Essay On Stressors

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One of my biggest stressors is time management. I work about two jobs and go to school full time. When I have an hour or so between my classes or work, I tend to waste most of my times. This causes a big deal of stress for me when I have tests and assignments due. I start lashing out at people (displaced aggression) and becoming very angry and very depressed. I need to start coping and there are two ways to do so.
Problem-focused coping: problem- focused coping emphasizes on changing or transforming the central cause of the stress. It can be very helpful and the stressor can be modified. In this coping we diminish or eliminate the stressor. For example, in my case, a good problem-focused coping would be working less hours and having more time available to me. Or I can hang out with my friends less so I have more time presented to me rather than wasting that precious time chitchatting.
Emotion-focused coping: Usually, emotion-focused coping is used when the stressor is not within control. We take control over our emotions rather than changing something about the unchangeable stressor. Again, at this example, I can build myself up for something much worse. I can think about worse things happening to me; for instance what if I was sick or I did not have a supporting family. This method distracts me from thinking about it too much and makes be thankful. I also can tell myself that I am doing pretty well in school considering all the stress I am under. Also school is almost over and I only need to bear this for one more month and I can rest after. But, the best emotion- focused coping I have found is yoga. It relaxes the body and the mind.

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...ted to fit in very badly and the feeling of exclusion made me start smoking which now I regret very much.
-Some times a teacher asks a question from the whole class, but nobody raises their hand to answer the question. I often think I know the answer, but I do not want to be the first/only one to raise their hand. I would rather blend in with the rest of the class than to raise my hand and be excluded (at that moment. I do not even care about being right or wrong).
-Some everyday examples of conformity is obeying a dress code at work or school, following regulations set forth in a company, using socially acceptable behavior in public, and even following the syllabus of a class.
*I think this is a sad reality of life. We spend all your grade school years trying SO HARD to fit in with everybody else, and the rest of our life trying to separate ourselves and be unique.

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