The best form of teaching a child how to be disciplined is for the parents to be a role model for good behavior. If you want your child to act a certain way then you too should act that way. Lastly, do not use spanking as a form of punishment. This teaches children that it is okay to hit when you are angry and it is a form of humiliation. If you want your child to be confident and proud of whom they are, then you must show them that you are proud of whom they are.
If a parent behaves in a certain manner, more than likely their children will end up doing the same actions. This is because a child is the reflection of their parents. The parents are the ones who set the right example. It is the parent’s accountability for how the children have been taught to behave. They learn their ways of behavior from their parents.
Sometimes children misbehave on purpose so they can call to your attention. Some of the most important ways to educate a child are the following: be consistent about rules, model good behavior, reward the good behavior, be clear about rules, neutralize arguments, distinguish punishment from discipline, withholding privileges, and pay attention to the child´s feelings. Parents need to be consistent and clear about their rules. They should be discussed in a moment when the child is willing to listen and not when he/she already broke it. The rules should not be vague; it is better when the child knows what his/her parents are expecting.
The word discipline, to me, does not necessarily mean punishment. Parents can use discipline as more of a teaching moment for their child. I believe that this characteristic makes for good parenting and I feel as though every parent should do it because discipline provides the foundation for children’s self-control. It is important that we consistently express what we approve or disapprove when it comes to a child’s behavior as the child will start to internalize those standards and begin to act on them. I also believe that discipline is a key part in being a good parent because it teaches children important life skills.
Children are going to make several mistakes along the way but as a teacher it will be my job to stay committed to helping children through the process. An important part of guidance is to celebrate a child’s successes along with improving what they do wrong. The strategies that we use to help children as they learn to control their behavior are a crucial part of guidance. In early childhood education a central part of the curriculum is social competence and guidance. Teaching a child to solve their own problems is a huge step in their development.
A parent should: Reveal self-worth to their children. Model and teach responsibility. Allow failures. Teach their kids to make and keep themselves as safe, healthy and happy as possible. Being a parent doesn’t mean having to be overbearing control freaks, it means having the backbone to make decisions in the best interest of the whole family, even if that choice is an unpopular one.
Parents, who worry about the child’s future, attempt to set good morality on their child. Of course, as good parents, they want to educate their children to always choose the right decision.”Role models are highly important for us psychologically, helping to guide us through life during our development, to make important decisions that affect the outcome of our lives, and to help us find happiness in later life”(Thomas). Thomas advises people on how important role modeling is and how it can help adolescents find happiness in later life. “First, the use of role modeling as a teaching method in secondary education is assessed. Second, adolescents role models and their moral qualities are identified”(Sanderse).
It is the parent’s duty to keep their children well disciplined along with giving them the opportunity to develop socially and morally. But how is it possible to approach this task correctly? Using proven methods of discipline through reasoning, positive and negative reinforcement, and observational learning one can effectively discipline their children without risking damage to the child’s social and moral development. Research has shown that using reasoning as a method for discipline more often helps develop a child’s ability to conform to the standards of what is considered right or just behaviour. Discipline derives from the Latin word “disciplinare” meaning “to teach”.
Therefore, it is very important for parents to help their children develop healthy levels of self-esteem. There are many things parents can do to help their children learn that they are lovable, capable, and competent, beginning when their children are at a very young age. Unfortunately, it is also at a very young age that children can begin to develop low self-esteem. Parents must be very careful not to plant the seeds of low self-esteem in their children unknowingly. Children learn their first lessons about self-esteem from their parents.
Of course, people would advocate violence if there is no choice so this norm should also be followed when it comes to teaching discipline. Children deserve to have a happy and pain-free upbringing as this will help them grow and develop into fine individuals in the future. Parents must be able to teach and explain to their children why they are punishing them and assure to them that they are not disappointed and they are still loved. Trust is very important for families and it may be hard to earn once the person loses his or her trust into someone, especially love ones. Parents are a source for comfort for children, not a source for fear.