“Self-awareness, in short means being ‘aware of both our mood and our thoughts about that mood,’ in the words of John Mayer,” (Goleman). Knowing both of these ideas can help us keep our control over emotions, and not letting them control us. “Emotions that simmer beneath the threshold of awareness can have a powerful impact on how we perceive and react, even though we have no idea they are at work,” (Goleman). Powerful emotions are a force that can easily take over your mind, and when they take over, it is like that feeling becomes you. Awareness of your emotions is just the first phase, and is not self-sufficient.
Trust: trust is fundamental for a relationships survival if you do not trust the other half in the relationship the relationship will fail as there will be a sense of insecurity. Trust is hard earned and easily lost. Sincerity: there will always be conflict within a relationship and you need to be able to apologise and realise when you are wrong. The sooner there is an apology the sooner the relationship can advance. Self-restraint: if you are going to say something make sure it will not offend the other person and rather not say it.
Fear is often seen in our society as a drawback, something that should be eliminated from ourselves in order to achieve our full potential. Fear of failure and fear of taking risks are all restrictions that we have learned to ignore. We are taught that these concerns limit us and deprive us of our ability to be successful. It can sometimes disadvantageous in certain situations but I would challenge you in this essay that the restrictions of anxiety can be beneficial. The reality is that we need fear in our lives to keep our decisions in check.
Through Damsio’s and his colleague’s works and hypothesis we can conclude that there is a strong relationship between our feelings and emotions with the way we make decisions. Without emotions or feelings we as humans would not be able to make any decisions. While previous philosophers would argue against such claims it is proven that emotions are an essential factor used when making decisions. Without them we are unable to function on a normal everyday basis. As stated by him and his colleagues “damage leads to the pathological impairments to the decision making process which seriously compromise the efficiency of everyday life decisions.”
Fear affects us in negative ad positive ways that control every decision we make, but its power is limited to our reaction and whether our fear is negative or positive. Negative fears are mostly caused by reflecting on things that have happened and then using that knowledge to come to realization of the fear in a current situation. When we fear negatively, it leads us away from making positive choices. Although fear can be seen as something to make us stronger, it is ultimately what creates failure. Shirley Maclai said, “Fear makes strangers of people who would be friends.” Fears hold us back and don't let us explore new things.
There are many reasons for wanting to control another person’s expression of individuality. Controlling other person means imposing our view of the world, the way we do thing, and how we feel about them. Some of those reasons can be good and others can be bad. There are individual who takes advantage of a close and loving relationship to meet their our needs, without caring at all the feelings of the other person. Controlling others can also be abused and can cause serious damage or can terminate a relationship before getting what he/she wants.
Defense Mechanisms are defined as methods the ego uses to avoid recognizing ideas or emotions that may cause personal anxiety. In other words, it is our body’s way from hiding from emotional and physical pain. People use these methods so they do not hold quilt or pressure but many of times it adds to one’s stress level. In using these methods, there should be certain steps to take to ensure that stress does not overwhelm and consume the being. I have recently used denial, rationalization, and repression which as a result added to my stress level and could have been easily managed.
Does it mean any situation or behavior will correct itself without any input from me? Or it implies taking responsibility for my situation and be in tune with current realities? Often, we interpret current realities based on past experiences, learned behavior, or we jump to conclusions rather than actively listen, and this results in frustration, wrong projections and conflicts. Here are some useful ideas to help you douse tension when confronted with stressful situations. I believe these tips are better than explosive outbursts.
Again, to understand a crisis it is better for us to work as a group to guarantee that all the aspects are recognized. Next, we need to shield ourselves from becoming too rigid in our thinking; because this will prevent creative ideas. We must anticipate the effects brought on by the crisis and have plans on how to manage them before they even arise. Knowing what you are going to do also brings a sense of calm which increases our chances of success. Innovative thinking gives us an edge when it comes to decision making as well – because when we can foresee the effects of our decisions we have more confidence in making them.
In order to fully change an individual’s style of thinking and working, we must understand the theory and techniques in order to break down the barrier of resistance. REASONS FOR RESISTANCE There are several reasons for resistance to change from employees These reasons include fear of the unknown, threatening job security, bad timing, lack of resources, no personal gain, and fear of incompetence. Individuals that are resistant to change fear the unknown when they do not know how it will affect their lives and the changes it will bring. The perceived threat to job security is a factor that will cause resistance. People who think that the change may cause them to lose their job will oppose it.