Parenting can be described as the most rewarding aspect of a person’s life, or the worst. Parenting is not always about correcting a child’s behavior, it is about moral harmony. The way parents discipline their own children has a lot to do with the way their child matures throughout his or her own life. Ultimately, it is about a parent raising their children in the best way they see fit; creating a legacy. Some of the many factors that determine a child’s ultimate outcome include: the types of parenting styles used on children, parent involvement, and the many methods of discipline.
They believe children should have opinions on the rules and they want their children’s input. They attempt to handle disagreements fairly, and respectfully. Authoritative parents know that they are in control, and tend to have the respect of their children, because though they are in charge they are not dictatorial. They are not afraid to have their ideas or ideals challenged no do they find it necessary to become overbearing just to prove a point or take challenges as personal attacks on their authority. Authoritative parents t... ... middle of paper ... ...hly damaging way to raise kids.
They grow up to be responsible adults who feel comfortable expressing their opinions. Authoritative parents create a balance between authoritarian and permissive parenting styles. For example, there are times when a parent needs to have their child obey them, with no exception, and there are also times when a parent needs to allow their child to make mistakes without their interference. Authoritarian, neglectful, permissive, and authoritative are all labels associated with one’s parenting style; it does not determine whether or not they are a bad parent. Though these styles of parenting may be appearing to one’s judgement, most parents hope for the same end result for their kids as an independent, resilient and successful child.
They are also involved in their child’s activities. As it mentions in Infants, Children and Adolescents these parents are “warm, attentive, and sensitive to their child’s needs” (Berk 388). The warmth and sensitivity to a child’s needs brings them closer to the parents. With the warmth there is also there is reasonable strictness, and rules. These parents explain their discipline, punishments a... ... middle of paper ... ...ould have done differently would be to make a less harsh punishment.
Children of these parents are most likely to be obedient and proficient, but they are, also, anxious, unhappy, hostile, aggressive, and have low self-esteem (Santrock, 2012). Authoritative parents like to establish rules and guidelines for their children to follow. These parents will listen to and respond to their children’s questions and concerns. These parents tend not to punish the children, they are more nurturing, forgiving, and supportive (Santrock, 2012). They show trust in them and they tend to have higher self-esteem and grades.
Authoritative and Permissive styles of parenting, leaves less to be desired when it comes to child development. Authoritative parenting style establishes rules and guidelines which they expect their children to follow. Authoritative parents are responsive to their children and questions are encouraged. A more nurturing and forgiving approach is practiced, as opposed to the avenue of punishment. Baumrind suggests that these parents "monitor and impart clear standards for their children’s conduct.
These same styles of teaching are also observed within the home. Diana Baumrind discovered that there are different styles of parenting that every child experiences from different behaviors or attitudes. First parenting styles are Authoritative which is when parents are more demanding but sensitive and responsive to their children. This parent sets clear rules that are expected to be followed but when a rule is broken they do not shame there child. The child is pulled aside, reminded the child of rules, and talk through on how to correct the behavior like a warning.
But each style comes with its effects on children. A few pros about Authoritarian parents are that their... ... middle of paper ... ...pera 128). Being involved in your children’s lives and understanding them as well as listening to their problems can be very beneficial in creating a relationship with your kids where everyone is respected and voices can be heard. The authoritative approach to parenting is the better way because you are enforcing rules but you are also giving justification for them, raising children to become responsible and independent for themselves. And to think about the consequences that their actions may lead to, which is something that the other two styles seem to be lacking in.
Having expectations and boundaries are a vigorous part of parenting until it becomes unfeasible. As a result of being too strict, children often become de... ... middle of paper ... ... work individually and unite to influence children outcomes. Although specific parenting behaviors, such as spanking or reading aloud, may impact child development, looking at a certain behavior in isolation may be misleading. Though parents may fluctuate in how they try to control or socialize their children, it is implicit that the prime role of all parents is to influence, guide, and control their children. Parenting style provides a robust indicator of parenting functioning that foresees child well-being across a wide spectrum of environments and across diverse communities of children.
The word discipline, to me, does not necessarily mean punishment. Parents can use discipline as more of a teaching moment for their child. I believe that this characteristic makes for good parenting and I feel as though every parent should do it because discipline provides the foundation for children’s self-control. It is important that we consistently express what we approve or disapprove when it comes to a child’s behavior as the child will start to internalize those standards and begin to act on them. I also believe that discipline is a key part in being a good parent because it teaches children important life skills.