Long Distance Virtual Love
Many people use the internet to communicate with each other, whether it be through different platforms of social media, games, and forums. While some make friends others find love, but I will argue that these relationships cannot be kept as long as one that enjoys physical interaction. Talking to someone over the internet may be enjoyable at first but it isn 't as fulfilling as actually being near them physically, and soon the need of actually wanting to meet them will compel either person to do whatever it takes to satisfy that urge. I believe we all attract one another and need some sense of physical proximity to each other. Therefore this feeling of wanting to be close cannot be fulfilled through an internet relationship.
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These three qualities combine to form in my opinion the model relationship. Although, Proximity is what I believe to be the most important as it 's what ties the other two qualities together and completes the combo. As most people know communication is very important in any relationship but not everyone does effectively or they start to, but begin to fall off with their partners. The result of this is a relationship that isn 't very effective at relating problems directly. Poor communication is also one of the most common problems with failing relationships. When there isn 't strong communication problems go unsolved and emotions are conveyed as intended. As a result misunderstandings can develop, and hard feelings toward one another can may form, which could lead to separation or divorce if married. When a relationship is rich in communication feelings are conveyed effectively conflicts are resolved with minimal damage to either side, and people enjoy the freedom equally shared conversation. Although, online this is a different story. In the case of social media communication is shared and it can be a rich rewarding experience. The only problem with online communication is that it must be understood by the people involved equally or misunderstanding develops. The reason why is because not all the time emotion can be conveyed as clearly as when face to face. Oftentimes …show more content…
Although intimacy isn 't that hard to express through the internet. Even though, Intimacy online or virtual intimacy which I will refer to when talking about its use through the internet can either be real or fake, it also depends on how it 's communicated and received. Intimacy often relates to one 's deepest nature and is often displayed as a sort of closeness and affection for each other but on a much deeper level. Intimacy doesn 't always have to be sexual but is often confused with passion which is a strong sexual desire for another person. Intimacy is around the same ballpark but isn 't always marked by sexual lust. In fact intimacy can be expressed through many mediums online whether it be through text, picture, and even regular or live video. You may ask yourself well it seems virtual intimacy doesn 't seem that bad when compared to the effectiveness of online communication. Indeed it can be equally unsatisfactory. For one thing the validity of intimacy is important when considering its use in the virtual world as anyone can be deceived into a fake relationship in which the con artist will use effective communication and good use of intimacy to scam the unsuspecting victim, this sort of thing happens all the time online. So this is one of the reasons that marks virtual relationships is its vulnerability to fraudulent activity. Any naive
...nd the world entering the workforce, marrying later, divorcing more, moving from place to place are reasons why there is a greater reliance the internet to find love. There have been more changes in the last 50 years than in the last ten thousand years, according to Fisher.
Unfortunately, most psychologists disagree. They believe online cheating is a much more complex issue, especially when it's taken to the point of mutual masturbation. This is where the great debate over cybersex exists. Some people feel that it adds spice to their real world relationships because they don't know the “real” name of the person they're having cybersex with, so they won't ever actually meet them. For this reason, they believe their affair isn't real
2. Previous Research: There is a debate as to whether Internet use has a positive or negative impact in our social lives. One study found that for 40% of the college students in their sample, the Internet had been instrumental in the formation of new friendships. Moreover, 7% of their sample had used the Internet to find a romantic partner. The participants in the study claimed that one of the main benefits of communicating through the Internet was reduced social anxiety and shyness (Knox, 2001). In another study, there was evidence that lonely individuals were more likely to use email and the Internet in order to stay connected with others—in theory, giving them a healthier social life—however, evidence showed that heavy use had a negative social impact (Morahan-Martin, 2003). Finally, another study found that individuals comfortable or regularly involved in social gatherings reported more positive effects from Internet use than shy individuals less involved in their community (Kraut, 2002).
Managing relationship conflicts can stem from a variety of sources. This can range from the communication aspect of a couple and also getting into disagreements. It can be hard to deal with a relationship conflict. The severity of the conflict can greatly affect the relationship in a variety of ways. One way the severity can affect the relationship is if the couple will still be together. Break ups can happen when getting into an argument, but they can also be preventable. Being able to identify the conflict triggers is a very important tool to learn and it can put a halt to arguments.
And the heart, even in this commercial age, finds a way”(222)—implying that, although not perfect, online romance can work. He evidences his statement by illustrating how online dating “slows things down” (221), “puts structure back into courtship” (221), and “is at once ruthlessly transactional and strangely tender” (221). For example, he describes how couples might “exchange email for weeks or months” (221) when using a dating site, effectively slowing the dating process and adding more structure to courtship. He displays the transactional and sensitive side of Internet dating when he points to Internet exchanges between couples that “encourage both extreme honesty (the strangers-on-a-train phenomenon) and extreme dishonesty, as people lie about their ages, their jobs, whether they have kids and, most often, whether they are married” (222).
Advances in technology have complicated the way in which people are connecting with others around them and how it separates people from reality. In “Virtual Love” by Meghan Daum, she illustrates through the narrator 's point of view how a virtual relationship of communicating through emails and text messages can mislead a person into thinking that they actually have a bond with a person whom they have stuck their ideals onto and how the physical worlds stands as an obstacle in front of their relationship when the couple finally meets. In comparison, the article … While Daum and X discuss that technology pushes us apart and disconnects us from the physical world, they evoke a new light into explaining how technology creates the illusion of making
"We believe that more relationships provide more opportunity." (Source 2). It has gotten into the minds of avid Internet users that the more people you have retweeting you, liking your pictures, or your status, the more social you become. How many of these followers are actually their friends? The more notifications you have on social media does not equal the amount of friends you have. It does not make you social, it just makes you another active user on social media. Receiving notifications does not help you make friends. Even just having a little chat with people online does not mean you are friends. More relationships with people online do not provide any opportunity of creating any real friendships. Friendship are not created by liking someone's status or retweeting someone's picture. ". . . online Americans tend to have 644 ties on average." (Source 1). There is more focus on making connections, than making real friends. A casual conversation does not automatically create a real friendship. Online you can create a larger group of connections, but this does not make you social. The social ties that the internet offers do not create a real bond between people. Social media connections do not help you create a real relationship with another person. More social ties do not mean you are interacting with more people, it just means you have connections with a larger group. I don’t agree with the belief that
In our culture, technology serves as an instrumental aspect of our lives. Regardless of where you turn, you are constantly surrounded by technology. Whether it is our cellphones that spend their entire lives within an arm’s reach of us, our computers, or the newest wave of technology that is moving us towards tablets, much of our life is lived in front of screens. With these advancements comes the notion that there is an application that can solve every life problem we may have. Thanks to technological advancements like text messaging or social media networks, there are plenty of ways a relationship can be sustained for a significant period without personal contact. Unfortunately, most people have a misconstrued belief that these resources are a great substitute for personal time in relationships that have periods of long distance separation. Scientists and relationship experts debate the usefulness of technology in relationships and many do not share the above mentioned belief. They debate if technology helps sustain relationship or helps ruin relationships. Just as social media can be a great way of keeping up with others while they are away, it can also be used to spy on others and assume an intimate connection between anyone who posts on your significant other’s wall often.
A few years ago, I was given my first computer and was introduced to the World Wide Web, and America Online (AOL) chat rooms. It never occurred to me that I would meet someone online that I would consider being in a relationship with, nor talk to more than a few times. I thought wrong.
The human need for affiliation creates the challenges and rewards of finding acquaintances, forming close friendships, as well as intimate relationships. Through technological advances cyberspace, or the internet, has become a place of multiple opportunities for people to be able to fulfill that need for affiliation. Websites, chat rooms, and online communities are just some examples of virtual platforms for people to seek others, come together, and find that special someone. These opportunities can result in positive outcomes allowing people to achieve what or whom they were seeking, but they can also result in harm to themselves and others, resulting with damaging consequences. Cyberspace does not come with a warning label. People who use the internet as a means to seek relationships are at risk of being exposed to positive as well as negative results. Being made aware of some of those risks and dangers, and realizing that forming relationships on the internet is not all fun and games, may be ways to help promote a positive future for cyberspace as a place to form successful relationships.
The Internet is replacing many things in our lives : Email has replaced the postal services, E-shopping (e.g., ebay) is replacing regular shopping, and now you can arrange your dates and relationships on the Internet. Dating really changed in the last few years and meeting people online has become not uncommon or just for young people only. But everyone can now use it to find their dates and meet new people. Love via the Internet is a hot issue which faces many Internet users, and they may have experienced a love story via the Internet. I have heard many stories from my friends and relatives which they have experienced.
After doing more research in the impact of technology on interpersonal relation, I realized that technology isn’t all that great, because it hinder us from socializing practically and create a healthy interpersonal relationship. In like manner, the same goes for online dating because in my opinion, effective communication still needs to be done in person. Body language, voice tone, and physical contact make a huge difference in making conversation more alive.
Although social networks allow for more conversation among more people, they are also deceitful mechanisms that limit face-to-face interactions and possibly ruin the true meaning of friendship. They allow for more conversation by showing who is available to talk. This gives people the freedom to talk to whoever, whenever, which expands relationships. Unfortunately, over usage of social networking sites can limit the amount of time that people have to intermingle in person. They become deceitful mechanisms that take away from two or more people’s face-to-face time together. Fortunately, limiting the amount of time spent on social networking sites can lead to the perfect relationship: one with just the right amount of time spent interacting in person as well as miles away from each other.
Communication: this is fundamental in relationships because if there is no communication then there is no relationship. It is also the way to solve problems and bring up issues that can be attended too. We build a relationship using communication by interacting using common interests or opinions.
It has existed for over 300 years. Today, it is easy to name some people who are in love and met online. In the past, this was not considered to be an appropriate way to create a relationship. Online dating can be traced back to the early 1700’s where matrimonial agencies connected people in romantic relationships. However, in the past, the people who made adverts in search for husbands or wives were always seen as having been failed in a certain manner.