Expectations of children as they reach adulthood are high, but most insufficiently meet set standards. As stated by Stephanie Coontz,”becoming, and adult involved a clear set of quick transitions.” in the 1950’s, “You finished school, got a job, moved out of the parental house, and got married.” However these crucial life guidelines are ignored by today's generation. For instance, numerous students become dependant upon their parental units upon graduating high school and never leave home. Growing up is a new struggle as a result of helicopter parents, enabling parents of adults and a lack of responsibility by the immature, unseasoned
After covering 262 pages of Raising Adults: A Humane Guide for Parenting in the New World, the reader would read four chapters, with plenty of subtopics, that enlightens him or her concerning teenagers and how to approach them. The author, Jim Hancock, fulfills his purpose within this book: to cultivate “people determined to be more intentional, more skillful, more realistic, more effective” concerning their relationships with teenagers. He successfully fulfilled his purpose by structurally discussing the current cultural composition of teenagers, and previous generations; strong relational skills that may aid an adult into becoming an effective parent; and practical strategies to raise adults. Although this book is extremely beneficial for any parent, it does have a con for me: it is too verbose. Namely, it could state what it attempts to convey in fewer words. After
Some historians have argued that 1950s America marked a step back for the advancement that women made during WWII. What contributed to this “return to domesticity” and do you believe that the the decade was good or bad for women?
In the article, “Facing Challenges Is Part of Growing Up,” Taylor Tepper, a reporter at Money, discusses the reasons for why delaying adulthood is not smart. In response, Jessica Grose, a journalist and novelist, explains her reasons for why it is smart to delay adulthood in her article, “For Many Millennials, Children Are Out of Reach”. Both Grose and Tepper wrote their articles for the opinions page in the New York Times. The use of ethos, pathos, and logos in Tepper’s article appeals more to the audience than Grose’s article, which focuses mainly on ethos and logos, because he is more likely to be trusted due to his use of personal experiences relevant to the topic of adulthood.
The 1950s seemed like a perfect decade. The rise of suburbs outside cities led to an expansion of the middle class, thus allowing more Americans to enjoy the luxuries of life. The rise of these suburbs also allowed the middle class to buy houses with land that used to only be owned by more wealthy inhabitants. Towns like Levittown-one of the first suburbs- were divided in such a way that every house looked the same (“Family Structures”). Any imperfections were looked upon as unfavorable to the community as a whole. Due to these values, people today think of the 1950s as a clean cut and model decade. This is a simplistic perception because underneath the surface, events that took place outside the United States actually had a direct effect on our own country’s history. The rise of Communism in Russia struck fear into the hearts of the American people because it seemed to challenge their supposedly superior way of life.
In the article “Kidults” written by Andrew E. Bennet talks about a development of “kidult” which means people who usually refuse to take care of themselves and embrace adult responsibilities, and instead live with their parents after adults. In addition, kidults dress and behave like children and only focus on having fun. Bennet does note that a benefit of the kidult lifestyle is that a kidult can focus on the things that they’re interested in and becoming the people that they aspire to. However, Bennet argues that kidults may suffer as adults in terms of their social and taking care of their responsibilities because they’re used to others taking care of them. In this essay, I will discuss how some adults do shy away from responsibilities
It is ironic that how some children are able to present themselves more mature than adults. The youth of the generation is becoming more mature and are developing adult skills faster than ever. People are beginning to wonder about the age of adulthood and how it should be determined. This controversy beleaguers around privileges such as drinking, driving, and voting. According to the article What is the Age of Responsibility by Alan Greenblatt, society determines that a person is an adult through customary rites, legal rights, and one’s responsibilities. However, I believe that the best way to adulthood is shown through one’s obligation for their priorities and work.
As the world moves into an age full of technological nuisances and disconnected relationships, it seems no one could risk the possibility of being considered “uncool”. Whether spending hundreds of dollars on the newest piece of technology that alleviates loneliness or attempting something new in hopes for a temporary escape, it seems nothing will suffice the hunger of universal acceptance. Though most rational people would consider the above examples ridiculous and worthless, rationality no longer finds a home in the 21st century. Most children are raised in an environment that excludes level-headed parenting as financial stability has become the most important concern. These abandoned children are left to their own vices, trying to fend for themselves without a care for danger or the hope for a brighter tomorrow. Mediocre celebrities become their families and recklessness becomes their solace in midst of such loneliness. These young children absorb such carelessness and begin to associate the hazardous acts with the promise of fortune and acceptance, as introduced by the social learning theory.
Brooks wrote this article to inform the new generation not to buy into the hype of the “baby boomers.” He uses a compare and contrast type of approach with contrasting explanations of people’s expectations versus reality. The author wants to convey a feeling of awareness, which almost feels foreboding. The intended audience is young American college students or those about to enter college. It's intent to them is to inform them of the dangers that follow graduation where expectations are concerned. This audience is comprised of both male and female readers of all races and
First I’m going to talk about how this lie affects relationships between adults and teenagers. Here’s the problem; adults don’t expect enough out of teenagers today. When I was doing research for this speech, I came across the website parentingteens.com. This website popped up first on Google, so it must by good. Right? WRONG! I went to the “setting up expectations” section by author, Denise Witmer. The list of expectations is pathetic! For pre and young teens, the expectations are making your bed everyday, being able to take a phone message, and cleaning your room once a week with help from Mom and Dad. (parentingteens.com) There is a warning at the top of this list saying that these expectations might be overwhelming and too much for your teen, so just pick one to start with! The li...
Emerging adults are always in the search of their own identity while experimenting with their life, love life and career path. Constant changes in emerging adult’s life are common. From changing residential place to love life, work and education, instability often presents during emerging adulthood (Santrock, 2013). In addition, emerging adults tend to place focus on themselves where they have no commitment and responsibilities toward others. This provides them a great chance to exercise their own will and to execute their plans for the future. During emerging adulthood, many feel like as if they do not belong to either adolescents or adult. The transition ends only when they have distinct marks of an adult. According to Arnett (as cited in Santrock, 2014), “emerging adulthood is the age of possibilities” (p. 296). The age of possibilities is when an individual has the opportunity to turn things around in life, especially when they are from a poor family
“Definitions of ‘youth’ in Western societies usually refer to the life stage between childhood and adulthood, the transitional period between being dependant and becoming independent” (Kehily, 2007). The age of this transition can be best defined by the House of Commons as starting at 16 and ending at 24 years old (2013). This transition from youth to adulthood has altered considerably in recent years; the traditional norms and values that youth once followed are no longer respected or easily attained. Current youth have very different life styles and expectations, consequently; adolescents are taking longer to complete the transition into adulthood. Twenty-five years ago the traditional norms were to get a job straight after school, start courting, get married, save up enough money to set up home and eventually start a family. The fact that this is no longer the norm for the majority of youth reflects that the changes in education, employment, housing, and benefits have affected the model of transition significantly.
Parents/guardians are likely to influence long-range plans for their kids. One of her students by the name of Callie Roberts, was encouraged by her mother to drop out of high school and attend a parenting class, due to her being pregnant. The two brother’s in her classroom’s had a grandmother who took them out of school because she did not believe getting an education was important. The students were considered to be in stage 5 of Erikson’s Psychosocial Development “Identity vs Role Confusion” since they were not used to being in a structured classroom and following rules, they had to “adapt” to a new environment in their
In America, the society runs on what teenagers want. From Nicki Minaj to the junior section at Sears, most of what the people see, hear, or touch is aimed at the teenagers. Being an adolescent is probably the most exciting and most popular time period in a person’s life. The teens seem to have it all, but what about the parents who raise them? The parents of the teenagers never get any credit during this time period, although they have every right to. Parents and teenagers should strive for a strong, lasting relationship for these years, though most times there isn’t one. The relationship between teenagers and parents is the most vital bond in the family because this relationship should and will prepare them for the next step in life.
In today’s society, it seems everyone has something to complain about. Some may be an irritable co-worker, a misjudgment in timing, or just a bad cup of coffee. Adolescents, however, are molded by the very environment they live in. Their young impressionable minds are the product of the people they come in contact with, the places they visit, the movies they watch, and the habits they create. All play an important part in their behavior and essentially how their lives will play out in the future. Regardless, growing up comes with its share of stress. Inevitably, an adolescent will face trying times when answers seem to be elusive. If not properly guided, a youth can take a turn for the worse and develop practices that can amplify their adverse situation. This paper will cover some of the most challenging issues that today’s youths come across, its purpose is to inform the reader and better help identify risk factors.
In 2001, there were 6,600 children surveyed to see if the expectations parents held for their kids had an effect on their future lives (Gillett) (BE10). Neal Halfon, a professor from the University of California, discovered that 97% of children were expected to go to college (Gillett) (BE11). This study shows the expectations that parents have for their children affects minors later on in life. In my childhood, I thought everything was fun and games and I was immature. As I grew older into adulthood, not only did I mature but I realized just how serious life is. Even though I didn’t have to make hardly any major decisions or take anything seriously in my childhood, I realize now that I have to be mature and make decisions on my own.