Erickson Stage Theory and the Impact of Divorce on Children

Parents have a responsibility in fixing conflict with their children; there are many ways to this, but two main ones are talking to the children and getting professional help. One of the last responsibilities a parent has during divorce is monitoring and... ... middle of paper ... ...ports that can help the children take their mind off the divorce and have fun. Although, divorce is a difficult situation to go through, there are many pros and cons that can come from divorce, For example, divorce is good if there is conflict between the parents, which is affecting the children. Divorce is bad because it can make the children depressed, because they can have certain feelings of loss. Should parents stay in marriage instead of divorce for the sake of the children?

The people often overlooked throughout the process of a divorce, surprisingly enough, are the children. Children found in the middle of a divorce are very susceptible to developing trust issues, social problems, and often struggle academically. Successful relationships start with a foundation of trust and respect for one another. Being able to maintain trust in relationships is often a challenge for children coming from divorced parents, to a higher extent if the children observed an issue of trust disrupt their own parents’ marriage. Moreover, if a child becomes aware of an affair happening in their parents’ marriage, such child is very likely to carry a great resentment toward one parent and a much stronger bond with the other.

Now, I got an opportunity to select a topic to research so I chose divorce. I would like to know what situations children go through after their parents get divorced. I am assuming that divorce might be the hardest thing for some children, especially in childhood life. Divorces are more common than they were generations ago. In a Time/CNN survey released in august 1997 which showed that the largest population of respondents (45%) answered that marriage is not taken seriously by most of the couples because they always end up getting divorced.

The girls have more of a possibility of suffer from sexual abuse, and to be a mother at an early age. Divorced couples’ children are least likely to be happy or to succeed in life than children with both parents. Whether the child succeeds in accepting and adapting to a new lifestyle, or if he or she fails, most of the influence in the child’s life will come from the parents. The way the parents handle the situation will influence how the child handles the divorce. Children will always prefer their parents to be together, but they can learn to understand the situation if they are brought up correctly.

Over time, children learn how to mediate arguments between their adult parents in order to seek a communicative agreement. This function, among others, puts children in a place where they feel as if they need to choose a side, one parent or the other. The reason this occurs is because their parents’ demand-withdraw pattern... ... middle of paper ... ...e a greater communication satisfaction within the post divorce family unit. It can be concluded that the complex changes in life circumstances that an adolescent experiences throughout and after a divorce can alter relations with one or both parents. Main factors such as children feeling caught between parents and inappropriate parental divorce disclosures can effect parent-child relations in both positive and negative ways.

Two out of five children will experience the divorce of their parents before they reach age eighteen (D. Matthews). Research suggests that divorce creates harm to children and affects development of children in a variety of ways. Research also suggests that divorce also has both short-term and long term effects on children. This paper will focus on the history of divorce in our society and current statistics, how divorce affects the level of trust in familial and social relationships, and how divorce creates an unhealthy state of confusion in children/adolescents. The statistics of divorce are only growing.

The Effects of Divorce on Children Throughout time, people from all over the world have chosen to live together, or “get married”. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but there are some couples who are unable to maintain their relationships, because they choose divorce as a solution to cope with the problems between husband and wife. For a child, it is very difficult to live only with one of his or her parents. Children often cannot adjust well during the divorce of parents because the change can be devastating for them. Although divorce can be a solution to cope with problems between husbands and wives, it may often still have dangerous effects, especially on children.

It provides the overall understanding of how divorce affects children. When evaluating policy alternatives aimed at improving the well-being of children, the above listed factors need to be considered which has been clearly stated in this article. It is a descriptive article which provides the general view of how divorce lower children’s well-being. Though it has successfully mentioned the important impacts of divorce on children’s wellbeing, but it couldn’t include the other factors which the children need to face in the separation of their parents. They need to face all the queries of society and their friends, regarding the cause of their parents’ divorce due to which they might feel depressed and isolated which has been neglected by this article.

Children from divorced families scored considerably lower on a range of outcomes and it was shown that these problems can persist into adulthood. Given the high rate of divorce and the negative effects it has on our youth, the implementation of effective prevention programs has great significance (Wolchik, West, Sandler, Tein, Coatsworth, & Lengua, 2000). Rationale When considering the implementation of a school based counseling group it is important to consider the evidence. The use of data-based practices in such groups requires tha... ... middle of paper ... ... and if the group helped them. This will serve as a way to bring closure to the group while also obtaining evaluation from the student’s perspective.

The degree of psychological effects depends on the age of the child. Children of ages 6 or lower tend to have less developed cognitive abilities which will increase as the child matures. At this age, children experience egocentrism which causes them to blame the divorce on themselves (Foulkes-Jamison, 2001). These children are emotionally dependent and will... ... middle of paper ... ...dial parent wants to relocate to escape the guilt they may feel or to start over. Depending on the situation, I believe that if the custodial parent has to relocate, it should be to an area close enough for the child to attend the same school and be around their old friends.