 261). Talking through these roles from the onset of our relationship will prevent a mass of conflict that may be subject to happen if we let them become ambiguous. For example, in my family of origin, it is normal for the wife to do the majority of the housework. Sometimes I get the feeling that my mom is very overwhelmed and has an underlying hope that my dad would help her out more. I feel that immediately initiating a conversation about the tasks that I would like help with and the tasks that my future husband also needs help with will be extremely beneficial.
There are many changes that can occur during a person’s lifetime. For instance, we all were once kids who changed into adults. With that said, as we age, dreams change. There will always be something new in life and we can’t expect everything to fall in place as we wish because the future is constantly changing. In the age of globalization, information and communication revolution changes are affecting our lifestyles, our ways of thinking, feelings and the way we act.
The resolution from this conflict comes from when the children understand that Miss. Moore is an ally to them, and they finally understand the lesson behind her actions. However, in “Two Kinds,” there is a person vs. self-conflict. Jing Mei feels like she is not good enough and cannot meet her mother’s standards. This shows that Jing Mei has a lot of hatred towards her mother, but her mother seems to only want what is best for Jing Mei.
For many characters it is challenging to see through Yanna’s false appearance, but that was not the case for Sol. Sol “saw, a broken life, a frightened woman, a marriage that would bind him-however briefly-to grief” and therefore, regrets, agreeing to marry Yanna (Richler 7). Sol’s consent for marriage to Yanna causes him greater regret as his brother’s and niece’s lives are ruined as a result of this arrangement. Yanna pretends to be a loving mother and wife but truly she is not. Years later, when Ruth finally meets her mother Yanna, she finds out that her mother is also apologetic for the way her false appearance affected her first family.
On the other hand, Lily is deeply insecure about her attractiveness and her womanhood due to several past break-ups which she is unable to communicate with her mother. Lily resents the fact that her mother could not appreciate the love she has shown to the family in other ways. She feels her model behaviour as a filial daughter all her life counts for nothing. Also, despite grappling with issues about her identity and self-worth as a woman which surfaced after her recent break-up, Lily has also begun to consider single-hood as very plausible. Her success as a teacher and a professional has of course contributed to this- Lily enjoys her vocation and feels empowered to make a difference in the lives of her students, and leads an active, independent life both within and outside school.