Dr David Ley: The Myth Of Sex Addiction

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It is hard to conceptualize what sex addiction is. For so many people sex addiction isn’t even something that registers as an actual addiction. Throughout most of peoples schooling we are taught about how bad alcohol and drug addiction is bad, but rarely is sex addiction talked about. Perhaps this is because there is still a stigma around sex, that it should all be hush hush and not discussed in a public forum. Sex addiction could also be pushed to the wayside because of how we as a society handle sex based on gender. The more partners a man has the more well respected they are. If they have many partners, it is not sex addiction, it’s just them fulfilling their biology. It’s the opposite for women, they are frowned upon the more partners they …show more content…

Talking to Dr David Ley, the writer of “The Myth of Sex Addiction” Cosmo talks about the way people use the sex addict label. Ley makes the argument against sex addiction using Ariel Castro’s plea to the court that the crimes he committed against three young women were an act of addiction and claims that “sex addiction [is] an excuse for his monstrous behavior…” and that it “creates the idea that men are not responsible for their sexual behavior”. While I can see how this would be a compelling claim and I think in any case a medical diagnosis should be used in determining an addiction, he cannot just claim that no one is a sex addict purely on the misuse of it by one person. It is also belittling the suffering and pain that people who are addicted to sex go through. It isn’t just having sex when in the mood, it is a compulsion. Research done by the Center for Addiction Research categorizes sex addiction when “sex dominates an individual’s life to the exclusion of other activities” leaving no room for anything else. They go on to say that sex quickly switches from healthy to an addiction “ when the person care more about the act itself than the other person involved” and sex addiction is often a sign of deeper mental struggles such as bipolar, depression or

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