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Domestic Violence

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I have read a lot of statistics and personal testimonies about Domestic Violence situations. Most of us know the patterns. Most of us are familiar with the statistics. Often times statistics are only numbers unless you or someone you know have become one and have lived that hell personally. Many of us have, including myself. While we can, and should, do our part as individuals, and as groups, to lobby for protection, for support, and for awareness, we also need to realize that, as difficult as it may seem, each of us has been given free will. While it may seem the most difficult thing to accept that we maintain some control of our destiny in most cases- especially after years of being told otherwise- it is ultimately the most empowering realization. I know it was for me. As a victim of the most extreme forms of physical and verbal domestic abuse for six years- having been beaten bloody on a regular basis; having been raped and inhumanly tortured almost daily- I came to a point where I knew that while I had support from friends and family, it was ultimately me alone who would make the final decision to walk away from something that wasn't right and could no longer continue. That was probably the most difficult thing for me to do in my whole life. I always believed that marriage is something you do not take lightly. I took the words "...till death do us part" literally up to that point. My children- whom I loved and cherished more than anything in the world- were the product of this marriage. Up until I made this difficult decision, I thought it was my duty to God, and to my family to continue things as they were. Until I realized that "..till death do us part" took on a whole new meaning. If I had stayed this man would have killed me. Each beating escalated to the point that I was convinced this man will end my life at some point had I stayed. Imagine how I felt the day I decided that I needed to walk away for my own safety and for the safety of my children. I didn't sneak out of the house. I waited for the father of my children to come home. I looked him in the face and told him I was leaving, and with escorts, I did so with my children and ran for three years in fear. Today, I have attained the financial stability to provide for my family after a long and hard road, and that far exceeds the

In this essay, the author

  • Opines that we can and should lobby for protection, support, and awareness, but we also need to realize that, as individuals, we should also realize this.
  • Explains that while it may seem difficult to accept that we maintain some control of our destiny in most cases, it is ultimately the most empowering realization.
  • Explains that they knew that while they had support from friends and family, it was ultimatelyme alone who would make the final decision to walk away from something that wasn't right and could no longer continue.
  • Narrates how they realized that if they had stayed, this man would have killed them. each beating escalated to the point that they were convinced he would end their life.
  • Narrates how they have achieved financial stability to provide for their family after a long and hard road, and that far exceeds themoney their ex husband did not allow them to have in their marriage.
  • Opines that the cycle ofviolence can end with you and those who you allow to help you should you find yourself in a relationship.
  • Explains that 6 women were battered in one form or another by an intimate in the time it took them to read this. behind closed doors could be your sister, mother, daughter, friend...
  • Describes how they envision a candle that lights the way for others. they imagine what happens when the flames of two or more candles join.
  • Describes lesar, jenny, kesegich, ken, steinbach, alice, dolan, and kimball.
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