Parenting Styles
Parent has changed with the years. Spanking a child was okay in the past, but is frowned upon. Some parents believe in talking through situations. “In any society, parenting beliefs are a reflection of that society 's cultural values and traditions” (Hulei, Zevenbergen, & Jacobs, 2006).
Moreover, since the family is the first window of the child, parenting style and its influence on children could greatly affect their understanding, attitude and school achievements. (Kordi & Baharudin, 2010). Furthermore, according to a report on The National Children’s Strategy Research Series, “the profound influence of parenting practices on children’s development has been widely documented and a large body of research literature in the UK, USA and Australia has focused on the links between parenting styles, parental discipline responses, child behaviour and children’s psychological well-being.” (Halpenny, et al., 2010). Dimensions of parent-child relations pertaining to the parenting styles, and the quality of a parent and a child have been found to have substantial implications for children’s emotional and personality development. (Goldstein and Weiner,
Growing up, two group of people, parents, and grandparents, took the time and the energy to raise me. Both of them had different approaches when raising me. These approaches were different parenting styles. According to Baumrind, parenting style was the “[capturing] normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children” (Darling, 1999). To put it simply, parenting style goal was to lecture, influence, and discipline a child. In general, there are four parenting styles with their own specific benefits and disadvantages. Furthermore, parenting style, granted the dynamic of the family was understood, can be identified in families.
An interesting topic to discuss in today's world is the various parenting styles and the potential outcomes of children that grow up in this environment. According to Types of Parenting Styles and How to Identify Yours by Bianca Mgbemere and Rachel Telles (2013), it states the four major recognized parenting styles in today's society. These include: authoritarian, neglectful, permissive, and authoritative. In all four of these parenting styles, parents learn the different behavioral effects of the child both negatively and positively. How you raise and discipline your child plays a key role in how they treat others, and eventually, their own kids.
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and strengths. All parents incorporate love and limit in their style of parenting. There are four different types of parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, democratic, and uninvolved parents.
Diana Baumrind’s Three Common Parenting Styles
During Diana Baumrind’s research as a developmental psychologist, she concluded that parents fall under three different styles of parenting: Authoritarian, Permissive, and Authoritative. Baumrind’s styles were based on how one disciplines and nurtures their child (Cherry, n.d., p. 1). Authoritarian parents make discipline the highest priority when raising their children. They do not see any grey area about discipline (Belsky, 2013, p. 205). Rules, and enforcement of rules, are never left up to discussion.
No one teaches us how to be parents. As parents raise their children they hope to raise them to be good members of society. A child’s upbringing is reflected as they interact with other children and other people. When they come to act inappropriately or in a way society doesn’t see as normal, the person to blame is the parent. As a parent, today and always, they need to raise their child to meet the societal norms and at the same teach them to be good citizens. The parenting a person receives will be reflected when they form their own family. The belief is then formed to be to raise a better family than the one raised in. The different parenting styles and the factors have to be taken into consideration such as time, the environment, and the social and psychological aspects as well. The belief is to be a loving and tolerating parent but there is no perfect way to parent because each child has their own needs.
Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist, was the first psychologist to identify parenting styles in 1967. The three parenting styles are authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. At one time, these three were the only parenting styles but later on, uninvolved parenting was added to the list of parenting styles. The four parenting styles are described on how much love, rules and the child’s behavior. Looking back to my childhood, I can see how all the parents showed the different parenting styles, including my parents.
Parenting children is probably the most important, difficult, and thankless job in existence. I should know, I am the father of two girls; one is 27 years old and the other is 25, and now a grandfather as well. I have heard many people say things like: “I raise my kids the way I my parents raised me” (while complaining about the things that their parents’ did), “I am doing the best that I can” (then learn to do better), and “children should be seen and not heard” (This was my father’s favorite). Nobody seems to know the perfect way to raise children; is there a perfect way?