One thing that is commonly stated about divorce is, once two married parents with children decide to divorce, that they are no longer a family (66). Although, they may not be living together in the same house it does not mean they are still not a family. No matter what, the parents will always be linked to each other because of the children. Is that not the definition of a family? In addition, assumptions are made that if people are married with kids that they are an ideal family This is not the case, if the marriage is not working out and is only causing problems amongst the parents and kids than that is not considered a family either.
It is quite absurd that a couple would decide to get a divorce based solely off of a misunderstanding that they refuse to discuss, but sadly, many couple do actually end up divorced because of a simple miscommunicated word, action, or emotion. Open and honest communication is vital in the health of any marriage. One of the biggest and most detrimental struggles in marriage is communication According to S.M. Stanley, H.J. Markman, M. St. Peters, and B.D Leber, authors of, “Strengthening Marriages and Preventing Divorce,” “Evidence from several longitudinal studies of couples suggests that communication problems are destructive martial conflict and is among the leading risk factors for future divorce and marital distress” (qtd.
At this point, most couples think of ways to solve this issues and according to this study other couples eventually file for divorce. He also reports, “A study of young Americans who wished to divorce showed that economic factors played a significant role in many who sought separations and divorces (Burgess et al., 1997)” (Ludwig pp 157). Evidently, this shows that financial problems cause divorce due to lack of money to support oneself. With that, it is also difficult to financially support your marriage. In some cases, the other person is inclined to take on the responsibilities that deal with financials.
Some of the factors that were listed were some of the reasons why my parents got into divorce, but mostly the reason why I think my parents got divorced was because of not of commitment. There is a lot of understanding of these factors that may help couples increase the risk of not getting divorced but it all depends on the person. In addition, it would’ve been other options to not get a divorce, like marriage counseling for instance. So, simply marriages can increase the risk to divorce if they want to work it out for their children and their relationship and possibly get a marriage counselor to better their
The wife has to go through, maybe, entering the work force for the first time. Children are often viewed as a back burner issue but more often than none they are the center piece of discussion. The children may begin feeling inadequate around their friends and even in personal esteem. Feeling like it is their fault they might get depressed or perhaps even rebellious. Regardless, divorce is an activity that has become common place in today's family structure, behavior, and morality.
When this divorce prevails and all the court dates are done, are the parents doing everything that they can to help their child cope, or are they making this harder on the children than it has to be? Many children disagree with their parents on the effects that the divorce had on them. A large portion of parents feel that if they are stern yet gentle about telling their children of their decision that it will not affect the children as much and that the children will be more accepting, however, the children think no matter how the situation is presented, the effects are the same. Some of the troubles that the children may encounter will be left unspoken, for the children feel that they won't be heard or for fear of punishment for showing how they truly feel. This may lead to secrets from parents, rebellion, and emotional distress.
Separation affects people in several different ways; some dread it others welcome it. While marriage is supposed to be a beautiful union between two individuals, divorce seems like an all too common life event. It is more than common in the United States, or even across the world. Parental divorce can be life changing. The whole family is affected but it has more negative effects on children weather minor or adult.
Divorce may be always considered a bad behavior that may bring different consequences to the life of their children. To some people divorce is like a cancer, sometimes its can be dealt with it, sometimes can be manage, and some other times can be dangerous. But it does do not matter how people see it, in reality, divorce is something that have been in our culture and sometimes it may be for a good and sometimes may be bad. It is sad to imagine that in this times divorce is becoming more commonly around our families and for more marriages divorce has become an excellent source to put an end to their marital problems. As a result, there will come a time when divorce will become so normal that people will not see it as something bad, causing more marriage to claim a divorce.
Most couples will try their hardest to work things out within their marriage, but sometimes divorce can be the best option. You cannot force something to work if it cannot work naturally. This process is more difficult when there are children involved. Most parents do not want a divorce because they do not want to destroy their family. Most families want that ideal household, but no family is that perfect.
This is a natural concern for people that might not understand or accept same-sex couples (Wheeler771). The issue that has reached a consensus is on the welfare of children that are being raised by adults that choose to share relations with the same gender, or what census researchers call a “same sex parent household.” With all the controversy about whether a couple of the same-sex is acceptable in our society, you have to wonder how this will affect a child. Some critics have suggested children are doomed to a life of struggle compared with those raised with a traditional mother and father setting (Carpenter). “It is well-established that children do not need parents of each gender to adjust healthily”(Same-sex). Jessica Larson has been raised by a parent that lived a homosexual life... ... middle of paper ... ...matters.