Amy, being in her teen years, is more likely to be able to handle loss, such as her parents’ divorce compared to the younger age groups. For her age, she should and has a better understanding of death and loss. However, as a counsellor myself, I will show my support and care to Amy about her struggles with her parents’ divorce. I will also help her because she is self-harming herself by cutting. In this paper, I will discuss what I will say to her in the counselling session. First and foremost, I plan to establish and build a respectable, friendly and open client-counsellor relationship. This way, she would feel comfortable to share and express herself about her problems with cutting and her parents’ divorce. When it seems that she is …show more content…
As mentioned earlier, I first want to make her feel comfortable to talk openly to me and share her thoughts and feelings with me. This is also considered as the ideal method for Amy to withdraw from harming herself. I would share some of the guidelines that Amy can follow to break free from the cycle of self-harming herself: 1. Suggest Amy to concentrate on any “feelings” that lead her to cut herself, 2) Encourage her to share her thoughts and feelings “in a way” that makes her feel at ease to do so, 3) Let Amy know that talking about harming oneself is not easy and she “may feel even worse after sharing, but it can get better in time when she shares with someone about it. Another method that I could use as mentioned in the module is to provide ways for Amy to avoid self-harm triggers. In the module, there are four different parts of managing and preventing triggers. Each part is a different reason for self-harm, such as the following: 1) “turn to self-harm to express how you feel....”, 2) “to calm and soothe yourself”, 3) “can’t access feelings”, and 4) “as a means of releasing tension or anger.” In Amy’s case, Amy has been cutting herself because it seems that she struggles to “access feelings” and/or it is a way to “calm and soothe” herself. In the letter, she wrote that when she cuts herself, she feels a “sense of …show more content…
She wrote that “I have to do something to stop myself from going mad. I didn’t really mean to start cutting myself.” As a counsellor, I want to help Amy to deal with the divorce and how to adjust to a new life after divorce. I have to keep in mind about the factors that play in a role in how Amy adjusts to a new life, such as: “the cumulative stress… following a divorce”, Amy’s “temperament and personality”, Amy’s “age”, and her
First, some people harm themselves simply because they can. A friend of Callie’s, Amanda, cuts herself and said to Callie, “Listen, I don’t see how what I do is so different from people who get their tongues pierced. Or their lips. Or their ears, for Chrissakes. It’s my body” (McCormick 37). She doesn’t see the harm in hurting herself which is why teaching this book could tell teenagers that this isn’t the path to go down and that there are other alternatives. She thinks that this is normal and a way to cope with her problems on a day-to-day basis. Amanda is one of the 1,400 out of 100,000, and growing, people who admitted to self-injury (Kennedy). Secondly, some people self-injure to cope with their feelings and tensions. Callie explains to her therapist about her father’s job situation and said, “’Now he just sells to companies nearby.’ I don’t tell you [her therapist] about how it seems like all the companies nearby already have computers, that for a while he took people out hoping they’d become customers and that now he mostly just goes out. ‘He has to work a lot’” (McCormick 111). Callie explained how her fathers situation seemed to cause her a lot of stress and how she seemed worried for him. To add, “some reasons why teens self-injure include: release of tension and feeling overwhelmed” (Styer). This is a lesson that could be taught in
middle of paper ... ... Take a number of the mystery out of self-harm by serving to them, verify concerning self-harm. Perhaps go along with them to a professional. Help them to believe their self-harm is not a shameful secret, but a problem to be sorted out.
In the article the authors stress the difficulties that disabled people run into when attempting to deal with grief. They find it critical that caregivers realize that people with disabilities very well may grasp the notion of death, and the various changes that loss may bring. Also brought up is the fact that the disabled population may not show the normal symptoms of grieving, or any symptoms at all. They stress the importance of awareness of these differences in spite of limited communication which in turn can lead to more problems with the grieving individual.
Amy and her husband, Nick, appear to have a wonderful marriage. Right from the start, it is obvious that they both truly love each other. Life has a terribly way of testing this love, and working to see just how hard one will go to secure it. Regardless of falling upon hard times, they did not allow this to hinder their relationship. Both were unemployed due to the recession, but they still had each other. That was enough for the time being, but it would not always be sufficient. Amy’s started to form worry towards the relationship when she was forced to move from her home to Missouri. Nick’s mother had become ill with breast cancer, and they moved back to his home to be closer to the family. Watching a loved one die from a terminal illness is enough to hinder any relationship.
It can often be used as a distraction from emotional distress and a way to release feelings the person has help in for so long. They often feel relief and a sense of calmness after performing the act. This is known as cutting or self-mutilation. Some forms of self-mutilation are cutting, burning, hair-pulling, pinching, scratching, picking at scars, and head-banging. People who self-mutilate often have a history of abuse, whether it be sexual, emotional, or physical. Self-mutilation often piggy backs onto other mental health problems such as eating disorders, substance abuse, schizophrenia, depression, bipolar disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder and many other mental illnesses. Most people who self-harm often have low self-esteem and are perfectionists. They are often very impulsive and have poor problem-solving
... & McIntosh, J. L. (2011). Grief after suicide, understanding the consequences and caring for the survivors. (pp. 24-33). Routledge.
Adolescent's concept of death is different from that of an adult. Therefore, caring grown-ups should provide the much-needed counsel to bereaved teens. Enough and appropriate counseling will help these youngsters to recover more rapidly so they can continue their process of individual development. Adolescents should also accept the reality of death and restrain from using drugs and other life threating substances as a recovery method. Instead, they should seek support from
Some survivors aren’t about to accept the readjustment of the sudden lost and coupled with the suffering experience through grief can find suicide as they only solution. The theme of the loss of a loved can cause the survivor the commit suicide is seen in William Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, but isn’t shown as expected. Suicide in today’s society impacts the United States both financially and socially with heavy costs in medical bills and destroy relationships between the surviving member and the deceased loved one. The grieving process is a path where one can find themselves with their wounds healed or as an emotional crippled individual at the edge of their
Suicide AwarenessVoices of Education (SAVE) proclaims, “When a person faces his grief, allows his feelings to come, speaks of his grief...it is then that the focus is to move from death and dying and to promote...
The client stated that she came to therapy because she has been feeling really lonely and feeling as though that she is not enough since the death of her father. After the death of her father, her mother did not pay her any attention; she understood that her mother was grieving, especially when her grandfather passed a year later. I stated that the frequent death that surrounded her mother, seem to have caused her mother to distance herself from her. She responded “yes, and it even gotten worse when my mom started to date and eventually marry my stepfather”. She mentioned that once her little sister was born, she became jealous and envious. I emphasized with her by stating that she must have felt as though her little sister was going to take the attention that she sought from her mother. After confirming that her mother paid more attention to her sister and stepfather, she mentioned that during this time she began to cut herself in places that no one would notice. The pain did not take the feeling away, but she wanted to know that if she could still feel pain after the thought of losing everything. However, the only person who paid her any attention during this time, was her grandmother. Her grandmother showed her the love that her mother nor “father figure” never showed her. I stated, “the love that your grandmother showed was not the love you were
There are multiple structures of that can be applied to the counselling process, ranging from the basic idea of a beginning, middle and end to a more structured approach as that proposed by Egan (1994). Although his initial structure offered three main components; Stage 1, exploring the situation, stage 2, identifying a new or desired scenario to strive for and stage 3, the action stage, in which methods of coping are devised of and implemented. Egan later devised a ten stage structure that still takes into account initial stages from the speakers perspective of identifying a problem and seeking help, within this structure stage 4 is the initial meeting of the counsellor and client and can be considered the beginning stage of the helping re...
The relationship between the counsellor and client is fundamental to the success of the counselling experience and the results that will follow. The counsellor and client need to build rapport and trust. The client needs to feel comfortable enough to open up and discuss their inner most thoughts and fears in the knowledge that the discussion is confidential and non-judgemental. The resulting relationship should be one of mutual respect.
Let us look into basic and generalized knowledge of self injury. Self injury (self harm or S.I.) is the act of harming yourself as a way of coping with emotional pain, frustration, and anger. Some view it as a suicide attempt or a precursor to a suicide attempt, but it is not a suicide attempt at all. Rather, it is a serious cry for help. When an individual turns to self injury, they look for an emotional release which gives them momentary calmness. “While self-injury may bring a momentary sense of calm and a release of tension, it's usually followed by guilt and shame and the return of painful emotions” (Self Injury 1). Self injury can also result in serious or even fatal injuries (1).
A young, teenage girl sits with her friends, talking, laughing, and making jokes. She seems completely normal and happy, even. What people don’t know is that this is nothing but a mask covering the loneliness that seems to run through her veins, and the unexplainable sadness that never goes away. She fears speaking of it, of admitting the uncontrollable hatred she feels for everything about herself, so much that she contemplates ending it all. The fact is, suicide is the third leading cause for death in people under the age of twenty-five. Our country needs to stop seeing this as a casual thing. Depression, anxiety, and suicide in youth are real and serious issues that we need to be more aware of in today’s society.