Most families want that ideal household, but no family is that perfect. Sometimes it is best for parents to get a divorce because they do not want a negative vibe in the household. Some children can completely understand while others cannot. That alone can add more stress on a parent. When dealing with divorce, it is important to just give love and support to one another.
When this divorce prevails and all the court dates are done, are the parents doing everything that they can to help their child cope, or are they making this harder on the children than it has to be? Many children disagree with their parents on the effects that the divorce had on them. A large portion of parents feel that if they are stern yet gentle about telling their children of their decision that it will not affect the children as much and that the children will be more accepting, however, the children think no matter how the situation is presented, the effects are the same. Some of the troubles that the children may encounter will be left unspoken, for the children feel that they won't be heard or for fear of punishment for showing how they truly feel. This may lead to secrets from parents, rebellion, and emotional distress.
The kids need to understand that even though the parents are separating, it does not mean that they do not love the kids anymore. The parents are getting a divorce, the children are not getting in a divorce with the parents, so their love for the children remains the same. In a Christian home, usually divorce is not the first thing that comes to mind for most Christian marriages. Some of them may find a way to work things out, or they may even ask for a separation. Although, separation can lead t... ... middle of paper ... ... going out with the family on special occasions or just going to have fun.
Sadly, many come to realize that the marriage they're in is not the one that they thought it would be. Divorces happen for many reasons and it is indefinitely debatable whether a divorce is positive or negative. Thus, many may say that one growing up in a household with two intact parents is more likely to be successful in their future. Sometimes, though a couple just doesn't get along in a household and it can cause stress not only on them but to others in the family. As Berlin states in his testimony that, “marriage can help children only if the marriage is a healthy one”.
Sembers states “Parents who choose to mediate their divorce show their children that working together to find a solution is preferable to fighting against each other” (Sember). When a child pays attention to his or her parents cooperating in order to make their divorce process easier is teaching the child that fighting is not the route to take when you can negotiate and work through problems that may arise. Even though the parents are divorcing, it gives the child an outlook to a happy future because his or her parents are
Not all of these theories can be of help to your growing divorce rates and broken families. Take for instance the social-conflict and feminist theory where money is given from one generation to the next to solve family complications. Though that may work in some situations it will not work for them all. The major problem with this theory is that it does not focus on the underlining problem; which is the individuals need to work through their problems together as well as holding off marriage until they know for sure this is the right person to be with. Simply handing mon... ... middle of paper ... ... What should not happen is having children to save a relationship.
The Effects of Divorce on Children Throughout time, people from all over the world have chosen to live together, or “get married”. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but there are some couples who are unable to maintain their relationships, because they choose divorce as a solution to cope with the problems between husband and wife. For a child, it is very difficult to live only with one of his or her parents. Children often cannot adjust well during the divorce of parents because the change can be devastating for them. Although divorce can be a solution to cope with problems between husbands and wives, it may often still have dangerous effects, especially on children.
Children will always prefer their parents to be together, but they can learn to understand the situation if they are brought up correctly. Although children of divorced parents may develop many emotional problems, they do not have to and can learn to adapt. The majority of children learn to cope to their parents’ divorce, but some will never truly understand why it happened. Some of the best solutions to reduce these effects are communication and spending time between parents and children. Children are just innocent bystanders in a divorce no matter how justified the reason for it, the feelings of a child must be taken into consideration.
However, this is not always the case. There are children of divorce that get through it relatively calmly. However, one must keep in mind that divorce is not always the answer. If there is a marriage that has only minor and easily remedied issues then they should try to reach a compromise. Married couples facing irreconcilable marital problems should not stay together for the sake of the children because they need to take their own welfare into consideration, divorcing may let them function better as a family, and staying together could put the children more at risk for psychological problems.
There are many issues and concerns that divorced parents must think about when children are involved. Divorce affects children in many ways such as emotionally, physically, academically, and socially. Although there may be some advantages to divorce, for example divorce is good if the child is being hurt or abused, by one of the parents. The reality is that divorce is bad for many children because it can make the children depressed, and because they have to choose which parent to stay with. Parents should stay in marriage instead of divorce for the sake of the children.