But if the man's love was genuine then he would do whatever it takes to "win" the woman over. This method of wooing would nearly always determine the fate of the couple, i.e. if they had chemistry, and it would also establish if they would marry or not. If the man gave up on these rules for whatever reason, it was concluded that he did not truly love his woman, and he was frowned upon. The rules of courtly love were fairly simple.
They not only dismiss the domineering and superficial man-woman relationships, but demand intimate and enriching relationships which are solely based one quality, justice and mutual affection and admiration between men and women. Anita Nair and Jhumpa Lahiri give a cultural shock to the patriarchal world by making their female characters reveal honestly and openly their feelings and experiences while they deal with men. They express their affection, anger and frustration which they experience in the roles as lovers, wives, mothers and daughters. Both writers present the truth that in any ma... ... middle of paper ... ...d inherent talents and ask them to achieve their ambitions and aspirations without any doubt about their own abilities. While traditionally trained women experience a feeling of emptiness, meaninglessness and frustration in their daily lives, these new women characters in spite of their struggles for existence, experience the thrill and joy of self-discovery and self-actualization.
This shows that the women were not only lead by the men, but also put into a mind frame that they did not want to displease them, maybe they could have been afraid to do so. The text makes the reader believe that the women all want and adore sex with their counterparts. Lysistrata, stood her ground after the back lash of all the women, and showed how wise she was with her plan. She tells the ladies, “If we sit at home all rouged and powerful, dressed in our sheerest gowns, and neatly depilated, our men will get excited and want to take us; but if you don’t come to them and keep away, they’ll soon make a truce”(471). Showing that she actually means what she is serious about, some of the ladies ask what if they are forced, so Lysistrata tells them to “Give with a bad grace.
‘It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.’ It highlights the importance of marriage within the world of the novel. The sentence suggests that the sole purpose for marriage was to increase the characters social and financial ranking. The quote mentions nothing of love yet it provokes the feeling tint he minds of the readers that the purpose of marriage was to merely create security. We see that Mrs Bennet has a consuming passion to find suitable marriage partners for her daughters. In her opinion the wealthier a young man the more an attractive proposition he becomes.
Therefore in reality men much like Orsino almost certainly treasured the idea of love more than anyone else. When people did marry in Shakespeare's days it was predominantly for power and money. Love today is a great deal different than courtly love. Men and women are now treated equal and not only do men pursue women but women also pursue men. Today people in love mostly marry each other because of their personality as well as looks and not for money and power.
Judy, herself, is a symbol of wealth and to men, the ideal of love. She has proper breeding, incredible beauty, popularity, and above of all, lots of money. Though she is what men want to use as an example of love, she can not love. Rather, she is merely the idea of love and evidently the irony of love. She has no human capacity for it for she is only playing the game to prove that she can “[make] men conscious to the highest degree of her physical loveliness” and make them fall in love with her in an instant (Dreams 65).
Although the love that he feels for her is now allowed to come out without it being forbidden by societal norms. According to Phyllis Rackin,“the term gender roles indicates there is an important tense in which gender is a kind of act for all women, not only for actresses and not only for boys pretending to be a women”(29). Furthermore, in line 280, Orsino ironically states that “thou never shouldst love woman like to me”. Orsino fancied Olivia with this high standard for so long, as if she was held high on a pedestal that he wanted to lower his standards a bit when loving Viola. While Orsino is speaking in verse, he starts talking about how what he sees now seems to be true by stating, “If this be so, as yet the glass seems true”, by basically saying his perspective is much clearer like wiping dirty glasses clean so that you can see clearly.
So we could say that these men were hypocritical for wanting their women pure for marriage but willing to have sex with them pre-marriage! These poems are both themed on love, sex, romance and seduction. However, the attitudes towards their relationships and lovers are completely diverse. Andrew Marvell uses all forms of persuasion both negative and positive to get her into bed with him. On the other hand John Donne doesn’t seem to have to persuade his lover to sleep with him at all, it seems that she is already willing.
We can see that at the beginning, Romeo is lovesick for a girl called Rosaline. Rosaline is a woman that we do not find much about, but before meeting Juliet. Romeo is very much infatuated by her because it was trendy in the Elizabethan Era for young men to pursue unattainable women that were usually older, wealthier, of a higher class, or that had sworn a vow of chastity. With this in mind, it was natural for Romeo to fall for a beautiful woman like Rosaline, who had sworn a vow of chastity, "She'll not be hit/ With Cupid's arrowâ€¦And in strong proof of chastity". His love for her was not returned, which resulted in Romeo becoming the typical lovesick character, which was fashionable in that era.
The Role Of Women in Othello In Shakespeare's Othello, as in most writings of his time, women are viewed as trophies or objects to capture the attention of men. I do not doubt that these men do love their wives, but the love, respect and admiration for their women is much different that of our time. It seems modern women are much more capable of having what could be known as an "equal opportunity" marriage. In the days of sacred virginity, and honesty of one's word, well off women such as Desdemona were not given responsibility. Women in her position sat back and left the work up to their men and their servants.