Example Of Styles Theory

Imagine yourself laying comfortably on your couch reading a book, when you get an unexpected text from a friend. Your friend wants you to send him answers of an assignment that is due soon. What would you do? Would you be a good friend and send him the solutions or be morally correct and tell him that it is unfair of him to receive credit for an assignment that he did not complete himself? I am certain that all of us have dealt with a similar, if not, exact situation in our many years of schooling. Each individual would deal with this scenario in a different way and for different reasons, as detailed by the Styles theory.
We tend to disagree with others on a daily basis. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, a conflict is defined as

Per the Styles theory, I use the obliging style for conflict resolution; this is because I have little concern for myself but exhibit a great deal of concern for others. In addition, the obliging style for resolving conflicts shows that I value maintaining my relationship with others more than I worry about facing deleterious consequences. As a freshman in college, I had a lot of free time to spend time with friends and interact with them often. However, I realized at the time that my future college years will get busy due to challenging classes and other extracurricular activities. When a couple of my friends asked me if I would join a dance group with them starting sophomore year, I was captivated by the idea; I am not even a good dancer but it is an activity where I could spend time with my friends. I expressed my interest in their idea, but after a while I came to my senses and realized that I would be very busy sophomore year. Classes, work, and other extracurricular activities would not allow me to practice with my dance team for hours upon hours. After facing a huge internal struggle with myself whether I should tell my friends that I had changed my mind about joining the dance group, I finally sent them a message apologizing for breaking my word. Initially they were very upset at me, but slowly came to understand that

For example, I recently had to use the compromising style with a group of my friends. Compared to my freshman year, I am have an additional 25 hours of coursework and other activities I am involved in this year. As a result, I have been unable to dedicate as much time as I did last year to my friends. Naturally, this made them upset because they thought that I was ignoring them (Heitler). However, I was surprised that they weren’t mad at another friend hasn’t interacted with them much this semester. After talking with them about this situation I understood a couple of things. First, they were upset with me because I wasn’t spending time with them. Second, they weren’t annoyed by the other friend because he didn’t interact with them that much last year. This anecdote shows that people are very not content with change; the fact that I went from being always obliging to hang out with them last year to not having the time to spend time with them this semester caused them to think that I was ignoring them. To deal with this conflict, I used the compromising style to find a solution that would satisfy both my friends and myself (Groth). After much deliberation we came up with a solution to communicate a bit more via social media. My new style of resolving conflict through