Effects of Divorce on Children Children will be suffered conflict with the interaction with their parents and siblings, and other aspects in their family life by cause of the divorce (Berk, 2010). Some parents who decide to get divorced that they were waiting the time on arguments and fights. Also, these parents use their children to punishment to one to each other. For this situation, children have a lot of conflicts on their emotions, and they have issues in their security. For instance, the custody’s fights are the biggest battle during the separation, and parents develop a lot of stress during this process.
Often times children that have parents who go through divorce are mentally and emotionally unstable. Children that have parents who are divorced or who are in the process of going through a divorce respond and react differently. There are four major effects that divorce has on a child: stress, risk, resilience, and painful memories with ongoing worries (Emery). Most children do not want to see their parents' marriage end in a divorce unless there is major conflict or they are arguing constantly. Children often blame themselves for their parents' divorce.
When divorce occurs it does not just happen between those that are married, everyone in relation to the divorcee’s are effected. This suggests a “community divorce,“ and presents many other dilemmas. Community divorces contribute to conflicts between mutual friends and create tension between certain family members. More often than not, children are in the middle of the divorce and feel that it may their fault. A lot of the time, the children’s welfare is not properly taken into account.
Parents of divorce fail to realize how much more work is placed on their back to raise a child in two different homes. “Having two homes is like putting your life in a couple of carrier bags every two weeks” (Bailey 9). This can cause confusion between the child and the two of his/her parents which can lead to poor social skill and or depression. However, parents who divorce with children of young ages have a lot to do with the mood swings, obsessive behavior, and personality adjustments later in life. Those children who feel they have been abandoned by their mother or father usually go through depression which can cause mental illnesses, such as a psychotic disorder.
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The divorce rate has decreased in Missouri from 1990 to 2011 from 5.1% to 3.9% (CDC), which is a positive trend. Newsweek reported “Part of the reason is the high cost of breaking up; many couples just can’t afford it”. The cost of divorce should be viewed more as an overall financial adjustment not just the initial cost of the attorney and filing fees which are paid at the beginning. After a divorce the family income is reduced by at least 50% (Fagan) and it is likely for a female to fall into poverty or below status until she would remarry (Vanassche... ... middle of paper ... ...e: One Writer’s Story.” newsweek.com. n. 21 March 2014.
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