Divorce in the Lives of Children

Seeing that your parents are drawing further apart and are going through many heartache puts teens through a lot of emotion. As the parents divorce, teens may e... ... middle of paper ... ...ying because of how hurt they is are tough. Be supportive and help them through divorce. Works Cited Barkham, Patrick. "Why Divorce Can Be So Difficult For Teenage Children."

This significant shift in lifestyle can cause many effects on various age groups of people. When a married couple is miserable and unhappy, considering divorce seems like the only answer. Some parents do not consider how much the divorce will affect their lives, along with the lives of their children. When a married couple gets divorced, children in the family have trust issues, teens become rebellious, and the couple themselves often go into severe depression or sadness. Effects on Adults The lives of adults who go through a divorce are changed forever.

Moreover, if a child becomes aware of an affair happening in their parents’ marriage, such child is very likely to carry a great resentment toward one parent and a much stronger bond with the other. If the mother has moved onto a new spouse and the father is left grieving, the child is likely to pick sides with the father and possibly feel as if betrayal has taken place due to the mother becoming distant. The child tends to take the side of the ‘weaker’ parent; the one who has fallen into a downward spiral, the parent whom the child believes is in need of protection. Children need a basis of trust in order to form healthy relationships as they mature and reach adulthood. A skewed interpretation of the importance of trust is detrimental to a child’s future relationships.

Children suffer from the separation of their parents and their adulthood may be affected. The divorce can be very stressful, sad, and confusing for kids. Since many years ago, many people have argued that if p... ... middle of paper ... ...eir lives. Their parents’ divorce will always have lifelong terms effects on their daily lives. Divorce may be always considered a bad behavior that may bring different consequences to the life of their children.

In a divorce, the parents usually do not get along and may have different opinions on items. They may go to court and fight against each other about what factors caused the separation leading to the divorce and how the properties are divided. This possible exposure is very unhealthy for a child. The child sees his parents fighting and may learn from the behavior and display it. He or she may see that behavior as being an acceptable action.

This is why they keep asking their parents to come back together. Their parents will often keep rejecting their request of coming back together, which also causes negative feelings to appear again during divorce. This is not only because their parents reject the child’s request, but also because children compare themselves with other children whose parents are not separated. Furthermore, some children tend to blame themselves for the divorce of their parents because it is emotionally easier for children to blame themselves than to put the blame on someone else. If the child blames himself or herself, he or she would think that they are the reason for the damage that happened in the relationship between their parents.

There are many issues and concerns that divorced parents must think about when children are involved. Divorce affects children in many ways such as emotionally, physically, academically, and socially. Although there may be some advantages to divorce, for example divorce is good if the child is being hurt or abused, by one of the parents. The reality is that divorce is bad for many children because it can make the children depressed, and because they have to choose which parent to stay with. Parents should stay in marriage instead of divorce for the sake of the children.

Financial issues or sharing duties can also be major reason for divorce. Each and every reasons of divorce affect the children’s life differently. In spite of all these reasons, majority of parents don’t care, what will be the affects of divorce on children’s life. How these innocent children handle and adapt to the new environment. Divorce can have both positive and negative affect on children’s life.

Divorce will affect a child varies from their age. If the children's parents get divorced when they are nine or younger, then the children will tend to blame themselves for the divorce and think that their parents will eventually get back together. The children having hope for their parents getting back together is not good, because it is very unlikely that they do get back together. If they are between the ages of nine and thirteen, then the children will start to become more dependent and have a feeling of betrayal from their parents for getting divorced. When divorce will affect a child the most is when they are in a serious relationship, they will start to think that it will fail or they will eventually separate.

The children also suffer because they are now separated from one parent and no longer have both parents in the home. This devastation causes psychiatric trauma to the child’s state of mind. Often enough, the divorce is already a strain on both parents therefore the childre... ... middle of paper ... ...rowing into adults and facing the same issues that their parents’ one struggled with. Works Cited Gallagher, M. (1996) The abolition of marriage How We Destroy Lasting Love. Regnery Publishing Cherlin, A. J.