My mom did not take it well. She was very upset because my dad was going to have to leave. Although we knew that my dad, being in the position he is in, would probably avoid much combat, we were still scared, angry and confused as to why this was happening to us. We understood that our country needed my dad, but at that moment it was hard to find much patriotism. We had a few weeks left before my dad left.
Being abandoned by my loved ones is one of my insecurities, since childhood. Ive been through rough times my entire childhood from being with one parent to another or being on streets all alone. I never thought anyone would ever be interested in me or even if they did, they would use me and then walk out my life. My whole perspective on relationships changed when my boyfriend walked into my life. I thought it wouldn’t last or he’ll be flirting with other girls and what not.
My step-mom eventually went crazy, which led to my dad getting a divorce. If I had gone to live with my dad, I would have been sucked up in that gigantic mess. My mom and dad get along now. It is a rare occurrence when they are both not at one of my sporting events, both cheering me on together. It is hard to imagine how different my life would have been, if I had told the judge I wanted to live with my dad.
I miss my family dearly. Looking back on those months of my life when we first arrived in America, I only now realize how much I learned. I can now see how selfish and inconsiderate I was to my family. I was self-centered, but I didn't realize it at the time. Dad was having problems supporting his family, but I was worried about not having a new dress or toy.
What I experienced before trains me how to react in certain situations. When he grew up gradually, my brother was becoming naughty and often acted in a way that my parents could not bear. My parents sometimes were unable to bear my brother’s misconduct so they criticize him loudly and impatiently. I didn’t agree with what my mom has done with my brother and thought that was the nature of a kid, telling my mom to be patient. I was always thinking that parents’ impatience would hurt my brother’s heart and even ruin his self-esteem.
There was a time in my life that I use to accept my mother not being there for me, but rejected my father. Why did I look at my father in a negative way and not my mother? Eventually, as I went over that thought in my mind, I realized that I was ... ... middle of paper ... ...ave to set an example and hopefully pass on the necessity and importance of having an education to my children as will as others in urban areas. I also realize the positive affect that I was able to give to those children that didn’t have a male figures to look up to and feel that necessary male bonding. The F.A.M.I.L.E.
Personally, I plan to be successful. But honestly I never saw working and studying at the same time as my plan to success. Still, I felt the need to satisfy my dad’s desire for me to work, but at the same time I did not want to disappoint my mom. I mean, what if I did lose interest in school and just focused on getting money? Most importantly I wanted to be a successful psychologist.
Time when on and I wish I would of said something. Trying to replace my dad by my stepfather was hard because I 've grown up without a male role model and I didn 't know what to expect. I wish my mom wouldn 't have remarried because it hurt seeing my little brother and sister have a bond with their father. I didn 't have that, even thought I knew my dad was out there
Through losing his mother he learned to not take for granted the people in his life. He also learned from his parents that he did not want to raise his children like they did. From the lack of money he grew up with, he developed a hard worker attitude. He was determined to not maintain the life he knew for his children. My parents fight and argue but they have never talked about splitting up or getting divorced.
We don’t know why he was taken but assume it was because of his father and also not having enough money to raise him. He must of thought that his parents didn’t love him but all they wanted was a better life for him. Another example of not feeling belonged is when his wife and himself were going through some problems. Even if he was the cause of the problem you saw how he wanted to belong to someone and for others to love him. Throughout t... ... middle of paper ... ...y that they lived in during that time was a time that the majority of people didn’t have much money.