Jay Gatsby illustrates a prime example of this. The entire book revolves around his one selfish desire to be with the woman he loves, Daisy Buchanan. Gatsby is well aware that Daisy married Tom Buchanan, but that does not stop him. Gatsby and Daisy begin seeing each other and spending a great amount of time together. A secret love life is not enough to satisfy Gatsby.
Wanting to be with her true love again, she sneaks visits with him without Tom knowing. Just like Myrtle had, Daisy torn into her own marriage. She loved both men, but as soon as it was found out, the men began fighting for her. “I glanced at Daisy who was staring terrified between Gatsby and her husband…” (Fitzgerald 143). This isn’t what Daisy wanted at all.
Instead of investing in their marriage, they chose to actively destroy it by looking for fulfillment in other uncalled for relationships. Their true love for each other is doubted. When Tom finds out that Daisy and Gatsby are having an affair, Tom says to Gatsby, “...what 's more, I love Daisy too. Once in a while I go off on a spree and make a fool of myself, but I always come back, and in my heart I love her all the time” (“Great Gatsby” 19). Tom does not seem to view his “spree” as he views Daisy.
Tom suspects that Gatsby and Daisy are having a relationship, but has no evidence to prove it. However, whenever Tom would leave the room, Daisy would immediately run into Gatsby’s arms to show her affection. To their dismay, Tom sees this: “She had told him that she loved him, and Tom Buchanan saw” (Fitzgerald 126). This leads to a confrontation between Gatsby and Tom, where Gatsby boldly declares that “Your wife [Daisy] doesn’t love you …She’s never loved you. She loves me” (Fitzgerald 139).
Gatsby would tell himself that Daisy loved him, just to make his heart feel warm. Gatsby speaks to Tom, “She never loved you, do you hear? She only married you because I was poor and she was tired of waiting for me. It was a terrible mistake, but in her heart she never loved any one except me!” (Fitzgerald, 130). Gatsby was treated in a manner that love was uncharted, blocked by money and lust of others.
Since Daisy was married, the idea of love between Gatsby and Daisy was forbidden. This very concept made the relationship all the more desirable. Gatsby becomes obsessed with his relationship with Daisy to the point that he was delusional. His only objective was to win Daisy back. When Tom learns of Gatsby and Daisy’s secret affair, he is outraged.
… I love you now – isn’t that enough? I can’t help what’s the past… I did love him once – but I loved you too”, then Tom states “Even that’s a lie… She didn’t know you were alive. Why there’re things between Daisy and me that you’ll never know, things that neither of us can forget” (108, Fitzgerald). Gatsby was trying his best to be with her once again, but when Tom was brought into the picture it was a battle for Gatsby to win her over. In this quote, Daisy disclosed she loved both of them while Tom tries to put Gatsby down, which emotionally destroyed his character.
Gatsby says to Tom in the hotel suit, "Your wife doesn 't love you. She 's never loved you. She loves me... She only married you because I was poor and she was tired of waiting for me. It was a terrible mistake, but in her heart, she never loved anyone but me! (Fitzgerald 137)" At this point time Gatsby is thinking completely delusional thoughts about how Daisy has always been his, she was just using Tom as a filler until she could be with him, but what Gatsby wasn 't expecting was that Daisy truly loves Tom more than she loves him.
Furthermore, Tom is also dishonest directly to Daisy about his double life; Tom’s extramarital affair ultimately proves that he does not treat his spouse, Daisy, well. Tom does not respect his own wife as he constantly deceits her so he can be content “Tom is the sort of man who can exercise is potency only if he is with a certain kind of woman. Myrtle Wilson is such a woman; Tom’s chambermaid in Santa Barbara is another” (Page 79, Oral Aggression and Splitting, A.B. Paulson). Tom’s poor behavior and disloyalty towards Daisy is merely to satisfy his own needs and he does not care to consider the feelings of those around him.
While on the last trip in New York Gatsby expresses his discontent with Daisy loving two men, saying, ““Daisy, that’s all over now,” he said earnestly. “It doesn’t matter any more. Just tell him the truth—that you never loved him—and it’s all wiped out forever.”” (202). Gatsby was asking too much of Daisy, his hunger for the completion of his delusion was too overwhelming for Daisy, who retreated into herself, afraid of one of man, disgusted by the other. These characters, however different they lie on the morality scale, all share the sinful trait of greed.