Essay On Divorce On Children

I. In my experience both educational and personal, I have had the opportunity to reflect from multiple perspectives on how divorce affects children, and what family law attorneys can do to improve the outcomes for children, and ultimately society.

II. I have done some research and found that during the 1950s to the 1970s divorce was only fault based. Essentially, one spouse had to prove the other spouse committed marital offense.

III. As a result, divorcees were stigmatized, and their children were often outcasts from a “broken home”. There was a strong belief at the time that children of divorce were at risk for school failure, delinquency, and psychological disorders.

IV. Today as divorce becomes more common and accepted, legislation changed and the “no-fault” divorce was introduced. Society has begun to view divorce in a more positive light, thus viewing children of divorce differently.

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I. As a result, instead of divorce being taboo and frowned upon, people now view it as a second chance at happiness.

A. Instead of being considered “lost causes”, children of divorce can now be resilient and able to cope.

B. The number one risk factor is the level of intensity or parental conflict prior, during and after divorce. Studies have found that the effects of conflict on

Palmer 2 children lead to feelings of “chronic” stress, insecurity, shame, self- blame as well as guilt.

C. These may also have a tendency toward lower rates of education, early marriage, living together before marriage, and a group of behaviors that can be described as: lower commitment to marriage, infidelity, problems with anger management, poor conflict resolution skills and maladjustment problems to peers.

D. Adults having experienced divorce of thei...

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...e that if psychologists provide an excellent review of interventions for divorced families, including educationally-focused programs, then the children have a better shot at coping with the situation and moving on.

C. For each family, a high-conflict divorce has a different meaning.

Conclusion:

No divorce is a good divorce, but when it comes to the kids, some divorces are clearly better than others. One of the most important things divorcing parents can do is to educate themselves and understand how their actions along with the animosity they exhibit toward

Palmer 4 the other parent impacts their children in negative and destructive ways. Divorce is what you make it. It can be a good or bad thing but that all determines how it is resolved. It takes two people to make something of it; parents should be careful how the address the situation for the child’s sake.